AdaOke's Journal, 24 November 2019

I don't know your current situation but marriage can be hard work sometimes. Good luck to you! 💗 

Hubby and I have counseled many. Pease private message me if you need to talk to someone. Here for you 💕 

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I am so sorry. Been there! Please seek counseling. Even if it's just for you. It really helps! I do. No shame. 

I am so sorry Ada🥺 like DP stated and I’m sure you know, it’s can be hard work. Remember, there is stress that comes along with a move and new house. If you’re both willing, you can survive whatever it is💜💚❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 

Oh, honey, I'm sorry. Marriage is certain not always easy, but you always deserve to be treated well. Also, private message me if ever I could help too. ❤️ 

Change it up...together or just for you. Be honest and truthful to yourself and your mate.....decide how to go from there. Be positive .... 

Thank you guys 💓. I really appreciate your support. If I need to air out my feelings, I will message wifey & melissa. Im considering getting counseling for myself...even if just to have someone to talk to...because I do feel alone..a lot.. 

Ada, so sorry to hear this news. You are such a beautiful woman with a new home and fantastic son. You deserve to be happy. Sending you my prayers 🙏❣️ 

Well I am here if you just need someone to listen....sometimes it helps  

That is so hard when you find something that was once so precious to you begin to crumble. I hope you can resolve this in a way that will give you peace. 

AdaOke, it's hard to say I know how you feel because only who lives it knows it. Marriage is quite a rollercoaster mama... Leaving or staying is your decision so I'll tell you something to make you reflect about it: it is your right to walk away from absolutely anyone that doesn't allow you to be your best cause your self-love comes above anything.. Hope things get better! 

Thank you everyone. I never really expected this app would have this type of impact on my life but Im very appreciative of your support 💓 

Ada❤️❤️❤️ Me either in the beginning, but I just lay it out there, figured it has everything to do with weight and mentally being sound. There is actually legit support and love here. My heart is with you and your family girlie 💜💚 

Thanks jc💓 

Hi AdaOke, Please know this, you are a precious metal. At times you may feel a little rusty due to the circumstances around you but there is a luster that shines so bright within you. At times you may feel a little weak and bend but you are too strong to break because you ARE a precious metal! Hang in there. Pray. I have been for 26 years. There was a time when the big "D" was considered. I can truly say that I have never knew that I could love my husband as much as I do now. There are so many phases of love. I have told friends that there is 200% commitment in a marriage. You each have to contribute 100%. HOWEVER, there are times when one of you can only give 50% and that's when the other must put in 150% There are times when one takes 75% and the other must give 125% This by no means allow yourself to be abused or neglected, but it does mean that there will be times when you have to draw on what brought the two of you together to get through difficult times. There are times when we focus on ALL the little things that turn into big things and there are times when we need sit down and talk through the big things. A counselor once advised us to hold hands, or at least rest your hand on one another, during the discussion because you will find it difficult to get too angry with one another when touching. I didn't believe it at first and it turned out to be true! If I were to guess, I bet you've been married or together for about 9 -10 years. Around this time, we measure our relationship around what used to be, what we have accomplished in our careers, and we put all of our time and attention into raising our children that in the process. However, we forget about nurturing the relationship, which is STILL young and growing. You must take time to date. The divorce rate is so high because society has led us to believe that it's an option when we get married. People then turn to it as a solution. There is an industry around it! I do not mean to sound all "preachy" or corny. I just wanted to share with you (care for you!) because I know you are in pain and it may seem like you are going through it alone. (Been there!!!) We're here for you!  

Sorry, been married for 26 years. 

So sorry you are going through this, I hope you can work this out, but just know, if you cannot save your marriage, there can be life and joy after a marriage ends. 

I'm sorry, Go to God about the relationship, he can bring you closer together and he can fix ANYTHING! 

Remember to take the advice you would give to your best friend if they were in the same situation. You deserve as much love an compassion that you would give to anyone else.