MightyFull's Journal, 14 August 2014

I have a dilemma...I received a letter from a former close friend...a friend who brings the drama. She's a great person...but the drama and overshares are over the top. She was part of a FB group and shared loads of drama about how her life was so crazy (she has a husband who adores her and would do anything in the world for her)and I deleted the group after we were trying to coordinate a girl's weekend. And basically this friend told me she didn't need a GW and she wanted to spend every free moment with her husband before he dies (there is no jeopardy of that....) and she regrets that she didn't spend every moment with him. That translated to me said she no longer needs anyone else, she has all she needs, and we're over. We're still friends on FB, we still "like" each other's posts, but gone are the phone calls, emails, and trying to get together for lunch/dinner. And frankly, I'm not sure I really miss the drama. Sometimes I miss her, but with her comes the drama......so do I open the letter or wait?


Diet Calendar Entries for 14 August 2014:
2530 kcal Fat: 118.96g | Prot: 86.12g | Carb: 321.37g.   Breakfast: Almonds, Chex Cereal, General Mills Kix Cereal, Figs , Tap Water, So Delicious Coconut Milk Unsweetened Vanilla, Fiber One Original Cereal. Lunch: Water, Marie's Chunky Blue Cheese Dressing, Lettuce Salad with Assorted Vegetables, The Biggest Loser Celery Sticks, Wingstop Lemon Pepper Wings. Dinner: Quinoa (Cooked), StarKist Foods Tuna Creations Herb & Garlic (Pouch), Figs. Snacks/Other: Raw Almonds, Outshine Fruit Bars - Lime, Herbal Tea, Dasani Bottled Water (16.9 oz), Nature Valley Breakfast Biscuits. more...
3142 kcal Activities & Exercise: Driving - 1 hour and 25 minutes, Desk Work - 6 hours, ipad cardio wkout - 30 minutes, Sleeping - 7 hours, Resting - 9 hours and 5 minutes. more...


Comments 
Well I am assuming that he is terminally ill was is it so much of a shock that she just wanted every second to be with him and is realizing that she does need more. Can you have this friendship putting down boundary's of I want you in my life I won't accept the drama that comes with you??? If you can do this open the letter.. Of you can open the letter see what she has to say and go from there. I would most likely do the latter since that is me. I know or me friendships are very close and dear to me. I also have very firm boundary's on what I will accept and what I won't accept. 
14 Aug 14 by member: Rains120
He is NOT terminally ill...the most he suffers with is allergies (sinus). 
14 Aug 14 by member: MightyFull
so I'm confused then.. why she is so concerned about him dieing? 
14 Aug 14 by member: kristyanne3
Heck if I know!!!  
14 Aug 14 by member: MightyFull
Well then you need to decide if your living is without enough drama and you want to add more.. I personally would leave unanswered... 
14 Aug 14 by member: Rains120
You always want to read what a friend has to say for several reasons maybe shes realized how her drama, self focus and complete disregard for your friendship has affeted your relationship with her or maybe this is the closer you need to officially step away if you open the letter and read nothing but negative things then you know things for her have not changed much and this is just who she is but what if she did change what if things are different in her life now dont get me wrong i grow wings when i see drama coming but you always want to satisfy that "what if"  
14 Aug 14 by member: Noexcuses2014
The Letter -- "I apologize if I was out of line. Your friendship is valuable and I was angry and hurting; I probably should not have said what I did." My husband said he had one problem with the letter -- the word "if" -- there was no admission of actually realizing that yes, she did make a mistake. My co-workers had one problem with the word "probably"...they agree with husband. It's true she realizes something has changed, but really doesn't believe she had much to do with it. What do you think? How should I respond?  
15 Aug 14 by member: MightyFull
Maybe you have given off a drama vibe also, just a thought... 
16 Aug 14 by member: kmcollins

     
 

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