redgirl1974's Journal, 16 May 2016

From your sister right?  

Yes, she is bi polar and not seeking treatment ...sad  

and embarrassing at the same time..  

maybe she was going to apologize? 

Ohhhh, that explains things, kind of. That's so sad, Andee. You can permanently lose the weight, but she'll always be bipolar, and how effective treatment will be, even if followed, can be variable. I'm sorry for this family tragedy on all counts. Very painful for you. All you can do is insulate yourself. {{hugs}} 

nope. she left nasty messages and said nasty things about my son. I can tolerate being made fun of and called names and put up with fat insults but why on earth would you need to pick on a 18 yr old boy is beyond me.. I wont even dignify what she said by repeating it.  

Its hurtful KP, and my 1st reaction was to shut down and pig out and skip the gym which makes it even worst.. but Im not gonna. just gonna push thru it. Sticks and stones ..  

Glad you came here instead! Have fun at the gym! Get those hurt and angry feelings out physically! 

Family can be the worst, but for the worst of them there are usually other members of the family that are the absolute best, concentrate on those, and for the other ones, give it back better than you get it and they'll stop eventually.  

Thanks Phil.I feel sorry for her.. and wish she would get some help.. its sad that its come this but i also am not going to allow any one to fat shame me, no matter what her circumstances are..  

I'm sorry your sister has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I pray she gets the help she needs. In the mean time you cannot take anything she says to heart. You do not need to put up with it either. Your choice of cutting her out of your life seems reasonable. Maybe she can come to a realization that she must get help and continue the help for the rest of her life, before everyone leaves her. Hang in there, this is tough. It's going to get tougher I am sure but you have to do you. Good job not letting her disorder control you.  

No matter what anyone says...you are doing all the right things for YOU. Health is Wealth and it's sad when someone makes nasty comments on another person's journey. However, as they are battling their own issues, do not let it bring you down. Your focus is on your health and weight loss journey and no one else's. Try to ignore those type of comments and gain strength on the support of so many others who are behind you. Cheers, Maureen 

thanks Misty and Maureen. Very encouraging comments.. and its exactly what I need.. thank you every one for your support..  

Mental illness sucks, that's for sure! But you are doing the right (gracious) thing by just ignoring her, cutting off her ability to continue hurting you, and just focussing on all the positive progress you have made, and will continue to make. So proud of you, Redgirl. Keep working your program, hopefully she will find someone else to torment when she realizes you won't respond or react to her mean ways. 

That's a nasty situation; you totally did the right thing changing your number and protecting your son. And maybe she'll start to get the message that she needs to get help. (I take it she knows she's bipolar.) It sounds like she is reaching a crisis point. Take care of yourself and your family! 

You're totally in the right Red!...great work being the bigger person. Someone devoting this much time to try and torment you clearly has problems they cant cope with themselves, and bigger than anything you've got going on. Keep doing you! No room for negativity in our lives--out the door. Keep it up! 

One thing I have learned. When a bi polar person is mad at you, they lash out with anything and everything they can think of to hurt you. Being bi polar is not her fault, but not seeking treatment for it is. Bi polar people spend most of their lives apologizing. You may not believe me, but it's true. She can't control her outbursts and she also knows she's gone too far. Just remember it is her illness. you don't have to forgive her or forget her behavior, but realize that she is in denial and won't get better until she seeks help. 

You are absolutely doing the right thing by setting boundaries. Often hard to do, especially with someone about whom you care, but its the only way to take care of yourself and your family. It sounds like sis may be at or near a crisis point...  

SO I took all the negative energy and worked out at the gym like never before. I got in a great cardio work out and got in 10k in steps then lifted back and biceps and I feel so good. I did not meet my goal of not eating after 8 pm bc I had to pick up kid from work and run errands but when I got him DH and made fried pork chops and cauliflower mashed "potatoes" and I at like a a beast and stayed under my 20 net carbs which is making me feel stellar. Jonathan Walsh (those of you know him) once said " lions dont concern themselves with the opinion of sheep. Be the lion." Well today I AM THE LION.. take that! #nostoppingme #feelinggreat #nottakingcrapfromanyone #gome 

Rock On, red! I work with bipolar patients often and mania is all about irritability and loss of control. Although she has an illness, there is no need for you to allow her in your life at all. Let go and care for yourself!