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Things are NOT going well. The campaign is actually going very well, but not so much when it comes to my wife and me. We have been arguing for several days. Ask me what we are arguing about, and I will have to tell you I don't know. She is helping me with the campaign, and she is a great help because I can't be everywhere at once, and so are a lot of friends. I can't believe so many people are stepping up to come to me and saying they want to help. But my wife has in her mind what SHE wants to do and refuses to listen. Her latest promotion is to buy a bunch of key chains with my name on them for about $2.00 each. I tried to tell her that can be a little too expensive rather than handing out buttons for $ .50 each. SO she got mad. Then I am trying to explain to her we need to order promotional material from specific local vendors because these are people who have been supporting our campaign. Then she gets mad because she doesn’t understand – one moment I am telling her we need to hold the prices down and the next we need to go with specific vendors. Which is it? Now we aren’t talking at all!
When I try to explain more, she gets even more angry and shuts down. She goes to a meeting, brings homes notes and lays them on my desk – then she runs off again – can I please ask some questions about these? I get “What do you need to know, it is all there?” GRRRRRR..
There is an old joke:
Do you know why men generally die before women?
A. Because women drive them to it
B. Because they want to
C. Because they’ve seen what the courts can do to you in a divorce
D. All of the above
OK thanks for letting me vent – we all have our down days, this is mine. I should be better tomorrow.
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What about a magnet? 😉 sorry about the fights. Good and bad times. You'll work it out. I don't agree with apologizing when you aren't sorry and don't know what you have done and I think happy spouse = happy house is a better way to be but who cares what I think. You'd be better off telling her exactly what you wrote so she knows why you are frustrated. Again, I'm no Dear Abby. Just my thoughts. Good luck!
12 Sep 21 by member: davidsprincess
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Sorry you two are at odds, especially now. 40 years married here too. I agree with Erq, as to your wife feeling left out. If you apologize, make it about how your behavior made her feel and for not realizing it would have a negative effect. You know yourself and you know your wife. You know what to do and how, just need to take some time to work it out, as I'm sure you want your wife along side you, instead of giving you the silent treatment.
12 Sep 21 by member: _bec_ca
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With newer cars using FOBs now, key chains aren't really a thing anymore...just my opinion..stick to buttons.
As for arguing, it's probably the stress of the campaign. Best of luck!!👍👍👍
12 Sep 21 by member: Diana 1234
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I agree with Erq and ajf. I've only been married 6 years but I also have a psych background. Maybe compromise? Half batch keychains, half batch buttons. Also, maybe not apologize per se, but let her know she's appreciated. And yes, let her choose where she feels she will be at most helpful and let her be. I know I hate when I'm trying to help and I have a vision and my husband tells me to do something else. Good luck! She clearly loves you ❤️
12 Sep 21 by member: AdaOke
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Lots of advice to choose from, so I won’t add to it, just wanted to say I hope things get easier soon
12 Sep 21 by member: cindylynnwho
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I’m all about magnets— a much needed item in my house.
12 Sep 21 by member: Kenna Morton
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12 Sep 21 by member: jimmiepop
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Sorry you had a spat. I've been told, it too shall past.
Sorry again for being nosy, I like the keychain, I have lots of uses for them, multiple sets of keys, I would be reminded to vote for someone if I had something that useful. Pins r good for 1 time use, after that they go in a landfill.
Very challenging working with a strong minded partner when there's a disagreement. Your wife must have vision of how to make you successful. She is so very much on your side.
12 Sep 21 by member: ACBellerose
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Happy wife, happy life. Quote from brother-in-law married to strong minded professional woman.
12 Sep 21 by member: ACBellerose
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This is a safe place to vent. I hope that tomorrow will be better ! All the best on your campaign!
12 Sep 21 by member: LISfifty
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LOL, let's take a vote. There r multiple uses for keychains.
I always go with whatever the budget allows and choose multiple options for hubs to pick. He just want the standard stuff never outside the box.
You can fix this, you r in politics right? Have a better night & tomorrow.
12 Sep 21 by member: ACBellerose
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Stop her and ask her to pray with you. Maybe that will help. It seems to work with me and my husband. Especially when I becime just like your wife has been. I am in the same boat. But when my husband stops me and says let's pray about it...I seem to calm down. Give it a try.
12 Sep 21 by member: Kim Seehusen
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I'm with you on buttons. They're wearable and have more visibility than keychains. Keychains/keys go straight into pockets. Maybe the wife is planning on duffel bag ribbon tag sized key chains that get wind-slapped on the side of a cycle gas tank. That would be visibility and audibility for sure.
12 Sep 21 by member: KindaThick
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