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I"ve been away from this site and most of the computer when I come home from work. This time of year is difficult for me. It is the first year without my mom, she was my best friend after years of turmoil and at times she was also like a child, with her Alzheimer's. And then also my dad passed in April 2013, he had Parkinsons. I was their primary caregiver for many years and now I am alone. My 15 year old pup passed a week before my mom (April 2016) and my sons 18 year old cat. I do have 2 cats but still I feel part of me is gone. I haven't been good with my food plan and other things. I have a boyfriend, but I think I'm pushing him away. I just don't know what to do sometimes. I go to church and still do the caregivers support group I started just before mom passed. I really thought about dropping that, but there are a couple people that kind of rely on my to keep it going. My kids are away, I'm broke and can't really go see them (one is out of the country) so another downer. I'm not asking for anyone to reply with positiviity, I guess I just need to regroup and figure what I need to do for me. I'm just very tired.
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Hi J - We all go through these things in our life. I know it feels like the whole world is crumbling around you right now but you will survive. I never had all the animal friends like you but I had lost my mother and father, gone through a bad divorce ( I haven't heard of too many good ones, but this was a 30 year marriage with my high school sweetheart so it was particularly painful to me) then lost my father-in-law, who I was as close to as my own father, even through the divorce, had 2 major surgeries on my back, and to top this all off, lost my executive career job (6 figure income) due to corporate downsizing. Of course, the courts are notoriously slow at changing orders of support so that along with the medical expenses ate up the saving I had.
What do we do? Pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and move on. No one promised us this life was going to be fun or easy but we just have to make the best of the hand we are dealt - right?
26 Nov 16 by member: skydiverjim
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You are not alone JMA312 and Skydiverjim, I am here for you :)
26 Nov 16 by member: Sugar Waffle
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thank you Sky & Sugar you comments & support means alot to me. Take care & Hugs to you.
26 Nov 16 by member: JMA312
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You are never alone as you are part of the Fatsecret family!
26 Nov 16 by member: SjF60
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Bless you my dear... yes... this too will pass... you need to get busy doing something you like to do........keep that mind busy... and hands..... it really does help...
but like they said we are here for you.... sending Air Hugs
26 Nov 16 by member: SJWNana
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Sounds like you need to focus on what YOU want. You've been stretched thin with taking care of others and staying in a group out of a sense of obligation. Maybe it's time to stop the obligations and focus on some fun for you! Take a class. Find ways to save a little from your budget and start an account for "travel". Focus on the love of your two cats you have with you. Maybe some friends who aren't involved with continued grief would help. A hobby group? Get out for walks to increase your good hormones for feeling better. ??? Sounds like you're prime for a life shake-up! Good for you being here! What we absolutely CAN control is what we nourish our bodies with! You are supported!
27 Nov 16 by member: luvinlife09
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I hope you had a good day and church services picked you up. I always find that getting out and moving forward helps me. The Lord healed my broken heart when I experienced loss of my mother and brother. Nothing like"looking up" for support and encouragement. He never fails me. Keep your mind on positive thoughts. I know that others have been where you are and found that time will help you to feel better, as it did me. We encourage you and will pray for you.
27 Nov 16 by member: DJ Beecher
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JMA, my mom passed this August. I was her caregiver for a very short time; just 3 weeks. I see how after the intense, 24/7 devotion to care-giving that you would feel spent and empty. Care-giving really takes over one's life, doesn't it. I am wishing you the best in your journey, and I hope that sharing with us, and getting our responses back helps you come back into your life, as you want to live it. With warm regards, Karen
27 Nov 16 by member: BlueMorpho12
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Prayers sent out in your direction...
27 Nov 16 by member: 2227Gwen
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