kickingcarbs's Journal, 26 October 2022

praying for you in this tough time ❤ I hope things move quickly and get resolved for you soon 

I’m so sorry for your struggles. I hope that all is resolved quickly and in your favor. Keep being the best mom that you have been. 

kickingcarbs, you deserve this time to grieve. I know you will find an outlet for the unbelievable frustration you must be experiencing that will help you feel stronger. But in the meantime, be gentle with yourself. We see you. We see how hard you are working and how much you love your little one. No one can take that love away. I know this fixes nothing. I am sending this with so much love, though.  

So sorry for your troubles. It's okay to grieve the end of a relationship. Dig down deep and find that strength that GOD has given you to get through this. Stay prayerful. I'm praying with you. 🙏🙏 

*sorry for long post* that sounds so difficult! you seem overwhelmed!! the system is bullshit... hoping for the best outcome for you and your daughter. You are trying so hard. Thanks for venting here; you need all the support you can get in your trying times. as for sugar, that reminds me of emotional eating. check my page and ill post a flow chart of how to assess your urge to eat. Self soothing with food is only temporary, and pushes back on progress. DONT LET THAT WIN. Even though it sounds like a good idea in the moment, itll hurt you in the end. Replace that habit with a healthier self care option (even have fun doing it with your daughter if you want)- face mask, bubble bath, eating fruit, drink tea/hot cocoa (better then a bag af reeses yet chocolatey), paint nails, watch a movie with popcorn...etc!! the purpose is help you stop ruminating on HIM and focus on YOU. He will always (probably) be a self serving A-hole but your drive, your power is beyond measure. You are someone your daughter can rely on and look up to! Eating ice cream for breakfast will remind you how bad you feel. Doing ONE little thing to have the BIGGEST impact to help you feel good and become settled back in your body and calm can change your outlook on the day. In time, this will be behind you. We are all rooting for you!!  

Yes, he is a filthy dirty bastard! Pick yourself up and get the best killer lawyer you can find! Remember the worse you feel the better they do. Just saying 

believe me, the courts would never remove a child from their mother's custody unless there was good reason like abuse or drugs and I know that's not you. The only thing he will get granted at most would be shared custody, where he would get her half the time 

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Life can be so hard sometimes, and so unfair. So, take a day or two for a pity-party, then get out of that bed and fight like a lioness for yourself and your daughter. Remember, no matter how bad things are, they're so much better than when you were living with that SOB. And we are all here, standing with you, every step of the way. 💜💜💛💛💚💚 

Do Not give up, fight with all you have , you will have so much more inner strength then what you think you have, Good Luck 🤞🏻 

Ditto to all the wonderful and uplifting responses. I have been there and I know what you are feeling. The beauty about it is that you can overcome it and you will be okay. You are strong and beautiful. Let your strengths work for you so that your child can see how you are able to thrive inspite of this adversity. Give yourself grace and always know that we may fall down, but have the capacity to get back up stronger. Take heart and strive to put your best self forward. Get all the support amd help that you need. You are not alone. 

It sounds like you need both an attorney and a therapist. If he doesn't see his daughter now, that would explain his move. Guys don't usually want full custody; he's probably just shooting for the moon and will take whatever he can get. Judges don't even like to give shared custody for babies. If he has had any jail time or arrests related to drugs or alcohol, make sure these are brought up and he'll basically only get limited visitation (plus you can request supervised visits and regular drug tests, which he will have to pay for $$$). Don't eat your stress! Write here and get therapy. And choose exercise like walks that get you away from the kitchen. 

So sorry you are going through so much right now. But it’s temporary and this too shall pass. Be strong for your baby. Have you tried phentermine to curb your sugar and carb cravings ? It also gives you a boost of energy to get through the day. I use half a pill because it’s so strong but it works 

Oh I hate him. I don't know what's up with those guys that think babies are like toys and don't require any kind of responsibility but still want to have all the rights over them. My girl's dad is like that. But you got this! It's hard but you're more than capable and all the love you have for your baby makes you stronger. Reach out, don't give up. We're here to support you. 

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In so sorry your dealing with this. I’m glad you opened up to us. You’ll find support here. Have you tried Overeaters Anonymous? You’re not alone. Many of us feel overwhelmed, harassed, misunderstood, lonely, Ect Make a nice treat for yourself. Maybe a baked apple with cinnamon. Or fresh blueberries. 🫐 Hang in there. ❤️ 

women choose the men, men choose whether to stay or move on to the next one. hindsights 20/20 

No advice to give you that others haven't said already but will send prayers and support!!💜💜💜💜🙏🙏 

Hugs to you and your baby! 🤗🤗 

🙏🏽4 you. Lately I’ve been listening to some C.S. Lewis podcasts and it seems to help and gives strength, perhaps something similar may help. 

I crave chocolate ice cream, jelly, ect. I quit buying them and similar junk food. Nuts are bad but better than on junk food. Even frozen meals are better than junk food. Things get better over time. You can tough it out.