Praying for your growth in strength. You are worth fighting for.
17 Jul 18 by member: LZenn
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ahhh..teens (I have one too) someday they will come around and admit to us all the advice we gave them was right on, but not today. you got this darlin!!! keep trying! everyday is a new opportunity to get back on track. 💜
17 Jul 18 by member: KerryKeto
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“Man Child”!😂😂😂 I have 3 teen girls but had a male exchange student we called a man child. Hard to live with an 18 year old with a beard that acts like a 10 year old. Hugs to you!
17 Jul 18 by member: crazy8cottage
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I don't think you needed to tell her that you're a food addict. most places will change the channel if you just ask
17 Jul 18 by member: maddhatter85
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Absolutely! I have a man-child, too. He'll be 21 this month and still lives at home. He's mostly up in his room, so I am not exposed to his eating habits, LOL! However, he comes downstairs in his shorts and I see what a body with something like 6% body fat looks like and realize... I used to look like that. *sigh* He's been very encouraging to me, though, and did all the heavy hauling when it came time to bring my stationary bike in from the car.
17 Jul 18 by member: SoCalPam
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Your son, I assume he is your son, is just that - your son That means he obeys you. They get big for their britches and feel their oats. My kids are now is their 30's. They have to be a bit rebellious and have the "in your face" attitude that young boy - man child's get. Otherwise you will have him living at home at the age of 36!! I recently had to banish ice cream from my freezer. After 3 months of this I will be fine again. I also have a man child living in my home. I have learned to just ignore whatever he is eating as I figure: 1) my health is too important, 2) I don't respect him. When he stops being a man child, I will respect him.
Good luck to you!! I do not post that often and have stopped tracking my food here. I have a different food diary tracker now. Bottom line, put your health at the top of your priority list.
17 Jul 18 by member: Tyaki
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1) It's awesome you've committed to doing this. 2) As you said, he's still relating as a child and putting his needs first, probably because he's used to the parents doing this. Don't buy or cook anything you can't have and he'll have less to eat in front of you. :)
Good luck!
17 Jul 18 by member: nancy9322
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I understand your frustration but asking the “outside world” to change everything for you is not realistic. You have to learn to live in the real world successfully. In your own home— that’s your deal, but I think in doctors offices, beauty shops, etc is not going to work well. Do you eat in restaurants, go to the movies, shop for Groceries— you are faced with this every day, a learning, growing opportunity for you.
And yes— it is hard for families, friends, co-workers to jump on your weight loss band wagon over and over again. The enthusiasm sort of wanes for them after a while. I have always urged people that I have assisted with this journey to not say anything to anyone— just quietly move forward with your plan and eventually they will take notice as ithe weight loss becomes noticible. And I agree with Nancy9322- if you are the one buying groceries, only buy what you can eat.
17 Jul 18 by member: Kenna Morton
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I found that I have to be my own advocate when it comes to my health and my WOE. If I don't take care of me - no one else will. I do have the full support of my wife and certain family and friends. Ultimately it is my responsibility to set, maintain and defend my boundaries. I wish you all the best on your adventure.
17 Jul 18 by member: tahoebrun
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Katiecol— FS food log is a far from perfect tool. If your food doesn’t come up you can add it to the site (labor intensive) or pick a similar item already listed. Recently eaten or frequently eaten items it’s the same— difficult. I use an iPad, but I understand some functions may not be available to people working off a phone. Maybe another member has some suggestions. You also just have to play with it a bit and see if it will meet your needs. Good luck.
17 Jul 18 by member: Kenna Morton
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if you give up process foods, MOST of the addiction phase of your battle will be won. I guarantee it, I've lived it. I still overeat, but it has nothing to do with cravings, but only overindulgences and portion control.
17 Jul 18 by member: NowIunderstand
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Kenna Morton is spot on!! Yes, yes, and yes -- food is something we cannot avoid, it is always going to be around you and you're always going to have to eat it, see it, and smell it whether you want to or not. You are not doing yourself any favors by trying to censor it outside of your house. You have to use those opportunities like the one with the TV in the waiting room as exercises in your attempt to form a healthier relationship with food and strengthen your will power. And yes, people definitely get tired of someone crying wolf all the time and it becomes harder for them to support you. I did the same thing when my friend used to "break up" with her boyfriend every other month; I stopped caring after about the third time.
17 Jul 18 by member: Russian12Mafia
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I also have found the courage to admit to myself and some trusted 'others' of my obsessive compulsive eating/sugar/carb addiction. It was not an easy task but once I mainly admitted it to myself, I was able to feel I can have control over it, somewhat/sometimes But at least I know and don't feel I am different from others with this addiction. I did find a support group with a local Overeaters anonymous. They were very supportive and it was good to hear others that are like me. I haven't been to the meeting for awhile, mainly because they moved and some of the people I related to also stopped going. But I find many supportive people here :-)
17 Jul 18 by member: JMA312
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you go girl you can do it!
17 Jul 18 by member: rdewis
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Lots of people here in your same situation who fought hard and won.
17 Jul 18 by member: Kenna Morton
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They say the first step for an alcoholic is to admit the addiction. Congratulatins on reaching this revolutionary step. It is a great day. Wishing you control and good outlook. Whole food will be good. Sweet and refined foods not.
17 Jul 18 by member: Diddlee
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