morganstuart's Journal, 28 May 2021

I used to look in the mirror and I would think all the time on how unattractive I am. It took years for me to finally love myself for who I am as a person despite all the negative comments I would receive. People say negative stuff to me all the time but don't ever consider the good stuff that goes on all the time. Within the past year, I had decided to work on myself and not focus on what others thought of me. I realized that before I focused too much on what they said about me that I began to believe and live it. Any more when they go on with that I will combat with positive things to say instead of focusing on that negative talk. Where I am in a group home, I have a very different situation than most adults. I understand that I have this and that to work on before I become independent, but all the negative talk is horrible. How can anyone focus on what they are trying to accomplish when all you think about is the bad? Honestly, I wouldn't change a thing about me. Yeah there are things to learn along the way, but I am doing it to make it happen. I had to learn to love myself for me. I am a survivor of many things. I have PTSD, etc. I don't let negative people hold me back from my goals. They may talk dirty when I am working on my weight or working on my other goals too. I got news. Not a single soul is perfect. I make people eat dust when they try to talk me down. Respect goes a long way. I don't know about anyone else who has had trouble with negative people but from my personal experience my advice f them. They may act like they know you but they truly don't. All I gotta say is kill them with positive things and kindness. They cannot come up with a come back when you do.
317.5 lb Lost so far: 30.3 lb.    Still to go: 157.5 lb.    Diet followed reasonably well.
losing 2.4 lb a week

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Don’t change, kid. You were the very first person I followed on this site, and I did that because I immediately sensed that you have a heart of gold. Again, don’t change please. Hugs!  
28 May 21 by member: yfritz
Congrats on your insight! Al so true!!!🍀 
28 May 21 by member: SB 428
Congrats on loss also 🍀 
28 May 21 by member: SB 428
Great attitude!!! Push past those hurtful words and rise above them!! ❤️🙏 
28 May 21 by member: wifey9707
You matter. You are enough. You are needed! 
28 May 21 by member: missamy108
Plus, you’re one of my inspirations on here! 
28 May 21 by member: missamy108
Human attractiveness is not determined by appearance alone. No one is loved by anyone. And No one is hated by anyone. I personally think that "any weight is healthy if you live in your daily life and there is no strain on your joints and internal organs." I think "getting fat is a talent". It can be achieved because the internal organs are tough. If I aim for a weight of 100 kg and continue to eat, the internal organs will break at an early stage. ▽<|b✨ 
28 May 21 by member: ヤママユガ
💯💯💯 
28 May 21 by member: Mrs_jamie
Being ugly is a state of mind my friend, and you seem to have beautiful clarity. I too suffer from PTSD, though it can be tough at times DONT give up and DONT give in.....you've got this!! 
28 May 21 by member: chrisgarza57
I have finally gotten to the point that when confronted with negativity I can just let it roll off. Some people seem to live in negativity and/or love to stir the pot. I refuse to be sucked in anymore. I now realize they are unhappy people and subscribe to the 'misery loves company' way of life. I will not be a part of it. I love your posts and insights, and watch with wonder as you grow in leaps and bounds 🤩 
28 May 21 by member: Rckc
I consider what other people think of me as none of my business. I had to affirm that daily until I internalized it. Hang in there, Morgan.  
28 May 21 by member: JoyAlways
YOure beautiful inside and out Morgan. People are insecure and feel better when they pick on others. I started "greysheet" and it has a list of food we can eat that fills me. It also has a support group and meetings over the phone over 1/2 hour. Its awesome and I am so hopeful that i will get to my perfect weight. GOd bless all of you:) 
28 May 21 by member: Eileen Murphy
I love your strength. it may not always feel like strength to you but its obvious to me looking in from the outside. I admire you. keep pressing forward. negative people generally are miserable. know I appreciate you. keep being you.  
28 May 21 by member: HeBrewZ
Wishing you a community of love and support worthy of the effort, wisdom and positivity you are putting into the world. Until then, as the kids say, fuck the haters.  
28 May 21 by member: jimmiepop
PS - and let's not lose sight of the 1.7# loss here.....Nice drop! Excellent progress! Let's go! #grindtime #stayhungry #inspiring  
28 May 21 by member: jimmiepop
I'm sorry that you're having a rough time with your housemates, Morgan. Yes, people can be viscous and cruel sometimes, and it is usually coming from their own fear of failure and inadequacy. For instance, if you told your housemates that you are now a vegan or vegetarian, and they witnessed you eating a burger, they will attack you for your failure to adhere to your promise. They may feel justified, because you "put it out there" for accountability, and they are merely holding you accountable. Truthfully, they fall down too, and maybe they were shamed by others for it. Your best bet is to surround yourself with people that will support your goals and help you out when you ask.  
28 May 21 by member: JustBananas
You are amazing! Go get those goals. We are all in this together 
28 May 21 by member: celticbutterfly
You have the right attitude. I honestly can't understand why anyone could be so hurtful to others. We all belong. We are all God's children! We are all unique and part of this wonderful, amazing world! I know it's hard for us not to compare ourselves to others. But we each have our own truly wonderful gifts. I think maturity is learning how to accept ourselves and others. I think it's a conscious decision we must make in order to find peace and joy! You're doing great Morgan!!!! ❤ 
28 May 21 by member: bearnoggin
YOU are quite inspiring & motivating, morgan🤙 
28 May 21 by member: acomandr
You made me think on this more. It's a great topic! I think some people say mean things because they've been hurt and want to keep people at arms length, and some people are just ignorant and don't realize how they hurt others. I think forgiveness and patience with others go along ways. But I do think there are people that just don't have a conscious. I still wonder if something horrible happened to them to make them that way. But you protect yourself by loving yourself and not become hardened by those who hurt you, otherwise you risk becoming like them. Its a common theme in super hero movies, where the villain starts out as a victim then turns bitter and hateful and becomes worse than those who hurt them. Love and kindness go along way even when we feel others don't deserve it.  
28 May 21 by member: bearnoggin

     
 

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