HCB's Journal, 11 March 2016

Funny you mention that - as soon as I start reading one of those comments I make a mental not of who is posting and try to avoid them from then on. I truly prefer the inspirational and supportive posts - like YOURS! 

I don't really understand the my diet is better than your diet mentality. The research shows that all diets that restrict calories, whether forced or spontaneous, result in weight loss. We are here for support in our weight loss journey, not to be judged. 

Well said HCB. And thank you! In some cases it seems to come across as proselytizing. I've also seen people's journals turn into debate platforms - two or three posters other than the OP snarking wildly at each other. That bothers me as well. If you want to debate a topic, start a forum post and have at it there.  

Diablo360X is a bully - so I am going to delete his comment from my journal now. He THINKS I am writing about HIM because it appears everything is about him. If he does not like what I wrote here, he can stay away from my journals; and if he persists I will report him as abusive. 

Everyone's body is different and everyone diet's differently. We're here to support one another not bash & bully one another...I got your back HCB ;)  

cant stand bullies and no it alls.. get a life LOL  

Depends a bit on what the chosen nutrition plan actually is. If somebody said "I'm vegan and I also avoid B12-fortified foods and don't take B12 supplements", then I'd feel compelled to comment. On the other hand, commenting to denigrate reasonable chosen nutrition plans is just odd to me. Doesn't everybody know that there is no One True Weight Loss Diet? Maybe not... 

No one really receives advice unless they ask for it. Bullies define themselves pretty quickly and easily 

I must be really dense or oblivious because I don't seem to be exposed to the negativity being discussed very often. I have found that some devotees of certain diet plans tend to be very aggressive about them and also very defensive in any discussion of their plan's merits -- but mostly everyone has been really nice to me and I try not to be too obnoxious... I'm a bit more forward in private messages than in posts -- every so often I see something that makes me feel compelled to comment privately to someone... HCB -- tell me if I'm ever out of line,OK? 

LOL @ Hermione's Mom - So NOT you! Discussion is fine, right? The latest bully also just wrote about me in his journal calling me a "senior"...whatever, Dude. You had to click "support" for your own journal because people disagree with you. This is MY journal and I can have my OWN opinions. 

Thanks HCB -- sometimes people in my non-digital world think I'm too opinionated, so I need a reality check from time to time. I'm perfectly willing to be called a senior if it means I get into the movies for less. 

I totally agree ! I recently unfriended a certain someone for being a my way or the highway know it all attitude. What works for me may not work for you. I'm doing atkins low carb and it's working for me. I support everyone's weight loss journey.  

Kinda like political and religious beliefs....people attacking others just because they have differing views and follow a different path. We all have to find our OWN way...Tolerance & acceptance, what so many are lacking.  

I'm not going to criticize, people have a right to their opinion don't they? I will offer advice if I think it will be of help. I like to give my buddies positive reinforcement.  

Nihjtwillow416 - you are so right about Tolerance and acceptance. Some may imagine I am intolerant because I complained - but I do not complain about the content of the "bullies" - it is HOW they do it that bothers me. They think they are "discussing" when they are in fact telling others they are just plain wrong because they disagree with them - that is not compromise. 

Very unfortunate, nothing gained when we aren't able to civilly discourse/debate different points of view that lead essentially to the same end result...an old saying "more than one way to skin a cat" comes to mind as well as many others. 

I understand what you mean. I think people should support people in the journey of weight loss. 

Yes ,yes yes!It really puts me off when people do that.You can put your ideas and knowledge across in a civil way,not shoot the other person down and even get personal about the amount of weight they have lost or not lostCall that person out even if it is your buddy doing the bullying this particular time. 

I think if you don't like someone's comment on your own journal, then delete it. Thankfully there aren't too many bullies on here! 

You will always find people trying to force their views (and negativity) onto others. Unless I haven't seen it but, is there a function to ban or block people to prevent them from commenting? Blocking pains in the *rse would be easy and save time and aggravation on both sides.