smartin585's Journal, 02 November 2013

You're doing great, and have one of the best attitude's I know. You'll get where you want to be. :) 

Good for you avoiding the sugary shots! Don't get down on no one noticing yet, I'm in the same boat:) 

It took fifty pounds before anyone would say anything to me, and even then lots of people didn't. Nobody wants to be rude. If you weren't trying to lose that weight and they were like 'oh hey you're finally slimming down' you would feel like crap. Of course as hard as we work we want compliments to come flying in, but they don't know that. I don't believe for one second that your weight had anything at all to do with guys not talking to you. Maybe you were feeling a little less confident because of weight? I've seen your pictures, and you are beautiful regardless of what the scale says. I mean that. Lucky me, never having been skinny I eventually got to a 'fuck it' point in my life where I decided I was going to go out and have fun regardless of what I weighed. When my confidence went up I got a lot more attention. When you lose your fear of rejection a whole new world of possibilities opens up. I was actually the initiator in the beginning of my relationship with my husband, which is something I never thought I would be ten years ago. I was always very insecure. Obviously this is just what I've found in my own personal experience, and might not relate to your situation at all but I thought I'd share :-) You are beautiful, don't think for one second that you're not, especially not because of weight or because of how some idiot guys act. Outer beauty is nice, but true beauty shines from the inside out! Have fun tonight, you're doing great! 

Yes, it's different for everyone. Some people might notice after 10 pounds and others it might be 50 pounds. It's weird. You are doing great. They also might have noticed but were afraid to say anything. Many people don't say things for fear of offending someone. So just keep going!!! 

Forget if anyone noticed....forget if any guys paid attention to you...you remembered the right things...avoid excessive alcohol..avoid sugar...and stuck too youre goals...good for you lady! Youll have plenty of time to bask in the glory at the end of youre weight loss journey :)  

Keep doing this for yourself and no one else. That's all that matters. I think we all went through periods where no one noticed. Me, 40lbs and not a word. Then, OMG, you've lost some weight. 60lbs. at the time. Realized I was doing it and looking for approval from others. Changed my attitude and am doing it just for me and I don't care what anyone says. Other then the scale. 

Hey you are doing great....some people are not confortable saying you have lost weight...but you know you have and as for the guys...who needs the superficial ones..you take care of you for you and you will meet the right ones.  

Good for you on curbing the alcohol!! And i'm going to mirror everyone else s comments and say to hell with everyone that hasn't noticed!! I had to lose 50 pounds, and no one said anything unless I mentioned it!! You are a beautiful young lady, INSIDE and out!!! And I agree, those guys weren't worth your time!!! Just looking for the superficial!! Glad you had a good time too!! Chili sounds really good!! I have to go to the store, so I will have to grab some more things so I can make some!! Have a good time!!  

You guys are the greatest...makes me feel so much better to have so many wonderful people who truly understand the constant struggle we go through..self image, control, etc.. Thank you so much for the wonderful comments and the constant support HUUUUGGGGGSSSS