ccrai22's Journal, 04 July 2019

I feel your pain about your Dad. Mine passed away 13 years ago and I will always miss him. My Mom has carried on without him all these years and I can only imagine how lonely her life is. Give yourself a hug 🤗. Grief comes in waves it seems, so this too will pass. ❤️ 

Ccrai22– people treat you like they have been taught to treat you. You are allowed to say the word— NO. practice in front of the mirror, it gets easier.  

Ccrai22– people treat you like they have been taught to treat you. You are allowed to say the word— NO. practice in front of the mirror, it gets easier.  

Also— learn to ask for what you want. They hopefully are educable 

Cheer up....think positive....lean on your memories of your dad. .what would he say to you or tell you to do? My dad has been gone for 12 years now....he always told me to get up, dust your boots off and get out there to live life!! You must strive to make your life what you want it to be...what you NEED it to be! Find friends/people/faith who lift you up, not pull you down!!! I'm counting on you to do something for YOURSELF to bring you joy and happiness. I'm praying for that for you. God Bless. 

I'm sorry you are feeling sad and depressed. It comes through loud and clear that you miss your father so very much. The depth of your missing him is a testament to how much you loved him. It's wonderful that you had such a special relationship with him, and it's something you will treasure the rest of your life. You say this depression is not like you. What is different now? Did you eat sweets or heavy carbs that triggered high, then low blood sugar. Did you not sleep well last night, or for more nights than that. Is this an anniversary of losing your dad, or other sad time. Were you particularily taken advantage of? If I were there I would dust you off, but I can't tell you everything will be okay. I can pray for more strength for you to be able to handle your life easier. Dear Lord, please be with ccrai22 and bless this precious member. Please give them favor with those they come into contact with, so they can feel more valuable, and smooth over relationships. Give this FS member strength of body, mind, and spirit, and let them know how special they are in your eyes, and how loved they are. In Jesus name, Amen 

Even though it's been seven years since your Dad's passing, it sounds like counseling might help. First, to deal with your grief, which may still be acute; second, to discuss how to set boundaries AND get support. A faith-filled psychologist once told me: God gave you gifts to share with others. If you give and are ignored or not appreciated or treated badly, you should consider that parable's message: "Do not cast your pearls before swine." Also, don't seek water (support) from a well that you already know is dry."  

I hope you feel better, I lost my father three decades ago and I still miss him like it was yesterday. Maybe you should talk to a professional counselor he or she may have some ideas to help you cheer up and look at the bright side of things. I wish you well. 

I know how hard it is to lose beloved ones. I miss my dad, too, along with Mama and a dear sister. The resurrection hope helps me keep my joy.( John 5:28;11:43. 

I'm so sorry for your father's passing. I lost my dad too, about 3 years ago & I'm still sad. Just remember that there's still a part of him with you in your heart. When it comes to feeling overwhelmed, show yourself some compassion & try to remember that no one is perfect. Just get what you can done & ask for help with the rest if you can. 

There is a cycle to life — we are born and from that moment our earthly clock is ticking. As children we cleve onto our parents for love, security and guidance. It is the parents job to prepare the child to go out into the world as an independent individual capable of existing on their own. We in our turn recreate that cycle. Nothing would upset my final rest more than to know that I somehow did not complete my job as a parent and that my child was stalled in life and unable to carry on without my presence.. My parents have been dead a long time and I still laughingly seek my dad’s guidance, but he left me being perfectly capable of being a fully functioning adult. I too hope you will find the resources to seek counseling.  

So sorry for your loss. It’s difficult to lose a parent. It takes awhile to get through the loss of a loved one. You definitely need a support group or a counselor to talk about your loss. Hang in there. You will get through this difficult time. 

There is always someone ready to listen if you need to talk. Do you feel you need professional help? What city & state are you in? I'm sure we can find someone to talk to you to help sort out things.  

Lost my dad March 2018. I feel for you. 

Losiing a parent makes you feel like an orphan no matter how old you are. I was 60 and still miss my dad 14 years later. You sound not only feeling bad but clinically depressed, please seek medical help about the depression and see a therapist Depression is a medical condition not just a state of mind. God bless.  

We are here for you. And yes, depression is a medical condition; please seek professional help. (((((hugs))))) You are NOT alone. 

Losing someone you love so much, leaves a big hole in your life and brings the reality of death. I didn't lose anyone really close until I was 40, then I think I felt like I was next. I still feel like no matter what I do or want to do, it will be the last thing. I am not depressed, but I just never got that spark of life back. I have lost all my aunts, uncles, mom, dad and 1 brother. Life is not the same without them. I hope you can feel the juice of life soon. You have a lot of years left even though you may not feel it right now. Your dad would be sad to know how you are doing. A lot of therapists say to write a letter to him, read it aloud, then destroy it. It is supposed to comfort you that you tell him how you feel, good, bad, and ugly. Try it. Don't give up, just keep swimming like Dori. 

I'm feeling your pain at the age of 72 with two grown kids & Grands, but spending the 4th alone too. Lost my parents in 1999 and 2010 which also feels like yesterday.mI'be never got my spark for life back because I miss talking and sharing it with my parents. Even though I still have 3 Sisters & a Brother we haven't been close like we use too without my parents being the glue that held us all together during celebrations etc. I'm praying for you and thanks for sharing because you are not alone. Take care. 

that was a very moving post. I am truly sorry for your pain. it may be the drugs from my surgery or maybe it is my daddy issues but reading your post made me cry. not because I miss my father, he was a horrible man but I cried because I missed out on such a beautiful relationship such as the one you had with your father. I am so sorry he is not around for you now but please know how lucky you are to have had that love and support. And I am sure that amazing man is looking down af everything you are going through and wishing he could be there to help. sometimes it's not loosing that person that holds you together that's the hardest its continuing to support yourself in the ways they held you together. I hope that you can find it in yourself to love you the way he did and give yourself the love you need and deserve. we are here for you always but the one person that you can truly control is yourself so dont let yourself down and make your father proud. you got this life sucks sometimes and sadly that's the chance we take living it but with the love your father instilled in you I know you will make it through. I wish you a better day and i hope maybe if you cant find that support externally i hope you can find the support you need internally.  

I'm sorry to hear your pain, but I'm praying to God, to come in and heal all brokenness, and that He fill you with joy and happiness that only He can do in Jesus Christ Name Amen. We're here anytime you need to talk.