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Today has been a good day so far! Went to a meeting early this morning with a team of folks at church (these people all work on the planning and development of the 'details' of everything that basically goes on thru the church - besides the Pastor's teaching/preaching.)
As a start to the New Year - we are each working on taking 100% responsibility for things we want to change in our lives. Laying down the excuses... being specific about what the items are... and building an 'action plan' towards being about change. Combating the excuse with an action and the steps necessary to overcome it.
Well, by the end of the meeting, I had 3 of the 5 people asking me if I would sit w/ them to evaluate meal plans, activity, and effort - and offer my input - to help them build a plan to accomplish their personal goals to become generally healthier this year!! WHOOO HOOO!
I believe God desires for us to be in good health, because he has work for each of us to do in our lives... a purpose He has put us here for. And when our 'ways' have compromised our energy, and our health - to the point where we are not moving forward in the areas He has for us, because we are overweight, ashamed, afraid, out of shape, tired all the time, etc... then... to see these people not only take 100% responsibility to how they got there...but begin to see how they would need to make 'lifestyle' changes to get somewhere new... WOW! It was awesome.
They are going to be each other's support systems at the moment. But I did tell them about FS, and encouraged them to come online and check it out.
We'll see...
Funny, mine had nothing to do with 'weight' per se.
I need to take responsibility to becoming 100% emotionally and communicatively 'honest' with people. I am a 'people pleaser'. And saying No, makes me very uncomfortable. And I often know inside that I should, but I don't. Or my instincts in a situation tell me to be 'cautious' - and I'm not... and I end up hurt. Either way... I need to become 'more real' with myself first, and others ... I'm not perfect by any means... but I am a better wife, a better mother, a better friend... when I am honest, and real w/ myself and others.
So I am building an action plan on how to do that.
First thing on my list is to WRITE DOWN when something comes up that I think to myself... I want to talk to so&so about... and then give myself a deadline and commit to have those conversations by the deadline.
We'll see how this goes for me...
Hope you guys are all well. I am off to go start some food, and get ready to watch the Patriots play ... back later.
Much Love.
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Really enjoyed your journal. I so agree with the 'being honest' with others and yourself. Even without a journal I can reflect on times when my life wasn't completely above board (people pleasing, swallowing their BS, pretending to be what I wasn't, etc) and the detrimental effect it had on my physical, mental and emotional health. Finding the balance.... ahhh... that's the kingdom of moderation I seek - being able to choose when candor is justified vs when I simply need to sit and listen, not absorb, just be compassionate.
13 Jan 13 by member: FullaBella
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thanks Bella. I do think it's an art - being tackful. But I am truly working on finding the 'real' inside of me. Honoring my true feelings about something. Honoring my time, my efforts, my giving nature,... all of me... by being honest to pursue what I truly want in life... not just doing things to meet expectations. Or responding how others 'expect' me to respond. It's kinda hard to explain. But I'm just starting to sort it out.
13 Jan 13 by member: jsfantome
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I have taken much from your journal today. Knowing where you need to go is more than half the battle. Look forward to reading about your journey :)
13 Jan 13 by member: Di Happy
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Great objective and action plan. You're so good, Paula. That's a heavy task for a lot of women I believe. I don't think tactful is so difficult, but I believe we're diplomatic by nature. Let us know how you do at this challenge.
13 Jan 13 by member: Helewis
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Saying NO..is hard as we like to please most people in our lives..but there comes a time when we have to think of our self too...Have a great day...:O)
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I am just now trying to say no more often otherwise I overdo myself... But I always do now when I know I will regret not doing so later. Like my husbands best friend has two kids which I can't stand watching. Then afterwards I am always in a bad mood. One is whiny all the time. Like I mean he can cry for hours. the other does things he shouldn't, doesn't want to pick up after he is done playing and is very argumentative. Anyone who knows me knows I will take kids anytime because I enjoy them so much. We have extra kids at our house year round. In the summer I feed oodles of them because they want to play at our house all day. But I haven't figured out how to have those two.
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Great journal! I have that people pleaser gene too, it's a tough one to control. Can't wait to see what works for you!
14 Jan 13 by member: thynes
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