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Well I wasn't 13 something for long.
I have been stress eating this week. My surgery, earlier in the summer, had been a failure. My hernia has popped out again and, if the consultant decides to do it, will need repeated again. I am so depressed and pissed off that dieting is the least of my worries.
My ex has been admitted to hospital with serious health issues. I have been taking my disabled son in to visit his mum, so, on top of work, I am never home. I am seeing more of my ex than my wife.
I keep thinking, if it wasn't for returning to work, and lifting heavy items in and out the van all day, my hernia may not have recurred.
And after feeling so great for the past few months. It has all been wasted.
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199.0 lb
Lost so far: 84.0 lb.
Still to go: 0 lb.
Diet followed poorly.
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gaining 5.0 lb a week
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Oh dear Jocko. It's all happening to you at once.
You cannot possibly worry about your weight. You've done great so far, so it's time to prioritize the other issues you have at the moment. First things first. Your ex wife needs to see your son that's good and I'm sure Mrs T knows - she will be there for you.
Your hernia needs to be operated on again, and I am so sorry for you. Don't be hard on yourself, it might have popped out again even if you had not gone to work. You are entitled to vent your anger
Take care buddy. Please keep us informed X
28 Oct 16 by member: Mrs Maths
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Jocko, what a catalogue. Feel for you, I really do. I shan't offer any trite aphorisms or advice as you are a sound man who will bounce back and get where you want to be albeit not to the schedule you were hoping. Hope everyone gets better soon.
28 Oct 16 by member: StrangeTrout
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Jocko It has NOT been wasted. You have done amazingly well and will do well again. Take care of your family and take care of you. You will come back from this and we are all, as always, here for you.
28 Oct 16 by member: fattyfattyboombooms
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Hey, Jocko ... I hear your pain and frustrations. I am sorry you will have to go through all of that again ... but, as everyone has said, you are a strong man and you will get through it. We are here for you, buddy. Hugs!
28 Oct 16 by member: Mom2Boxers
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Sorry to read your so stressed Jocko. You do have a lot going on right now and dieting is not a priority. You will get back into it again, but for now look after yourself and your family. Your FS buddies are here for support when ever you need it!
28 Oct 16 by member: bowd65
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So sorry to hear about your bad times. Little I can say that hasn't already been shed so here's some good wishes coming your way. Look after yourself, m'Dear x
28 Oct 16 by member: Phooka
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wish you all the best through these difficult times, and sometimes our lives actually roll down to just a handful or two of very important times, and I suspect this is one of them right now, so just focus on doing whatever feels right. But I would say that you should remember that you'll need your strength so whilst food may not seem very important right now, and good food even less so - make sure you're getting some chances to eat something sustaining - but then I'm sure your wife will be doing her best to help that happen.
28 Oct 16 by member: ARB0001
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I am sorry to hear that, and can well understand how you must be feeling, but remember that all things pass, life will be good again, and if you take care of yourself now, you will be glad later. Wishing you all the best, and sending hugs xxx
28 Oct 16 by member: heidij123
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Jocko, it's not all for nothing. You learned what works and what doesn't work. Cortisol by itself will make you gain weight even if you are counting every calorie. Please don't be hard on yourself. Bummer about the ex. Even if she is sick, it can't be easy spending so much time with her. I still like my ex, but in small doses. He's an ex for a reason. Much love and support, Mister!
28 Oct 16 by member: LadyinDenim
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Oh Jocko - what bad luck. I'm sorry about the problems with your ex but you're very kind to take your son over to see her. I wish you well with your forthcoming surgery and will be thinking about you.
29 Oct 16 by member: Doobrie
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Not a good week , but that's life hopefully it's the bottom and things get better quickly. You have you priorities right family always has to come first. As to wasted effort .... I don't think so if you hadn't lost the weight and improved you fitness where would you be now as you face these trials and tribulations!!
29 Oct 16 by member: awaldram
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I'm so sorry to hear that things have been rough lately. But - you know (re: "it's all been wasted") - I know you mean the recent scale successes, but you mustn't let this terrible and trying week cause you to lose sight of the bigger picture! Look at that green bar! Think about the whole journey, not just these ebbs and flows of life, because you know - those will always come around sometimes. Sometimes you just have to pull over for a bit, deal with the things flung at you, and most of all, don't beat up on yourself for all the things that aren't in your control. You WILL be back on the horse again, and things will be better again. :)
29 Oct 16 by member: real_gone_girl
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Thanks everyone, for your support. I am on holiday now, for a week, and will let things flounder until after that. What really upsets me is I felt amazing up until a week ago and now the pain and discomfort is back. It could be months before I go back in for another op, then a further three months recovery. Our Renewal of Vows is only nine months away. As Calimero said. "It's an injustice".
29 Oct 16 by member: JockoT
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Oh dear! Sounds like you are going to need a game plan, Jocko! I think after all of this, you and your wife are going to need that special day of renewing your vows to each other. That is really what life is about and you need to take care of yourself .. if not for you, then for her. What is that saying, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going!"
29 Oct 16 by member: Mom2Boxers
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Very sorry to ready about your failed sugery and your hernia, you have done so well and with everything going on most people would have gave up but you haven't and you should be so proud of yourself, self awareness is one of many keys to weight loss and you have that so stay strong and keep your chin up x x
30 Oct 16 by member: Ge84
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