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I find myself walking a slippery slope. I am making excuses for myself to eat junk that I know that I shouldnt eat.
*"You are always going to be fat" - WRONG, I control my weight, I control what I eat and how much of it.
*"Youve had a bad day, its okay" - WRONG, I can go for a walk, I can eat something good for me, I control my attitude and how I handle the things life throws at me.
*"You have worked hard, you deserve it" - WRONG, I deserve a new shirt, I deserve to get my nails done, I deserve a night out dancing, I deserve a walk in the park, I do not deserve to eat something that will send me spiraling back into bad habits.
*"You are going to fail, you cannot do this, its too hard" - WRONG, I CAN do this, I AM doing this and its only going to get easier as I get back into good habits.
I am so tired of my addiction trying to tell me how to live my life. I am struggling right now, I am struggling because I allowed myself to be lenient on Easter. I ate candy and I shouldnt have. I knew that I cannot control myself, I cannot just have one. I knew that my body would want more and that I wasnt strong enough to tell it no. I knew these things, and I chose to eat the candy anyway. I chose to let my guard down and I am paying for it now. I am fighting cravings again that I already fought, I am fighting demons that I thought I had killed. I hate it. I hate the constant want, the always thinking I am not satisfied. Attitude is a huge part, and lately I have felt like I am failing. I keep saying "I am going to start walking today!" and then I get lazy. I need to get back up, get kicked in the butt, and get going. I dont know what I need right now, but whatever it is, I hope I find it soon!!!
Diet Calendar Entries for 04 April 2018:
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817 kcal
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Fat: 48.05g | Prot: 67.28g | Carb: 15.09g.
Breakfast: Land O'Lakes Salted Butter, Regular Coffee. Lunch: Popeyes Chicken & Biscuits Blackened Tenders, Land O'Lakes Salted Butter, Popeyes Chicken & Biscuits Green Beans. Dinner: Hunt's Manwich Heat & Serve Original Sloppy Joe Sauce with Fully Cooked Ground Beef, Frigo Cheese Heads 100% Natural Light String Cheese. more...
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6119 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Walking (slow) - 2/mph - 1 hour, Resting - 7 hours, Sleeping - 7 hours and 30 minutes, Driving - 30 minutes, Desk Work - 8 hours. more...
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you can do it. you can make it happen. it is a big step to recognize the excuses. be proud of yourself for that, its not easy to call out our excuses for what that are. thank you for sharing and inspiring.
04 Apr 18 by member: JLente
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You have people who love you who really deserve for you to take good care of you. Hang in there - you can do it! My motto is "Every day is a new day"
04 Apr 18 by member: abbadabba
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Good for you for recognizing "the voice". "The voice" is a liar and will tell you anything it can to get you to do what it KNOWS and understands. The fact that you are challenging it and making a new path is terrifying to it. Fight "the voice" with everything you have and eventually it will get quiet. But remember it is always in the background ready to say "see, I knew you couldn't do it" when you slip up. Then it will get brave again and start up again. Just hang tough like you did last time and it will get quiet yet again. Hang in there. I know exactly what you are going through b/c I live it every day too. Tell yourself you are worth it. You want to live a long, productive life free of this monkey on your back. You can do it Klynn!
04 Apr 18 by member: ny_shelly
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I totally understand your fears. Having just one "treat" can be a good thing or a bad thing. In your case it sounds like it's a bad thing. As for walking, even if you walk 10 minutes, its better than nothing. Go 10 minutes in one direction because that means you have to go 10 minutes back. Bam, 20 minutes in! Today is a new day and you just have to be strong and tell that nasty voice it your head to shut up. You've some so far and I know you can do this.
04 Apr 18 by member: mickfan1
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Kaaryn when you joined FS what was your goal? Have you changed that goal? What I explained worked for me when you joined was a "mindset" I had to set my mind on ending high blood pressure and diabetes. Therefore I found to save my own life I had to stay focused. I had to back away from FS every so often to accomplish this. You may have the same difficulties as me with all the pictures of food. Your no different than any of us you can achieve your goals whether here or in life in general.
Don't set yourself up for failure, think positive and stay focused. You don't have to attend functions where you know you'll fail. Protect you it's not about someone else. Preplan I can't emphasize this enough when you preplan make your weekly menu your shopping list do not buy things you cannot have. Dont self sabbotage saying your buying it cause hubby likes then find it and eat it no let him buy and hide what he wants. I told you the story of hearing a car pull in the yard one evening when I looked out it was Dominos and George had ordered a pizza. Ask George how he liked it Kaaryn he'll tell you how I locked the door while he ate it outside! Take care of you! It's a matter of your life! Sorry for the tough love but I am your FS Mom afterall❤️
04 Apr 18 by member: 8Patty
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I'm struggling a bit, too - so THANK YOU for the motivation! That was just what I needed today.
04 Apr 18 by member: Pdaita
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I have found I need to set Action Oriented goals, Actions I can control directly. Ex. 1. Eat less than 20 carbs a day 6 of 7 days. 2. all food and snacks keto friendly 7/7 days. (so if I do go over it is at least not like eating candy, bread, ect.) These are examples of the ones I used when I started. They have evolved. The plan is, if I follow these action oriented goals that I can control, the weight will also gradually "melt" away. But the scale is not my friend and I can not control it, so rather than set myself up for feeling like a failure I have changed to focusing on my weekly Action Oriented Goals. Now don't get me wrong I do have weight goals but they are not my main focus. I have broken them up into bite size portions, like 25 lbs currently. When I hit one I do something special for myself (non food oriented). I just broke my 225 mark last week, this past weekend I bought myself like $35 worth of plants I had REALLY been wanting. For my next one it will be a "biggy" less than 200 - "One-derland" - I may do something a little bigger like a couple of new bras at VS. I know myself, I cannot have little cheats it will lead to a week of cheats. You know your body and how you function. Every day is a new day. One day at a time. You have got this. It may not happen as fast as we would like but it is happening.
04 Apr 18 by member: Angel894
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#Keto #atkins #paleo #LCHF #GetPurple - Keto won't leave you hungry
04 Apr 18 by member: jasonmiller1
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I am so sorry to hear you are struggling. Keep your goal in sight! Don't give up, please. Leave Easter where it is, in the past. Start right now and believe in yourself because you can do this!
04 Apr 18 by member: Peasy3
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Did this Challenge start this morning?
04 Apr 18 by member: PASHLEY69
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@Patty, thank you! Sometimes I need to be kicked into gear and told NO! I appreciate!! You have been and continue to be a huge cheerleader for me!! You inspire and motivate me to keep pushing forward!! Thank you FS Mom, I couldnt do this without you!! (And the image of being locked out of the house to eat his pizza makes me giggle) @JasonMiller, I am doing Keto, but I cheated a bit on Easter and its haunting me for some reason. I am frustrated. Thank you everyone, I am glad that I have a place where I can come and say "I am scared, I am worried" and feel the love and support, and even the kicks in the butt when I say that I cant do it. I love and appreciate all of you!!!
04 Apr 18 by member: Klynn82
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I believe that I can safely say that nearly everyone here has gone through or is going through what's happening to you right now. I'm so glad that you reached out for help. When I am feeling calm and happy I don't overeat. The urge hits me when I am anxious, depressed, bored or just over it. Would you be able to address the things that bother you, like having to give your ingrate of a sis in law a ride to work everyday? If that isn't possible at this time then try to always remember, that every morning you wake up with a new chance to make other choices, that if you are still breathing you have the opportunity to start again (never too late), and please, please, please don't ever sell yourself short. You have accomplished so much already, more than some of us ever will. Don't give up on you because in the end you are all you've got. ❤️
04 Apr 18 by member: teskandar
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Whatever you do do not give up. Yesterday is in the past. this is a new day. Just start. When I started in January I made my mind up that once i detoxed from the sugars out of my body that i would not put them back in because i didn't want the cravings back. It was hard at first but once they came out of my system i dont crave it anymore. So when these hoildays come up I'm so ready. Be encouraged and stay focused. We all have slipped a time or two.
04 Apr 18 by member: eatolive4life
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It's not you, it's your brain. I read The Hungry Brain by Stephan Guyenet and it helped me so much. He goes through this overview of scientific studies on obesity and hunger. Using the results of those scientific studies helped me trick my brain into turning off the cravings. Understanding that my brain is doing exactly what it is supposed to do when it craves Easter candy changed my perspective on weight loss from beating myself up about it to figuring out what turns off my hungry brain. I know you can turn off your hungry brain too. You just need to figure out what works for you. Just as an FYI, exercise is not great for MY hungry brain. The quickest way for me to work up an appetite is exercise. Best of luck to you. You can do it!
04 Apr 18 by member: Officially39
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Thank you for sharing This is ME!!!!
04 Apr 18 by member: 3Nancy3
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I have found Dr. Lisle’s lectures so helpful in understanding and overcoming this issue. The starting point here is: nothing is wrong with your body or mind!This is an environmental situation that you can understand and overcome. Here is a good recap.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/balancedgrettie.com/2012/01/09/doug-lisle-pleasure-trap-lose-weight/amp/
04 Apr 18 by member: bigliza
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IMO food addiction is the most wicked addiction of all. With other addictions, you can engage total abstinence to cope. That's impossible with food addiction because we have to eat every day. So this addiction requires an effective, albeit Herculean, management technique, not an abstinence technique. And not only are the temptations all around us every single day, but the media is constantly pushing us towards obesity, because obesity is big business. And it's legal. The object of our addiction is legal for every age in every part of the world. It's impossible to escape it. Just one example: I cancelled my FIOS TV package and only watch HULU and Amazon Prime commercial free shows and movies. I had to get some work done on my windshield at Safelite. I was only there TWENTY MINUTES, and they had a TV on in the waiting room. I literally felt assaulted by all the commercials for Golden Corral and Outback and McDonald's and....you know the drill. I actually had to walk outside to get away from it. I'd only been commercial free for about 4 months, but MAN...it was so obvious that it was an all out blitz to condition our minds. All I can suggest is that you keep coming here, learn more and more tips on how to work through this, and be forgiving with yourself.
04 Apr 18 by member: sam1955
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One thing that I found that helps me are "transition" type foods, like Pure Protein bars. My sister, who's in Weight Watchers, turned me onto them. In truth, they're kind of like glorified candy bars, but they're better than the pure junk candy I used to eat. I keep them in the cabinet, and I know they're there, and sometimes I have one, or even two, throughout the day, to kind of fill in the gap between my current plan of eating and my former plan of eating. One step up from the Pure Protein bars are Dale's protein bars. They are very expensive, but throughout the year they go on sale for BOGO free (or 40% off). A box of 12 regularly costs $39.99, which I refuse to pay. But 12 for $20 isn't that bad considering they have no preservatives, they are guilt free high protein low carb low sodium "snacks", and one or two of the flavors rock (Vanilla Cashew, Blueberry Macadamia). Just something to think about.
04 Apr 18 by member: sam1955
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The psychological aspect is as important as what you eat. Self-talk helps, having a place to hold yourself accountable really helped me stay on track.
04 Apr 18 by member: @philrmcknight
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Here is your official BUTT KICK! (With love, of course)
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