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Good morning! I'm adjusting to daylight savings time, kiddo was five minutes early today lol.
All is well here with diet and exercise. I have been focusing on a balanced diet with daily fruit/veg, a good amount of protein, and complex carbs with low sugar. I don't feel deprived, and I don't miss feeling weighed down and lethargic from the delicious goodness of all the junky carbs. I took the pup on a walk Tuesday, but the paths were still covered in a good amount of snow and ice. We got almost two miles in on the cleared roadway. Yesterday I went to the gym for a thirty minute swim in the lap lane of the competition pool, and a twenty minute bike ride at 15mph. I was tuckered! Today is technically my first real day off from intentional exercise this week because I'm home with my sick daughter. Poor thing has a stomach bug. I guess I'll catch up on housework and homework!
Speaking of school, our pharmacology final is just a couple weeks away. I have done extremely well the entire course but some of my friends have not. They asked me if I would do a study group a couple evenings that we don't have class. I agreed and emailed the school counselor to see If we could use the conference room on campus for our study group. Then one of my friends suggested we have it at her house. I told her that school was closer for me, then she said she would buy my gas, that it would be fun she would have snacks and drinks. Ugh, how do I say no without coming off as mean or arrogant? I'm not planning this study group as a social hour, I'm doing it to help other students learn things they may have missed during the course. It's time away from my husband and kids, I just want to go in, study and go home. Honestly I don't need this study group, I'm not doing it for me. I don't want to go to her house to hang out and goof off. On top of that I plan on inviting the majority of the class. I don't think they will all come, but it would be rude to not give them the opportunity. I don't think everyone would be comfortable going to this friends house, nor would she want everyone there. It's a twenty minute drive from here, school is five minutes up the road. Any advice would be great. I have a hard time saying no, I always have. It is my downfall.
Well it looks like I've got my work cut out for me today with all the things I've been putting off in the name of exercise.
I hope everyone has a great day!
Diet Calendar Entries for 12 March 2015:
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1501 kcal
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Fat: 66.05g | Prot: 99.10g | Carb: 128.38g.
Breakfast: Great Value Light Greek Nonfat Yogurt Vanilla, Banana Blueberry Green Smoothie, Coffee-Mate Original Powder Creamer. Lunch: Cooked Asparagus (Fat Added in Cooking), Great Value Sliced Non-Smoked Provolone Cheese, Kraft Miracle Whip Dressing, Great Value Wheat Sandwich Bread, Chicken Dark Meat (Roasting, Cooked, Roasted). Dinner: Beef burrito filling 128g, Great Value Colby Monterey Jack Cheese, Wholly Guacamole 100 Calorie Snack Pack, La Tortilla Factory Smart & Delicious Soft Wraps Made with Extra Virgin Olive Oil. Snacks/Other: Girl Scout Cookies Thin Mint Cookies, Fiber One 90 Calorie Brownies - Chocolate Fudge. more...
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2276 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Resting - 16 hours, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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Morning Yolanda, you could always thank her for her kind offer and tell her it is jet to far for you to go and the school would be more convenient for you.
12 Mar 15 by member: Rockiesfan
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12 Mar 15 by member: ClassicRocker
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Hey, Yolanda. Glad to hear your studies are going well and you're in a position to help others who aren't picking it up as easily. I think the best thing to do, since you are arranging it, is to thank her for her offer but explain that the whole class has been invited and with X number of people, it would be easier to study in a classroom environment rather than at someone's dining table or in their lounge. Snacks and drinks sounds like someone doesn't really want to study to me (I cleaned cupboards and the fridge out last weekend rather than study!) so as glen says, avoid the temptations!
12 Mar 15 by member: Phooka
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Glad all is well with diet and exercise. If they are going to have snacks and drinks, you can just bring your own. If you REALLY don't want to go, no guilt, the 40 minutes driving is valuable YOU time!!! You don't have to just say NO, you can say, hey my time is so limited with work, school, etc, and I'd rather just study at the school because it's closer or at home. Again, don't feel guilty, don't worry about what they think, you are #1 :)
12 Mar 15 by member: Ginsin
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I think the most graceful way of turning it down is by saying you've already contacted the school for a conference room and since they're already working on arrangements that you would feel rude not to use it. If it were me, I'd offer to give her a copy of whatever outline or notes you would normally work off of and she can do her own thing at her house if she wants to.
PS-I think you're really nice to help people study. I never had the patience when I was in school so classes that I thought were easy that most people didn't, like stats and differential diagnosing, I just told people that I studied best on my own. Which, for me, is definitely the truth. But it's also because I didn't want to expend my energy helping people that I was pretty sure just weren't studying in the first place.
12 Mar 15 by member: ReneefromLA
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I would just be honest. If she doesn't understand your situation, a woman with lot's of things on her plate then it's her problem.
12 Mar 15 by member: snezica
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Concur with most of the posters. Simplest and cleanest way to salvage the friendship (hopefully) is to keep your response truthful and honest. This is true: There have been a number of students ask for a study group. The entire class has been invited to study. No one should feel 'excluded' by taking the meeting out of the professional environment to a more friendly one. The school has agreed to schedule a conference room and you shouldn't renege because it casts you in a poor light. The school is a central location for studying and everybody getting back to life. You appreciate her offer for a get-together but that's not the goal this go 'round. AND, if she doesn't understand that...she's probably not a friend you need right now during this very busy stage of life. Seems the reasons for keeping this at the school within a certain time-frame is clear.
12 Mar 15 by member: LuC2
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Good answers, people! Going to your friend's house to study and, as she said, have fun, snacks and drinks, would definitely turn into a party, not really studying. Study in the school's conference room. Even if very few people show up, it is your right to study in a quiet place, not lounge around your friend's place and get very little done.
13 Mar 15 by member: Deb_N
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In my opinion you are on the right track to a long term lifestyle. I like the balanced diet. I recommend a 45%/35%/20% carbohydrate/protein/ fat daily nutritional intake. Along with HIIT fitness programs and cleanse/detox you will burn fat while increasing cardio and energy. Also try to limit carbs to a cup or less 3-4 hours bedtime so your body can burn fat while you sleep. And remember Let's GO-YA!
13 Mar 15 by member: GO-YA
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I agree too, I think you can let her know that you've already contacted the school about getting a room and that everyone is invited and it is a meeting place that everyone already knows. It is nice to hang out, but if the goal is studying then being at someones house with more distractions will lead people to stray off topic and not study. It's great that your classmates are asking for your help! You are doing an awesome job in school. I took two pharmacology classes in college and they were hard and I did well, but I have no idea how. :) You're doing great getting back in your groove. I hope your daughter is feeling better soon.
13 Mar 15 by member: mars2kids
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