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Nothing hurts more than someone making a comment about your weight. Nothing.. I moved away from home about 4 yrs ago, in that 4 yrs I had a baby and gained 60 lbs. Well my Im sorry.. douche bag of a sister inlaw calls tonight and I am telling her about being on Atkins and that I have lost 16 lbs. She says to me ooh have u gotten heavier than the last time we saw u (yr and a half ago) I said yes, I have gained 10-20 lbs since then, but I have lost 16 in the last month. I didn't even want to go for this visit to see my family last Sept, b/c of my weight gain, I was ashamed. But thought it was my family and they would just be happy to see me. Well she goes on to tell me yeah because you were HEEEEEEEEEEEEEAVY!! Like the HEAVIEST I have ever seen you!! Plus you had to keep pulling up your pants HAHAHAHA. Starts laughing about it. By this time I am close to tears. You know you have gained the weight, U hate it.. u want it gone. Then for someone to rub it in your face. omg... arrgh. That will never be me again ,ever. Why would anyone think that it is ok to say that to someone.. like omg.. I was so incredibly self concious. Well still am.. but arrgh. Im sorry this just made me sob my ass off and this is the only place I could think to write about it.
Diet Calendar Entries for 29 January 2008:
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1389 kcal
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Fat: 88.60g | Prot: 134.96g | Carb: 8.76g.
Breakfast: eggs, bacon. Lunch: cucumber, raw onion, mayo, Tuna. Dinner: butter, spinach, splenda, mustard, mayo, parmesan, chicken breast. more...
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2967 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Calisthenics (heavy, e.g. pushups) - 20 minutes, Resting - 15 hours and 40 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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Won't she be jealous the next time she see's you!! That would just make me want it more. You know that you are better than that. Hope you can use this to your benefit. Your doing great.
29 Jan 08 by member: chefchristabug
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I have to say, your sis sounds like a real peach. What a horrible thing to say!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have a feeling she is feeling threatened. You're getting your life in control, you're owning your own body and moving forward. She might not have liked hearing that and needed to be a bitch to try to make herself feel better.
Her comments reflect on her. You're doing SO well so don't you dare let her get to you.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
29 Jan 08 by member: acw114
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I too got comments about being fat when I was 55 pounds heavier than now - people are telling me I'm thin enough now - go off your diet - eat sugar, etc. Ignore the insults you'll get them when you lose the weight perhaps too that you're too thin now!! That is a good insult to get especially when you're still over your ideal body weight!!!! Stick with everyone here helping you along!!! :)
29 Jan 08 by member: GlennM
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bIENVENIDAS( wELCOME. KERIDA- ) TO THE HARD BODY WORLD! yOU ARE SO IN THE zONE-yOU DON'T EVEN KNOW! hAD A BABY, WHEN YOU WERE "LEGAL" yAY! yOUR FUTURE IS bright! (yOUR SONS' FUTURE IS BRIGHT!, momma!)
Sorry about the caps locks_ I'm horrible at typing, GIRL(LADY!)
Your hard judging man, is cool...he won't agnowledge your "bodt in progress" untill you are over the challenge-( close to your GOAL...) Don't push it...untill it "(LOOKS IT!)"
You are so cool to be doing all this, (and too cute/beautiful!)
LOVE!
29 Jan 08 by member: Pats
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Awe honey, ppl like that just are NOT worth the time, effort and not especially the tears. Understand that you are here, you are working you a$$ off to be healthy and THAT IS WHAT MATTERS... nothing ELSE! If you encounter this type of situation again,... pretend like you just burned yourself on the stove and you've gotta go!! DO NOT sit there and take that kind of crap, from ANYONE.... EVER. YOU are better than that, YOU do NOT DESERVE THAT kind of TrEaTMENT! Excuse me, but SCREW THEM!! If they are that mean hearted, then you don't need that in your life... you are worth more than that!! CHIN up baby-cakes!! Don't look back, don't reply to them... onward and "downward"!! Keep on ROCKIN IT!!
29 Jan 08 by member: bullytrouble
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Thank you so much everyone, I have tried so hard to not put much worth on anything this woman has ever said. But it still hurts. Because even though you know when you have gained weight, u hope that other's won't notice. But I appreciate the kind words from everyone, this site is just amazing as are all of you. The support I receive here is ALWAYS what keeps me going. Sending Skinny thoughts to you all!!
29 Jan 08 by member: time4achange
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I wonder what her problem is that she feels like she needs to put other people down to make herself feel better. I would have hung up on her laughing like that. I don't care if she's family, she has no right to talk to you like that. I can't believe anyone would have the nerve to say that to you. You will show her and you will be proud of who you are and who you were even, because even though you didn't know it yet you had it in you to get to a weight you are going to be happy with. You are strong, girl. Don't you ever forget that. Next time, hang up on her.
29 Jan 08 by member: sararay
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I agree with what the others have said. I'm pretty blunt and I would have called her out on her comments right then and there. She had no right to speak to you that way. You are doing an awesome job on your weight loss and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! Use that hurt/anger as some motivation - but more importantly - let that hurt/anger go. You deserve to be happy.
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Either she has never been unhappy with her weight at anytime during her life AND is an insensitive clod OR she has a need to feel superior to others and does so by putting them down. If I were you I would consider writing her a letter describing just how bad she made you feel. Let her know that you are well aware of your weight issues and that you don't need someone throwing it in your face, ESPECIALLY when you are working so hard to lose that weight. I would also go on to say that her actions hurt and that it has negatively altered you opinion of her. This letter shouldn't be accusatory but should let her know in a nice way that she was way out of line. Don't let her get to you (I know it's hard) because she just isn't worth it. If contacting her directly doesn't work for you, you may want to let your brother know what a jerk she was and that you will not tolerate that behavior. Good luck, family issues can be really touchy. I hope that you can work it out.
30 Jan 08 by member: slease
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I dunno, Slease. I wouldn't do the letter because to admit that she was upset about it is to give her sister power that the sister CAN upset her.
I would ignore her and see her for what she is.
30 Jan 08 by member: acw114
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Seems to me your sister-in-law is a tad insecure. It doesn't matter if she is thin or not. Some insecure people feel the need to look down on others to not feel so bad about themselves. Being on the phone and not having to say it to your face probably bolstered her nerve. Hearing that you were doing something positive probably shocked her into thinking she might loose you as her "security blanket", the someone she could try to feel superior to. Don't pay her any mind. When you reach your goal weight your sister-in-law will probably be speechless. At that point you could thank her (in front of witnesses of course) for calling you fat because it was just the motivation you needed!
30 Jan 08 by member: evelyn64
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Evelyn is right, she probably felt threatened by you in some way and wanted to sabotage you. Don't give her that power. Hold firm. You will reach your goal. Maybe then you can discuss how she affected you and how she doesn't get to have that power any more.
30 Jan 08 by member: sararay
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Make that your motivation hunny...hugz to you!!
30 Jan 08 by member: Reina Estrella
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