BuffyBear's Journal, 17 May 2015

FANTASTIC POST!!!! Let me ponder your question and get back to you (y'all) on that AFTER I have had some time to REFLECT and PROCESS!!! Have a blessed Sunday. 

STT - Will be looking forward to your response (more than you know).  

That is truly something to ponder BuffyBear - I can identify, i need to work on my END GAME, Yes and what is it I must ask myself, I will get back to you when I have thought about it!  

Moo Me - I'll be waiting. BTW - How come everybody is making me wait for the answer?  

That was me, too. I had lost a huge amount of weight (went from a size 18 to a size 6). I too, gained it back and more. I"m now doing losing it differently this time. The numbers matter to a degree, but I don't expect to lose as fast as I did. Also, i have to include some fun and happiness into my routine. It can't be scale, calorie count, exercise and that's it. I cheated a couple of times this time, but was sensible and got right back to the routine. Yes, I'm losing slowly--I go up, down, up, down, but notice my end result is always a little more down. Friday and Saturday, I did the calories in my head. I didn't record them. During my work week, I will again. My end goal--is to lose weight sensibly and being able to party, work and have fun while doing it. 

ecause we don't know what our END GAME is, HA HA I cant decide if my END GAME is just about the perfect weight numbers, or if its about what I want to look and feel like or a combination of all three. Where does our state of happiness fit into the END GAME because some can also be the perfect weight and look amazing and still be unhappy so I think my END GAME must be about how I live and how I feel about myself - my END GAME is to feel good about myself and be happy! 

P.S. my husband always says you can eat everything in moderation which is what I am doing now. The moment you start feeling deprived is when you start thinking of your eating as punishment and not something to celebrate! 

Personally I also eat what I like and what helps me feel good. I do not eat junk food except in very rare instances. When I lost the weight this last time I had a goal besides my weight loss, I think that was the best thing. It was to not have a knee replacement. Before I was just losing weight to lose weight and no plan to keep it off. I'd lose on low carb but it made me feel sick all the time so it wasn't a plan I could live with. So a constantly tweaked plan of whole natural foods within calorie and fat limits evolved along with exercise. Besides not having a knee replacement looming, I'm no longer in constant pain, my lung strength is increasing (asthma), my migraines are few, my whole outlook on my life is different. I can do things now that I want to do not hampered by my body saying no most of the time. It still now and then but that's ok i'm no longer 30, or 40, or 50. Also going from a size 18 to a size 4 jeans is amazing!  

Jilzee - sounds like you have everything in balance this time - keep it going!  

Moo Me - excellent point about finding happiness! There is no guarantee that losing weight will make us happy. Working on finding satisfaction in life must go hand in hand with reaching any of our goals.  

Wholefood - Thank you for this. Although I'm not facing a knee replacement, my creaky old joints could use some relief. Just being able to move with less pain should be a goal in itself. Think I'll take my size 10 jeans out of storage and hang them where I'll have to look at them every day.  

I've had to change my end game...it is more related to health now instead of a pant size or weight. I'm opposite of Wholefood in that LCHF is making my health better & I feel so much better. Eating a "balanced diet" (even all natural foods) left me sick as a dog. My entire blood test results have improved. (I'm still fighting to lower my glucose levels but they are much improved from where they used to be). I'm 20 pounds lighter than I was when I joined FS with much further to go...but I will continue to adjust until I get there. So I guess I'm hoping for decent weight loss with a true end game of being healthy. 

I am totally goal oriented - which is why I keep on going! 

Darlene - I am so glad you spoke up. I am very aware of how important those glucose results are. Most of us realize that what works for one may not work for another. The important thing is finding your magic ticket. Best of luck in that.  

I have a bathing suit hanging right next to my closet. Doesn't get much more visual than that lol. I try not to sweat the numbers and instead focus on the clothes I fit into.( or not!) 

HCB - to me, that means you must have a clear vision of your goals - way beyond the control of the idiot box.  

Nicholaix - Being able to wear the styles I love would be priceless. No more being limited only to tops that skim my fat rolls. Wonder what it would be like to be able to actually tuck in a blouse into my jeans again?  

This is so me... I lost 67 lbs and got down to size 12-14 from 18 and because i had no end game, I gained it all back plus 40 lbs more and I was up to size 20-22. Im now down to 16's and had lost 40lbs. Im still not under 200lbs.. My end game is to live a healthier life style. I not only want to lose the weight but I want to keep it off. I want to eat better and exercise more. I want to feel good about myself inside and out. I want to live to be in my 80's like my grandparents. I want to make this a way of like and not lose interest or motivation. I owe it to myself to be the version of me I can. I want to stop making excuses.. Like im too tired or its to expensive. AND I want to wake up early every day and not be so lazy.. bahahaha Thanks BB.. this is truly a great topic. Makes me realize, that not only am I working on the next 2lbs , i working on the next 10, and 20 and 30 and 40..  

Cosmo magazine, years ago, recommended buying an outfit a size too small that you really want to get into. Hang that outfit where you can see it everyday to remind yourself of your goal. Once you've accomplished that goal, go to the next size too small. 

Redgirl - Love your reply. We can make it to the end this time - No more excuses for us!