sarah_cook2007's Journal, 10 February 2012

Sarah, you're better off without him. You made the right choice for YOU! There is someone out there who is perfect for you and you will find him. You're still young...I met my husband right before I turned 25 and I spent a lot of time with all the wrong guys before that.  

First off you are beautiful...AND very SMART. The above comment is right on the money. You will find your "Mr. Perfect" I'm 27, single and have spent too much time with guys who were really nasty for my self esteem. Knowing that you deserve someone who deserves you means you'll find someone amazing :-) Keep your head up!! 

Men are JERKS!!!!!  

I am 30 and married, and this is just my opinion, but if a guy can't respect your morals and values, then he doesn't respect you. If all he wanted was sex, then there was no relationship to build on there. You shouldn't have to change yourself for a guy and you shouldn't want to change him either, otherwise you'll both be unhappy. The right guy is out there for you, but for now, just enjoy being single. You can do whatever you want, whenever you want, with no one to answer to. Don't dwell on not having a guy, because you don't want to have one and then wish you would have done more before you were tied down. Good luck!! 

OMG Ryan, shame on you! That offends me. Sarah - your hot, young, I love your smile - of course dates want to make out with you. At 21, I wanted to make out with all my dates. That's just how most guys are and yes I was shut down most of the time- hahaha. Men are jerks and stupid - I'm sorry about that ;) . He will be back, do what strong women do and trim him into shape!!! Tell him what you expect! Tell him you need respect! If he listens! Maybe he can be given a second chance. And as for you Ryan - grrrrr 

WTF kind of comment is that! Where did that come from? 

Ryan, that was rude. Why would you bother posting something like that to anyone? No one needs to hear remarks like that. Sarah, you are beautiful, and I am not just saying that. You deserve the respect of your man. If this guy you went on a date with couldn't respect your boundaries, then he isn't worth your time. 

Ryan, you didn't offend me. I know I'm fat, I see myself in the mirror everyday...I really didn't need you to point it out to me, thanks for your concern of me not being aware though. 

Ryan = not cool! Sarah, you are very pretty, and you are doing great with your weight loss. Your "date's" disposition may not have anything to do with the way you look, he just may not be mature enough to want or handle a proper relationship. There's better out there!! 

Ryan, it seems like you were just trying to get a rise out of as many people as possible. I do understand guys thinking bigger girls are easy or are going to be less drama, I've heard it before and unfortunately it's just a skewed way of thinking. I'm fat and most of my friends are not. In fact a lot of them are super hot chicks and you what, guys think they are easy too lol WHY because most guys are tryign to get it in!!! You live and you learn! Sarah sticking to your morals is somethign to be damn proud of!! 

lol Thanks! Thats exactly what I am saying. Thin girls are EASIER because they are less ASHAMED of their bodies! They'll do it with the lights on and act like little porn-stars. So thinking just because I am fat I am easy...thats way backwards. All my friends are thin and slutty. They've all been with 5+ guys. I've been with ONE GUY and we dated for 2 and a half years. 

Ryan, I accept your insincere apology...only because I am a forgiving person. 

and FYI the point of this site is to encourage people to continue on their journey of weight-loss...not to shoot them down with insults and make them feel WORSE about themselves when they already feel like shit 

I don't think it really matters if you're fat or skinny. Someone who will take advantage of another human will do it to anyone...and someone who will trash or degrade someone in a place they are being vulnerable and accepting of their struggles still has some work to do on themselves. You can fix fat, but you can't fix ugly. She knows she has work to do, we all do - that's why we are here. We don't need rude comments or backhanded apologies or compliments to take us there.  

lol ryan deleted his comments 

sometimes constipation can make people crabby. he obviously realized he can be/do better. let's hope anyway. the rest of you carry on with a fabulous day!  

and rightfully so! You've come a long way Sarah, and doesn't sound to me like this is the right guy for you. Sorry it turned out that way..but better on Date #2, than on #22! NEXT!!! 

Way to go, sticking to your guns like that. He's an ass... doesn't deserve a nice person!! Glad you found out early instead of months or years into the relationship!! have a good weekend!! 

Good for you for walking away, Sarah! If the guy doesn't respect your boundaries - it'd never work out anyways. It's better to be single a little longer and find the right person, rather then trying to adjust to guys who only want to sleep with you, being all winded up about it not working, while the right person walks right by and walks away. Once you meet the right guy - he'll be very proud of you for not sleeping around with every guy you went on a date with. I know exactly how you feel - I need to generate trust before I can sleep with a person. Guys who can't understand that are just not a good match to begin with, why bother? 

Sounds like it was a good fight lol, but I guess Ryan was too scared to leave his comments up so everyone could see them!