atriel2's Journal, 08 June 2020

Way to overcome the obstacles #teamnoexcuses 

Moopie! I almost sent you a message asking if I could add you to my facebook last night. I was talking to family and friends about the sheer amount of insane drama on a diet app and this was the conversation: Me: I don't even know. One person accused someone of stalking her - like actually buying a ticket to fly across the country to stalk her in person. Somebody else said that someone was blackmailing people, the same person said people from a diet app were hacking her facebook. And finally some random guy said that I had "cognitive behavorial issues" because I took screenshots of "chit chat on a diet app". My uncle, the psychiatrist, DIED laughing about the last bit, said that it sounded like the typical misuse of psychiatric terms that he's heard from laypeople or the Psych 101 crowd. My IT friends laughed their asses off about the "hacking" and none of the rest of my friends believed that people on a diet app were spinning this kind of insanity. In fact, my best friend of 26 years said, "I don't know why I wasted time on Tiger King, I should have just signed up for this app." I almost called you in for 22 minutes just to verify what I was saying. 

Haha add me. I can be your witness. 

Everytime I want to tell friends about FatSecret, I have to stop myself... it just sounds too crazy.  

👋Atriel & Moopie, one word: PRICELESS🤪❣🤙💜💜💜💚💚💚 

Can't make this 💩up🤷 

🤪🤪🤪🤪- Who needs soaps from the 80s, just come to FS. FS is my guilty pleasure and this is why I look forward to these posts. When I start talking myself out of things, I know I need to get my ass in gear and do it. Keep doing what you got to do to stay in control. 

I have the same wax warmer in red. what is in the case and good job on pushing through to work out 

Lol, This is why My therapist and I sometimes sit and read my FS app together out loud. (Only after the $ per hr timer stops). He even said that it's beneficial.  

way to push through the inertia - i am so in touch with excuses - i tell myself my body needs to rest or does it matter since i am not losing weight or too much work - and i always feel better when done. good for you. but i am also so confused about what you were describing earlier in the thread here - it's tough to find support, especially in diet and exercise - it's too bad you are bumping up against complicated issues. i am oblivious, i think. anyway, i am here to support other's journeys and tough times in all aspects - but certainly in diet, health, exercise, and kindness for each other.  

@Chesgreen - it's been entertaining - if a bit distracting for sure. Sandy - The wax warmer currently has Elemi resin in it. I burn a lot of natural incenses like frankincense, myrrh, etc. That's an orchid pot to the right (Orchidless at the moment) and a candle holder to the left. Usually, my electric incense burner is also on this counter. :) Supernotman- that's SO funny. My uncle said that this whole thing was a fascinating look at mob mentality. He does a lot with Social Psychology and finds all of the social media stuff "weird and fascinating". My not as kind aunt suggested that maybe people were just "hangry". I actually can see the benefits of it if you're able to stay above it. :) 

Br_e_co - You are always so kind and supportive and that matters a lot. The issues aren't any more or less complicated than the normal stuff that goes on in any social media app - with the exception of some pretty serious allegations being leveled with absolutely no proof. Most of it is inconsequential and none of it impacts me away from the app. But, as far as diet and exercise - I am the actual Queen of Making Very Good Excuses. When I started asking myself why I wasn't important enough to keep promises to myself in the same ways that I would for anyone else, my perspective shifted considerably. Best of luck to you Br_e_co! I wish you all of the best on this journey. 

Omg no worries, this app is weird sometimes. 😘 

thanks Atriel! we all need good luck on our journeys. i think your approach by asking yourself why it wasn't important to keep promises to yourself is spot on - we treat others so much better than we do ourselves. good advice. 

Br_e_co - Not trying to inspire too much deep thought this early in the morning - but, why? Why do we treat other people better than we treat ourselves? And why don't we show ourselves the same kindnesses that we expect and give others? I'm coming to this place with health and fitness where I'm starting to see it as a "whole" thing. So much of weight gain and our choices are psychological. I think it's important to unpack that stuff so that we can make long term and lasting changes. 

Love the view of your home there 😍 I love when it’s clean and uncluttered. #Teamnoexcuses you got this atriel 😎💪🏻👊🏻 

@Rosio - Thank you, Rosio! When my house is cluttered, my mind is too. I need clean and clear spaces to focus.  

"I'm working out because, in a world where so much else is out of my control, I can at least control this." --- Oh. My. Word. Thank you SO much for posting this, because I needed to hear that perspective. I've been trying really hard to not let my depression stop me from working out, and I'm very much in your boat with the excuse-making behavior. I'm adding your phrase to my list of positive reinforcements. The two mantras I've been working with up to now have been "You *deserve* to workout" and "You're not hungry, you're just bored". I hope your soreness passes, and that you have a wonderful day <3 

i think this line of provocative introspection is critical, atriel, so never too early for a little deeper thinking - and i think you are on the right track - though i will add, science and the food business has really figured out how to get us hooked on specific foods, but won't place all the blame on the food business or advertising - since, for the most part, i agree with your perspective - the whole self - having diet, mind, body, exercise, and thoughts aligned, without self loathing, to reveal that we haven't been treating ourselves kindly - easier written than done. no mind - that is where i wish to be with myself, no mind - no ego, which would open up some peace within and help us see what you are writing about. but - i definitely have a monkey mind and definitely know i can do better.  

@br_e_co - you probably know this already but there's a specific combo of sugar, fat, and, salt that are as addictive as some hard drugs as far as how our brain reacts to them. Like anything, for a lot of people having those things once or twice is okay. They don't start feeling that impact until there's been a sustained amount of those foods. In other people, that impact is immediate. I really try to avoid the guilt / shame cycle when it comes to food. If there's something I want and I can't talk myself out of it, I let myself has much of it as I want and then I throw the rest of it away. I don't keep it around to tempt me later and I refuse to feel bad for it. My eating was incredibly disordered for a long time and I did a swing between punishing myself with an extreme diet and exercise or punishing myself by eating everthing. It's balance and I am positive that you will find yours. kitty-eared-girl - I am so glad that it helped! I hope your depression eases. I used to explain depression like the dementors in Harry Potter. It would just kind of take hold and then my world turned grey scale. It's important to remember that every time that you conquer it and just do it, it makes the darkness recede a bit. Have a wonderful day! <3