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2nd post for today, annoying I know but i have to get something off my chest. I went to pick up my mom at work and we went in to buy some stuff (she works at Walmart) and I walk up to my mom and her friend/coworker and my mom goes " Do it, show her" and I'm like" show her what?" and my goes " show her how much weight you lost" and she expected me to lift up my arms and twirl around or something .. and the friend obvi looked annoyed as my mom prodded and nudged my son and myself and then she went on to ask us both how much we lost. Welp, I know my mom only meant well and is/was proud of us but it was awkward as heck to be displayed like that.So when we left I asked my mom why she did that and she says that the friend has seen my pics on facebook and she was running her mouth saying i prolly hadn't really lost that much bc pics make you look smaller.. well that made it even more weird.. and all this parading around was on the exact day I just told DH I was bloated and feeling fat bc TOM was here.. Anyway, I don't know if I should be mad at mom. She said her friend was trying to lose weight and yada yada,, but that doesn't make it ok to just ask me to tell a total stranger how much weight I lost. My journey is my own, and its been a long and hard one and I feel like my mom just disrespected me and violated some personal space. I know if I tell her she will brush it off and say she was just showing off but I'm a person, with feelings and i don't want to be displayed like a circus freak, bc that's how she made me feel. This may be nothing at all or female hormonal rage but it pissed me off beyond belief. Some days I feel great and my post always reflect the positive side of things but this afternoon I wasn't feeling my best and this made it worse. You lost a lot of weight though, some of you might say and yes that's true but I'm still obese and have along way to go and that's exactly how I was feeling today.. I be over it tomorrow but I just need to vent and get it off my chest so I wont carry it with me anymore.. I just wish my mother had more of a filter and less of a big mouth today... Peace out..
Diet Calendar Entries for 24 September 2015:
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1425 kcal
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Fat: 90.41g | Prot: 96.65g | Carb: 63.95g.
Breakfast: Walden Farms Calorie Free Pancake Syrup, Sugar in the Raw Stevia in The Raw (Packet), Albertsons Heavy Whipping Cream, Coffee, Bacon, Bob's Red Mill Organic 100% Whole Ground Golden Flaxseed Meal, Brummel & Brown Spread made with Yogurt, Egg. Lunch: Crystal Light Crystal Light on the Go Sugar Free Packets, Olive Oil, Lemon Juice, Onions, Bell Peppers, Cucumber (with Peel), Mixed Salad Greens, StarKist Foods Chunk Light Tuna in Water (Pouch). Dinner: Borden Shredded Cheddar Cheese, Cooked Spinach (from Fresh), Black Beans (Canned), Meijer Naturewell All Natural Top Sirloin Steak Boneless. Snacks/Other: Hunt's Sugar Free Cherry Jello Snack Pack, Breyers Oreo Cookies & Cream Ice Cream, Roasted Salted Cashew Nuts, Cucumber (with Peel), Sargento Munster Cheese, Bacon (Cured, Pan-Fried, Cooked). more...
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3387 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Shopping - 50 minutes, Circuit Training - 1 hour and 20 minutes, Elliptical - 5 minutes, Yard Work (gardening) - 20 minutes, Walking (moderate) - 3/mph - 50 minutes, Housework - 1 hour, Desk Work - 8 hours, Sleeping - 8 hours, Resting - 3 hours and 35 minutes. more...
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its amazing how this is a topic that everyone feels free to talk about or comment on! I guess just be thankful that your mother is proud of you! keep your chin up and keep going!!!
24 Sep 15 by member: krystynecar
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I am sorry you went through that and the associated feelings. I agree, she may have meant well and was proud of you - but she could have done it in a much nicer way.
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Your Mom sounds like my Mom was! No matter how old you are, you are still her little girl, and still deep down in her heart, she sees you as a sort of extension of herself. I don't think you can really change that. My brother ended up falling out with my Mom over issues like that, and I basically moved away, I think partly to assert my own identity. She is obviously very proud of you. And let's face it, even on a day when you feel bloated, you can still fit into those smaller jeans! If you try and explain to her how you feel, she will understand it in her head no doubt, but that's not to say it won't happen again!
25 Sep 15 by member: heidij123
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Yeah I would have been upset being put on the spot and asked to deal with that with someone I knew not. It would have set me to walking away and saying nothing to my mother in not wanting a fight. Proud or not she should think of your feelings as well. Losing the weight is not exactly a daily brag thing for me. If people notice it is one thing but to be made to feel like a sideshow is another. *hugs*
25 Sep 15 by member: Pterath
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Thanks for venting and in the end she is still your mom and will probably do something similar again. Just know you are a beautiful strong amazing woman and can shake it off or vent anytime you d like
25 Sep 15 by member: Rockiesfan
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Oh darlin', sorry to hear that you are down. It's hard when the folks we love seem to ride roughshod over us. (((((hugs))))). Glad we can be here for you; we are all in your corner.
25 Sep 15 by member: kclab
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THANKS EVERYONE ... I'm over it.. Ill talk to mom and tell her in a nice way it embarrasses me when she does that or something. I know she meant well and prolly doesn't even realize how annoyed I was... Today is a new day and life is too short and ill miss these embarrassing moments when she is gone so Imma suck it up and be a good daughter...
25 Sep 15 by member: redgirl1974
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Your Mom is proud of you and your accomplishment ,, and the Friend sounds like she has been kind of bullying your Mom about the topic of your weight loss unfortunately,, so Mom just wanted to prove herself . I know you will let it pass but don't be to hard on her ,, she loves you and she is proud of you and your Son . Moms do silly things sometimes when it comes to our Kids ,, I think I have said this before but just be thankful you are fortunate to have a relationship with your Mom ,, savor it . It can go away at any moment and you will miss her . And it works both ways,, speaking form experience unfortunately . Peace Out Chica !! :-)
25 Sep 15 by member: Tamarah Jo
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