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I am so happy that things are working and the weight is beginning to drop. I have always been one whose loss shows within the first five pounds, because it comes off my waist first. And sure enough, after dressing today in black yoga pants and a t-shirt, my husband looked up and said "Your diet is really working, you look thinner already."
I've added another reason to why this is so important now--keeping in mind always that my health is paramount, and of course that I simply want to look better and feel more confident. There is a person coming back into our family circle (long, ugly story and I won't bore you with it) who never, ever, found anything of any value in me simply because of what I weighed. This woman could not, cannot give any kind of compliment UNLESS you are noticeably thinner. She never missed a chance to praise herself on her own weight, and she wore every piece of clothing as low cut/high cut/slit to here or there/skintight as possible; her goal, she said, was to walk into the room and know that every man there instantly wanted her and only her. (Fortunately my husband found her completely inappropriate and less than desirable.)
I know when we see each other again (which I hope will not be any time soon) she'll immediately look me up and down, measuring me, definitely finding me wanting. But you know what? Where that used to make me feel just as worthless as she meant it to, now it just makes me defiant. As in I don't care what you think, my husband thinks I am beautiful and desirable at every single weight. As in I am working on healthy weight loss, not relying on crash dieting or colon cleanses or the latest miracle quack remedies...and we won't even talk about the repeated plastic surgery.
I'm just realizing what I should have known all along; I AM beautiful just as I am. I like my face, and I'm working on liking my body. But my self-worth is NOT measured by my scale or my tape measure. Not any more. It doesn't mean I can't be pleased or proud at how well this new way of life is working, because I can see that it will be easy to make it permanent and I like the benefits it will bring.
So yeah. Go me. Go ALL of us, as we walk this path to better health and happier lives. We got this. Oh yes we do. We so do.
Diet Calendar Entry for 05 November 2017:
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1193 kcal
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Fat: 65.96g | Prot: 43.17g | Carb: 125.33g.
Breakfast: Just Like Sugar Guilt-Free Hot Cocoa Mix, Coffee, So Delicious Coconut Milk Creamer - French Vanilla, Cream (Half & Half). Lunch: Cream of Potato Soup (Prepared with Milk). Dinner: Colby Cheese, Honeycrisp Apples. Snacks/Other: Pepsi Diet Pepsi (Bottle), Unbuttered Popcorn Popped in Oil. more...
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05 Nov 17 by member: ginger dog
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Yes we do!
I'm finding that I simply want to eat less than I'm allowed, is that common? I have already reset my RDI once and there are still days I don't eat as much as it says. I'm not trying to starve myself and I do eat every few hours, as suggested, but I also feel if I'm just flat-out not hungry, I don't want to eat. I think maybe it's because I overate for so many years, never stopping until I was miserably painfully full. (Which is when I began to know that I was insulin resistant--no matter how much I ate, I always, always felt hungry.) It's so, so good to feel that my appetite is a normal one now. Tracking my food has helped with that, too; I've made a mental note of the times when I still feel over-full, and when I eat that same food or meal again, I back down the portion size. Don't you love learning more about how your body works?
05 Nov 17 by member: Elizabeth_V
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I listen to my body, not hungry? I don't eat. That is easy. What I have trouble is knowing when to stop because I am full. My method now is to decrease the portion of previously eaten meals when I was too full the last time I ate it. Maybe some day I will realize I am full during a meal. I hope so, but not there yet.
05 Nov 17 by member: ginger dog
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What woe have you choose? On keto, intermit fast are encouraged and seem to help. I rarely eat breakfast, just bullet proof coffee, my way.
05 Nov 17 by member: Bluper
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My gf had a similar experience. Some random dude was making comments of fat women and she felt upset. To support her I told her the following:
Society is full of dumb people, shallow and with lack of empathy. The one who has a problem is him and not you. He knows nothing about your life and has no clue about this daily struggle (being overweight). You are much more than a body and not the opinion of people. You are beatiful inside and out, and beauty comes first from the inside. You are a person with such wonderful feelings, with values and virtues that are not perceived at plain sight, but society doesn't really care.
05 Nov 17 by member: AlexRodCR
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https://www.theodysseyonline.com/why-being-called-fat-doesnt-define-me
05 Nov 17 by member: AlexRodCR
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You're all wonderful! ginger, I agree. It takes 20 minutes to get the message that you're full, and you can overeat a lot in that time. I'm still learning and I'm so happy, at last, that I am. One of the things that has helped a lot is to measure out my entire meal (yep, measuring cups and spoons and scales) and when I look at the plate I find myself thinking, that's a lot of food! it's kind of like telling myself right from the start that I have more than enough, and I seldom eat more than one serving of anything these days. meli, exactly! Bluper, I am following the GI/low carb lifestyle, mostly--I posted earlier that I was also incorporating the old Diet Center reducing plan and a bit of help from a healing your pancreas article (you can read loooooong posts about both in my Journal.) And Alex--God bless you. What a lucky girlfriend :)
05 Nov 17 by member: Elizabeth_V
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I feel so bad that you have someone in your life that can or would make you feel so bad about your weight. I guess I am really lucky that I've never had anyone who did that to me. Even my size nothing sister who I no longer get along with didn't say or indicate that she noticed the 30+ pounds I'd gained since I'd last seen her. Hope you can avoid her as much as possible.
05 Nov 17 by member: Fritzy 22
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This woman sounds toxic or at least very unhappy. Don't let her under your skin!
05 Nov 17 by member: Looped
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