jenng154's Journal, 20 January 2014

You cannot change your mom, but you can stop buying peanut butter cups. So next time she makes you miserable you can only snack on celery. Good luck, dear. Stop beating yourself, tomorrow is another day and you will start over. Try to distance yourself from unhealthy criticism. It is hard to do, but that is what adults do, it was your inner kid that resorted to sweets. 

Aw, sweets, don't hate yourself. You are making an effort. Keep loving yourself, you're the only one who knows how much of it you need. Be well and Be loved. 

Do not be upset about this! What a gift to be aware of what makes you unlove yourself. You know yourself best. You did a great job today and felt great about it. You were even loving yourself which you must do more of. Be good to yourself. It is natural to want your mother to praise your good work. Some are not capable, mostly because they do not love themselves and they project that onto others. I agree with Ingria. Do not keep things in your house that will tempt you when others beat you down. Eventually you will not notice they are not there and you will have reached your goal without them. Keep up the good work because you are worth it!! 

Look up the definition for TOXIC. There are people and YES family who are toxic to people who are trying to get healthy and you may have to admit she may be one. Stay away from anyone who want to derail your hard work and hurt you. I'm not saying forever but you may have to parent yourself with positive thinking and use us as your hugs and we are proud of you. 

What MMN said. I'm getting my own mother out of my life because she doesn't understand counting calories and working hard for things... she is sitting back and saying it's God's will that she's fat. Hang in there. 

Awwww I know exactly how that one feels. My grandma does the same thing to me ALLLLLL the time. In fact she watched my kids on a snow day last week and sent them home with a huge pie ... and then the next day she just randomly stopped over to drop off donuts. Even my kids told her I didn't want a lot of food like that in the house . Her comment to me was " If you really want to lose weight you will just have to learn some discipline , you got fat because you don't have any. " She is always my biggest critic about everything in life no matter how hard I try. Im sorry you had to go thru that with your mom. seems like we always have something to overcome on this journey.  

Thank you all very much for your support and encouragement - it means a lot to me, have done better today. 

I have the exact same problem. My mother is my downfall...constant criticism and advice on what to do and what not to do. I know exactly how you feel. I just don't know how to deal with it.  

I am so sorry! Please try not to let them get the best of you. Moms and I imagine Grandmas sometimes do harm by trying to do good. Because of my mothers fear that I would get fat like her, she would make comments that seriously gave me an eating problem, plus she was a fantastic cook. I was so afraid to gain weight as a child that I barely ate. Now as an adult I seem to gain weight when I look at food, and without A TON of extra exercise I'm doomed to gain. I know my Moms intentions were good, and maybe just maybe yours has some strange reason that she talks to you the way she does. I bet she thinks she is helping you. Regardless I am sure that she loves you and you her. We all have one Mother...If we are lucky, and when they are gone that is it... :( I lost my Mom in 2001 and miss her more than word can say. Maybe you can try to take your moms criticism with a grain of salt, not a bag of candy. Just stop her and tell her you Love her very much but have an appointment and need to go. Then go take those frustrations she's given you out on a good workout. Maybe eventually she will get the message. Hang in there, and good luck. :)