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Woo hoo...I should play the lottery...another low. I will write more later...
Morning Update:
Four tenths of a pound away from another mini goal. I can't believe it. Its amazing to believe that just a little over two months ago I was at my former weight and wondering when I needed to start using my old BIG pants. Now, I am sitting on the cusp of not only a mini goal BUT I am starting to feel that I should begin trying on ....wait for it...those SIZE 36 Jeans! Damn that felt good...
Thoughts of the day:
1) Cheerlead Yourself: Sometimes, your progress can be seen as "bragging" or "bravado" by others. Case in point, I know that I cannot give daily updates to the wife. She gets pissed inside and she gives me a tepid response. Instead of a wonderful "That is awesome!" I get "Good for you...". Hmm, I would think that its good for us, after all she is getting a new fitter husband. I know that she is trying to lose weight and that its been tough, I give her encouragement but I can't oversee everything she does. I try and tell her that she has to eat lunch but she gets so busy at work that she doesn't eat lunch and instead she gets super hungry at dinnertime. Years of her missing lunch have her looking to eat a big dinner..and then to bed. I know that is not healthy but I can't remind her of that, I have tried but she gets angry. So while she gets frustrated, I quietly celebrate my little victories in the weight department. I give myself a high five and do a little dance. Thanks to FS, I also get you guys to cheer lead me as well and I am very grateful for that! However, ultimately you have to be the biggest cheerleader for your progress.
2) Weight Loss for the Right Reasons: A friend of mine recently told me "Man, you look great...I need to lose weight so I can find a girlfriend..." Wow, that is not the right attitude. The reason people should engage a diet should be their own comfort and health. If you do it for someone else, you may find that even if you lose the weight that person may not be as appreciative as you would be. Also, what happens if you lose the weight and that person is not responsive? Do it for you...do it to live a healthier life, do it to not have pain when you move, do it to have a more physical lifestyle, do it to avoid the physical maladies that come with weight (Diabetes, aching joints, hypertension...). The only one who can make the mental change is you, no one should be the impetus of your weight challenge. I told my friend "No matter what, the woman who will love you will be there whether you are big or not. Lose weight for you, not for anyone else."
3) Tough Times - In a reflective moment, I began to think about what the past four years have been like for the USA. We have seen a financial crash that has caused many people to lose their jobs and struggle to find new ones. The fact of the matter is that a vast majority of those jobs will never come back, they have been shipped overseas or they have been eliminated through automation. I felt badly for those people as I rode the subway this morning. Additionally, many people with Jobs haven't received raises that match the rise in cost of living. So you got a 2% raise but your bills (electricity, gas, mortgage, cable, etc.) have gone up 4-6%. So in effect you are losing money. Now, the fiscal cliff is coming and more people will lose anywhere between 2-6% in income. So, yeah, these are tough times...very few people are prospering and many people, even those with a job, are just scraping by. I hope that the economy gets better and people are able to do better because right now the American Dream is eroding..
Sunny and Cool in NYC.
Plank Update: I was unable to do much planking in the last few days. So much housework and helping out with some homework...I apologize to my FS buddy, I will start it up again soon..
Song of the Day: In the Air by Morgan Page (Radio Edit)
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Except the lottery is pure luck and this is a result of hard work!
25 Sep 12 by member: Djburney
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Your hard work is paying off. You will be in size 36 before you know it. By the way, I was catching up on a few journals and my wedding ring flew off one day recently too. I had it sized from a 7.5 down to a 6! I also noticed my roller skates fitting looser too. Who knew... Not something I expected. :)
25 Sep 12 by member: kimjinxie
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People who are not actively trying to lose weight do not find these victories as exciting as we do. I don't really discuss my diet that much with my friends, they are supportive but don't really want to hear the blow by blow description of how it is accomplished. Losing weight for women is usually more difficult that it is for a man so it can be frustating when you spouse is dropping weight at a good rate when you struggle for every pound. I'm not saying she couldn't change things to make them better, just saying she probable doesn't want to hear it from you.
25 Sep 12 by member: fatoldlady
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True FOL, that is why I just choose to not discuss it with her. I don't want to seem like I was lording it over her. This is about my own journey and how it makes me feel. I can share but only with people who ask...I won't volunteer it...unless its FS..
25 Sep 12 by member: Hildi72
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You are doing so well - I will say, "That is awesome!" even if your spouse doesn't say it right now. As, FOL said, it is hard for women to lose and when someone around her is making good choices, eventually it may impact her, too. What do they say in corporate speak? Lead by example. You are a great model for her so when she is ready she may follow along with you...or not.
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HCB, thanks for the praise. I will try to lead by example but let's see how it pans out. I want to be positive but sometimes her negativity really irks me. Once again, thank you.
25 Sep 12 by member: Hildi72
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SO, like you said, do it for you so you feel healthy and fit and are there for your kids when they are adults.
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To your friend, I have a slightly different take on the response. When we work to make ourselves the best that we can be, we are going to attract more people who are like-minded with it. For myself, I know for sure that I have more choices in who I attract now that I am thinner. And because I want to be with someone who is also taking care of himself physically, I'm not looking at men who do not have healthy habits. It's not really about how they look, it's about how they think.
25 Sep 12 by member: Djburney
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I appreciate your point Deb. However, while health should be the underlying concern, you also don't want to rest your mate's commitment to you solely on how they appear. Doing so may cause a reliance on the superficial and not what is truly within. I do agree that you want someone you are with to hopefully be as healthy as you are.
25 Sep 12 by member: Hildi72
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You have a realistic approach and a good perspective--Congratulations on a great accomplishment - long may it continue :) It will feel good to get into those 36's eh?
25 Sep 12 by member: newmooney
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Well yes, at my age, and the men I'm dating, health is a big concern. I don't want a sick old man!
25 Sep 12 by member: Djburney
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You have no idea...I am salivating at the thought of wearing a size 36...that is like my holy grail. I know it sounds weird for a guy to say that but for me, weight has always been a battle and now I am very close to getting in those 36 size jeans...
26 Sep 12 by member: Hildi72
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Ok, so I want to see this little happy dance that you do when you are giving yourself high fives :) I try not to tell my husband about every pound I lose, because I think he probably gets sick of hearing it, but recently he told me I looked hot in my new junior size jeans when we were going out. :) I agree with wanting weight loss for the right reasons. I started this lifestyle change because I have osteoarthritis in my knee and was told by my doctor to lose weight or have the pain and make it worse. You can guess what my choice was ;) I don't have knee pain anymore and I never thought I could do burpees, but I have now joined a challenge for them!! (I think I am crazy...) Thanks for the reminder that I need to do some planks tonight too :D When you get into those size 36 jeans, do we get to see??
26 Sep 12 by member: kimjinxie
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No, it doesn't sound weird for a guy or for anyone. Your motivation is coming from the right place and so are you goals! You'll have a lot of people doing a happy dance with you when you're in your size 36 jeans.
26 Sep 12 by member: jenkie5
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