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Neither Boot Camp Members or their Administrators ARE bullies! How dare you - who ever you are - for misjudging and misrepresenting WHO WE ARE - to accuse us of abuse. I have been a member of Boot Camp from Day 1, since joining Fat Secret in early March. I have not joined any other group - as I have found the perfect fit for me! I am a food addict - and was 60+ lbs overweight when I started this journey - and NO ONE - and I mean NO ONE has done more for me in regards to HONEST, STRAIGHTFORWARD KNOWLEDGE and INFORMATION regarding addiction than our two administrators. I have benefitted from that greatly. I have learned about this particular way of eating (as I had never done Atkins before) and I was having tremendous difficulty with being very carb intolerant - and didn't even know what that was. Or how to know if I was that - or how to fix it - or how to make this way of eating work for me - I have learned so much in Boot Camp - from the admin's and all of our members and the countless hours of individual lives given so I could benefit! I am particularly irritated at the amount of people that will judge us, and make comments, and cast their own opinions about how this site shouldn't be about others judging...all the while YOU ARE BEING JUDGEMENTAL. You couldn't possibly know the full story about anything you've "heard" because it's just not true! I have seen A LOT of issues go on between people, both from Boot Camp and other Groups - and you know what - people see what they want to see, and hear or read into something what they want to - something touches a nerve, something called TRUTH, and people get all up in arms about how "that's not right" "people should just live and let live" - well - I asked for this "so called abuse" - I asked for the truth! I wanted to face my issues, and heal, and get stronger, and deal with my stuff so I don't ever have to face a life of forever being fat again! When I joined Boot Camp I knew darn well that people were going to tell me exactly the way it is...according to them, their knowledge, their experience, etc...and if I didn't agree, didn't like it, didn't want to stay...I was always free to leave. No harm, no foul...just go quietly and have a nice life. What more do you people expect from us! If you cheat - than in my opinion you are a cheater. If you do it often enough it reveals addictive behaviors. Whether you acknowledge them or not. If you lie, than in my opinion you are a liar. And if you tell yourself something long enough - you just might start to believe it! But I won't. Cause I know who I am and what I have done or said - and I know a lie when I hear one. When you judge others, all the while leaving your "buddies" with the same old tired "it's ok, it works for me, just dust yourself off and try again" crap - you are being the worst kind of judgemental Hypocrites! Tell them the truth! It's not ok! What the heck are you doing? Do you want people to support your weight loss efforts or just want people to make you feel good! Just for kicks - why not try a little honesty amongst yourselves - because I for one am totally offended by the crap that I have just been accused of!
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05 May 10 by member: shar0219
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05 May 10 by member: JrzyGrl
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05 May 10 by member: gigimax1
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05 May 10 by member: glassartist23
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Wow! I'm obviously missing a load of stuff. I have no idea what kicked this off but it's a rant and a half. I could feel your BP shooting through the screen. Hope you feel lots better as a result. Christine
06 May 10 by member: chrisa1uk
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What have you been accused of? WHAT IS GOING ON? I am lost.
We are just here to lose weight. This place is like a school playgroud!!
06 May 10 by member: Jill-gill
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Good job! And I agree Jill-gill playground antics and name calling...really childish
06 May 10 by member: carbcount
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Well said. I am not a member of the BootCamp group, but if it is how you describe...maybe I should be. I could certainly use a swift kick in the arse at least once a week to break my harmful, self destructive habits.
06 May 10 by member: rebecca319
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I'm sorry to see this has happened to you. Your frustration echoes my own. I've seen myself written about in groups to which I do not belong, but PUBLIC groups where they have mentioned me by name where I cannot defend myself. And the charge against me- that I am judgmental. Hypocrisy is a frustrating thing. I'm not a member of the Bootcamp group (because obviously I'm not on Atkins), but I have major respect for one of its administrators who has been exchanging friendly emails with me for months as we have many things in common other than diet. If two with such diametrically opposed diet plans can support each other while holding the opposite opinions, I don't understand why the rest of us can't do the same. To better days and less drama ahead! :)
06 May 10 by member: k8yk
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06 May 10 by member: jsfantome
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JS - Thank you for that post, I can't say much more than was stated; rather clearly. Boot Camp is one really tough Group and this is a testament to its commitment and success. Those who commented unfavorably are the very reason some of us rant....I especially want to mention and thank K8YK, for always being supportive of everyone here on FS regardless of lifestyles, WOE or diet plan. KY8K, you are one of the most amazing, articulate, women on this site, and one who only wants to share her success with others. I am sorry that you too, are often ridiculed and misjudged. It's seems that the only ones who are judged so harshly on Fat Secret are individuals who are succeeding. Success crosses all lines and borders, and we are one in this journey to slimmer, healthier bodies. We should understand more about Diversity and Unity, instead of breaking down lines of communication. Boot Camp is private for one reason - to avoid what K8YK, described. People want to shout to the heavens their opinions, but can't handle opposing points of view. We all have the right to do what works for us, and we all have the right to talk about it. If you don’t like what’s being said, don’t belong to a public forum. It’s sad that at every turn, where every single time you don’t like something you read, you feel the need to cry abuse. Those who complain all the time, have too much time on their hands, and really are only mad at themselves, because they don’t have the same commitment as others.
07 May 10 by member: usemyotheraddy
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" A heart at peace gives life to the body but envy rots the bones.."
(Bible proverb)
08 May 10 by member: Jill-gill
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My heart is at peace - no rotting bones here...
08 May 10 by member: jsfantome
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Wow. That is profound. I will definately ponder that today....
08 May 10 by member: JrzyGrl
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We have peaceful hearts - its just a shame about the rest of them!!
08 May 10 by member: Jill-gill
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