redgirl1974's Journal, 28 June 2016

Work is perpetually trouble. It is like walking through a lake of crocodiles. I have said this before, but attitude is always stressed to the max at work, and if there was one thing, that helped me the most, it was congeniality and attitude.  

you sound just like me yesterday. I cant seem to stick strict to my diet to meet my goals lately either. I am working out fine...but I keep having ice cream and chocolate here and there. I am not consistent. And my trainer always says consistency is key to achieving the body I want. So think about being consistent. 

Pani, see Im the exact same. I work out like a pro, miss every once and a while.. its the diet thats killing me.. and Im sure the working out is the only thing keeping me from gaining.. but Im still 40 lbs away from my goal i set 2 yrs ago.. Im burned out, Im sure.. but I just dont know what to do to get where I need to.. Maybe I need to try a new diet but Im so scared to go off low carb.. but Im not even really that low carb if you count all the cheating I do.  

Serotonin and Dopamine. Hot dog buns, chocolate, and ice cream are shortcuts to beneficial neorotransmitters. (Chocolate gives you oxytocin, too.) We need completely non food sources. Google! 

Redgirl, you can always cut your RDI in half that will put you in motion to lose about .5lb a day if you don't cheat. You will plateu at some point then you will have to get some really good cardio in. about 45mins this is what I am doing right now. 4 lbs to go to reach my goal. that will be qa 23lbs loss for me.  

2 years of healthy food mixed with some junk. How will your maintenance plan work if you don't allow for chaos now and again? With that said, night eating is universally problematic. Feeling safe....?? Finally ?? For today...?? 🕊 💐 💖 

But it's not like she planned to eat that hot dog. She was compelled to eat it. It's the loss of control that's concerning, not the calories. Eat the ice cream and chocolate if you want to. Go over your RDI or under if you want to. It's the doing things we don't want that is baffling.  

All very good points.. maybe Im being to hard on myself or unrealistic? I just hate the way I want to run to food when Im having a bad day ...  

It's your neurotransmitters, I'm telling ya. 

and I agree with Lady.. Its totally unplanned..and a loss of control or disregard of it is more accurate. I know what Im doing and I dont care bc work was bad or this happened, and then I feel HORRIBLE afterwards. and gross inside  

Redgirl1974, your body is trying to love you in the best way it knows how. I started googling a ltlle already and came up with exercise (but you already do that, so no) meditation (takes too long - we need instant help) aromatherapy AHA! This is worth trying. I don't know which scents, but draw a bath with the correct essential oils. Also, you can't eat in the tub. There are other things to try, I am sure (like gambling, but take a pass on that one!) 

@Red I am in the same boat as you. I set my goal about 3 years ago. My body is toned under all this fat. I am very strong from this full year of lifting I am doing. All I need is to have the extra fat go away and I will look great. But honestly- if you are working out consistently and you are not losing the weight. Its the diet. We can never out workout a diet. It sucks really. And my body type doesn't shed fat so easily.Iv'e been depressed at points during the past few months thinking that I will never change and Ill be stuck in this version of me that truly isnt ME. I can't seem to get it right. I did a whole 30 perfectly and once I got off the whole 30 I gained my weight back because I didnt have a plan after my whole 30. I just didnt stick with it. I think its a combination of motivation and consistancy. I am working hard on writing down everything I eat in a journal. I highlight the items that are considered "off diet goods" or "cheat foods" and after a full week. I look back at my week and see how many highlighted foods I ate. It gives you a kind of realization that you may be cheating more than you THINK you are. I had this conversation with my boyfriend about eating out and having pizza. He goes "We only eat pizza like once a month..." I am like "No babe...We had it last sunday and 2 sundays before that and then we had chicken parm this monday ...blah blah.." sometimes you dont realize how often you eat certain foods. I am not saying my journal idea will help you but you need to find a way to control the bad foods you eat or else you will stay at maintenance. I am stuck eating at maintenance as well until I clean up my act. =/ Another good point I brought up with my boyfriend is that...as a kid. I only had pizza at birthday parties which were not often. As an adult you are free to do whatever...so we can order pizza EVERYDAY if we wanted to. As a kid...ice cream and cookies were rare occasions... Think of it like that.. Make those items RARE occasions. I never had a weight problem until I left home for college 

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you will get there Redgirl1974 this is a process! I know the feeling but I just continue to work at it. 

Been there, with the work stress and with food cycle. In the food "frustration" right now myself. I know I need to be okay with my emotions rather than stuff them with food for comfort then self-punishment. Down, up, down again....intensity of emotions but not stability. We tend to run from pain, sadness, betrayal. I learned some things from eastern meditation to consider emotions from neutral position, see it as an experience as any other rather than place judgment on it as good or bad....when I do well with this I can examine my emotional reactions, calm and let go. Haven't got it mastered but working on it! Sorry for your nasty experience. 

It's kinda like delayed stress you made it through the day and thought good for me and then the carb monster grabbed you. I fight the ice cream monster and if he's in the house he finds a way to get me. Just hang in there it will all work out. 

Yep, that was me..........google emotional eating. You have to find a way to switch this off. I did this for YEARS and got away with it until I reached my 40's and the weight began piling on. Why not use your journal on FS secret when you are feeling like this? Find a buddy on FS to chat with? It's a maladaptive behavior that you've done for so long, so it will rear its ugly head every so often. If you aren't doing it everyday or several days a week I wouldn't be overly concern about it. Journaling and Pilates help me on those days when I just want to turn to a bag of Lays. You are being TOO hard on yourself. Again, so long as you aren't slipping everyday then no worries. AND, this is NO race. You will get to your goal.  

Red, you were over 300 lbs a year ago... You are in wonderland 🤗👍🏻💃🏻 if it takes a year to lose 40 lbs, it's ok! Go with it! A hot dog and bun isn't the end of your success. I think it's great u can acknowledge it, be honest with yourself and carry on. You are living a new life red!! I don't see u turning back anytime soon. Keep kicking a$$! Flush that hot dog and carry on :-) 

Don't think of where you should be, look at how far you have come. Pretty damn impressive!!! I think I should be where you are :) Such a struggle, and once you get there even harder. I know that Carbage overload, had a really bad weekend and your one hot dog on bun is nothing to the two pints of ice cream....yes, talk about a horrible step back. I didn't even have in the house, actually made a run to the store. UGH! Look forward, we all go thru it.  

you've done great, red, so don't knock that! i've read articles about how we all have a finite amount of willpower, and that sometimes it just runs out. the article likened willpower to a muscle, to strengthen it keep using it. so maybe your willpower just ran out last night. get back on that horse and keep riding, lady!