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Happy Halloween!! I hope everyone has a fun and safe night!
I am feeling a little down today, because being a mom is hard. My daughter has had a plan for weeks with a friend to trick or treat tonight and have a sleepover, but yesterday at school she found out the friend can't come because of some family thing her mom had forgotten about. So, my daughter asked another friend and she was okay'd by her parents to come, but last night the friend texted that she can't come because some family called them up and said they are coming to visit this weekend. Now my daughter is devastated because she was so excited to go with a friend trick or treating and have someone spend the night. She doesn't have many friends and has only had 1 sleepover and I think has only gone to a friends house to stay the night maybe twice. I just don't know what to do for her. It sucks and I can't really do anything. I have told her that I'll take her by herself, but she doesn't want to go by herself. She's 12 so she's at an awkward age where she still wants to go have fun and trick or treat, but she knows she's getting too old for it, that's why she wanted someone her age to go with her. My son already has plans to go with friends, or she could go with him. I just feel bad for her and when your kid is sad and you can't do anything about it, it makes you sad. :(
Well, I'm going to try to help her make the most of it anyway. We're going to my mom's for pizza, and then maybe we'll rent a movie or something, hopefully we can cheer her up.
Have a great Halloween!
Diet Calendar Entries for 31 October 2014:
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707 kcal
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Fat: 13.97g | Prot: 31.79g | Carb: 119.07g.
Breakfast: Silk Light Vanilla Soymilk, Quaker Instant Oatmeal Weight Control - Cinnamon, Coffee-Mate Peppermint Mocha Coffee Creamer, Coffee (Brewed From Grounds, Decaffeinated), Splenda No Calorie Sweetener with Fiber. Lunch: Albertsons Reduced Fat Mexican Cheese Blend, Great Value Saltine Crackers, Vegetarian Chili. Snacks/Other: Cupcake with Icing, Dannon Oikos Fruit on The Bottom Nonfat Greek Yogurt - Black Cherry. more...
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1799 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Desk Work - 8 hours and 30 minutes, Resting - 7 hours and 30 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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I hope you girls have a great time together :-)
31 Oct 14 by member: snezica
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Your journal entry reminds me of when I was a kid. I wasn't a popular child. I was a smart, nerdy girl with glasses and braces, who carried a violin case to school, who was never cool or popular or had many friends. One year, (I think it was when I was in the 8th grade), my parents thought it would be fun to throw me a surprise party for my birthday. It was supposed to be a Halloween costume party, since my birthday is in mid-October. But they unfortunately planned it for the same night of my school's Halloween dance, and even though half the 8th grade was invited, absolutely nobody showed up for my party because they all went to the dance instead. I walked into an empty party and I was humiliated. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do as a parent that will console that part of her that may want to be popular with a ton of friends, etc. But what you can do is let her know how special you think she is and that she is worth spending time with. Don't let her feel sorry for herself or wallow alone tonight but try to find something fun and special for you both to do together. Maybe you BOTH dress up and go roller skating or go to the movies? You could even both wear make-up/masks so no one knows she's out with her mom (because I know how 12-year olds just LOVE being seen in public with their parents!) That's the best advice I can give. Let her know it gets better.
31 Oct 14 by member: Sweeet2th
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Sweeet2th, I appreciate your response so much, you don't even know. I was never popular either, but I did have a few really close friends. My daughter has told me that she just isn't social, and that's fine, but now she is starting to want to be social, not really popular, just have friends and just hasn't made many connections. I'll see if I can find something to keep us busy tonight and hopefully she'll feel better about it. Thank you so much!!
31 Oct 14 by member: mars2kids
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That's so familiar! My daughter's best friend cancelled on her constantly. I just started planning on the cancelation, but my daughter always seemed to be surprised and sad. It's hard. She started college this year, and likes it so much better than high school. I always encouraged her to do kid things as long as possible. I think it's great that your daughter still wants to trick or treat. Maybe something will come up for her tonight, or maybe you will have a great time together.
31 Oct 14 by member: RuthEllen
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I'm glad to know that I'm not alone in this, and neither is my daughter. I tell her that once you're out of school and off to college, or doing whatever you're going to do as an adult the popularity won't matter anymore. I really admire my daughter because she truly does march to the beat of her own drum, but I feel for her when she gets let down like this and has a hard time making and keeping friends. I'm sure that some of it will help make her a stronger woman in the end but that journey is hard.
31 Oct 14 by member: mars2kids
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I was late reading your journal so I hope everything went okay. You're definitely not alone, I have a 12-year-old and also feel her pain when friends let her down. They say it gets better but I think parents are destined to feel it when their children get hurt, it's part of the job description! The main thing is to do your best to help your daughter get through these life situations, and you definitely sound like you did that.
01 Nov 14 by member: Joey109
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