we all struggle from time to time and I am sorry a visit from your father is so hard on you. I don't know what is up with that, but I am sorry it made you feel like hell warmed over and put you in bed with depression.
You have been doing awesome and just getting back being happy and excited about your weight losses. You will start back again and do even better this time. a week of self indulgence is nothing, you got the strength and ability to get this back on track and kick some major butt!
Everyone was wondering where you were yesterday, missing your perky posts. Glad to see you back and I am sure the troopers will soon see you and it will do you good to see how much your friends here care about you.
06 Aug 18 by member: baskington
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So sorry your father has such a negative impact on your life. Congratulations on the eight month mark! Wishing you success in your WOE.♥️
06 Aug 18 by member: Erquiaga
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OMG I SO RELATE - LIKE YOU TOOK THE WORDS RIGHT FROM MY MOUTH. The whole wanting life for a while and then depression hits and you just don't care. Was there for most of my adult life (now 49). Just a share: I finally decided I didn't want to be depressed for the REST of my life. It was really really hard, but I did finally talk to a doctor about it. We tried one med for a while, but the side effects were not good and I gradually went off the med. Tried a different med and it worked really well for me. Once out of depression, I could look at my life differently. Eventually I could more easily see that there really were things I wanted for my life and I did care. I started taking actions in line with what I wanted my life to look like and after a few years I only used the meds as needed. I'm off them completely for 2 years now. And if I feel they would be useful again at any point, I can talk to doc about it again. It made a huge huge difference. And I'm much more clear about what I want, how I want to spend my time, and that I want to live. Won't say I feel it 100% of time. I can still have a sad week -a week is something I can handle. But I'm seeing what is possible and that is a great feeling. Glad you posted and shared. Hope you can see some possibility and set yourself up to win.
06 Aug 18 by member: VAM49
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My therapist recommended a book because of my many trials with my parents. It’s called ‘Toxic Parents’. I’m still reading but it’s given me many insights into how to stop engaging with them negatively and take care of myself. I hope you can see how amazing your progress is and you deserve to be happy and healthy! You just start right back to taking good care of yourself. You define you and you are worth it! 🤗
06 Aug 18 by member: Indigo78
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Congratulations on the 8 months! That is something to be proud of. I’m sorry you’re experiencing family trouble and depression, but you can do this! All of the bumps and challenges serve to teach us how to learn and grow.
06 Aug 18 by member: Laugh at.cabbage
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Indigo thanks for the book recommendation.
06 Aug 18 by member: Laugh at.cabbage
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I do have a bad relationship with my father, well we don't really have one , I have suffered a lot about, but I don't care about him anymore, I didn't lose him, he did lose me.
I am glad you are back 😀
06 Aug 18 by member: keilin-4
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One of the best things I did was go to a counselor and start Wellbutrin. I’ve tried others in the past and eventually I’d stop because it didn’t seem to be working. This one takes the edge off but doesn’t leave me foggy. Have you considered counseling and meds? Once on them a few months I decided I wanted a change. There are still and days but no more bad weeks/months.
06 Aug 18 by member: peeperjj
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Fathers have a big impact on our self esteem. But like I tell my older son, even tho his father hasnt been there for him, he has a great unfailing heavenly Father who won't give up on him. Our earthly fathers may fail us but our heavenly Father is always there. I dont know if you believe, but God loves you so much..and when you feel like there's no hope remember that your heavenly Daddy and all the angels are cheering you on including all of us here..cheering eachother on! We deserve a good healthy life here on earth..Jesus came so we could have a more abundant life.
06 Aug 18 by member: strahberreez
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Sweetie, I am so sorry this was such a negative time for you. Please, look to yourself to fill that void that has been left by your father. He hasn't the ability to be there for you, that is apparent. Letting go of expectations is hard, but key. I, unfortunately did not completely rest and heal until my father died. Don't wait to put yourself first. Give yourself the love, consideration, and respect you so rightly deserve. The answers are there, in your heart, waiting for you to recognize them. ❤
06 Aug 18 by member: Becc@
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Here's what I fcukn know. You're down 50# and 8 months sober. Still. Even after dealing with the sh^tshow that was (apparently) the dad visit. Let that sink in.
50# down. 8 months sober.
In spite of dad...
THAT'S what's up, sister.
Let's go! #stillgrindtime #stayhungry #inspiringAF #mindset
06 Aug 18 by member: jimmiepop
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You have accomplished something great by staying sober! You should be very proud of that. I'm very proud of you and I don't even know you. Today is my 2 years anniversary of being clean and sober so I know how hard it is at times. Even though your visit with your dad you stayed sober. That is something!!!
Tomorrow is a new day. I've battled with my weight for years and I have finally decided that I want to do this for me. I want to be healthy and honestly I want to feel like I look good. You deserve this. You are worthy of this. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Tomorrow is a new day. You can do this. I believe in you.
06 Aug 18 by member: Gigi0430
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Time Babe... let’s let this all sink into the depths while we get back on track right ? Revisit at some future time whenever? Hang in there!
06 Aug 18 by member: 66Pack
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** Huge Massive Hugz ** So glad you came back to us! We missed you! One Day At A Time, we can both stay humble, have acceptance and be grateful. Please be kind to yourself.
07 Aug 18 by member: adefwebserver
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Im so sorry you are struggling right now but jimmiepop is right! You are strong and amazing and can get through this. Hugs to you!
07 Aug 18 by member: momma6224
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🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Lots of hugs
You can do this..
And you have all of us to catch you when you fall 🤗
07 Aug 18 by member: gaelicgal
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Don't even feel like you need to hit it hard for a few days. A lot of times a small breakdown like this is the body's way of asking for a break. Have some of the comfort foods, just in moderation. You don't have to crush it at the gym, even a walk around the neighborhood or to do some local sightseeing. Take the time to evaluate what you can do instead of looking at what you have done. Learn, adapt, move on. You have a great group of people who follow you and support you and will be there no matter what. Good to see ya back. That's the first step.
07 Aug 18 by member: tonyr_d3000
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We're here for you. I have two girls and this thread makes me want to hug them hard when I get home but they will be asleep. Sorry about your troubles. There is no rush on your journey. One day at a time.
07 Aug 18 by member: -Diablo
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Oh Sweetie, you are so loved and so loveable! We know you will pick yourself up and get back on the path to life. If you want to journal but feel you can't find the words, try coloring.It might help. Let your self express the sorrow but keep on moving at the same time. My mother heart goes out to you and I pray for you to be healed from the heart wound your father inflicted. ) I've been there and you can heal if you do the work and give it time.)
07 Aug 18 by member: Gingerk65
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Life is hard at times and people can be cruel and ugly especially the ones we should be able to rely on the most. You can't change what has transpired between yourself and your father, unfortunately. The only thing you can control is yourself, so love who you are despite what other may say, do or even think.
07 Aug 18 by member: Texas Heat
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