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Two foods for thought-literally!
1. Sugar is bad for me. I ate pancakes two mornings ago and about two hours later I got the worst jitters all over my body. The worst thing was that my right cheek also started to twitch badly. In addition to that, I have noticed that when I get off my diet, within a week or two, I become very moody and depressed.I dont feel like doing anything, I cant concentrate and I feel lousy. High carb products are bad for me..bad, bad, BAD!!
2. Eating too many supplements gives me headaches and nausea. I normally eat a multivitamin and a hair supplement. I have added an energy booster (packed with b vitamins and more) and also amino acids to the diet. I have just realized that every time I eat all the tablets together, I get the intense headaches and sinus pain, coupled with occasional nausea. I am going to stop eating the latter two supplements for a few days. If nothing happens, I will reintroduce 1 supplement and see how it goes. I am hoping that this might be able to pinpoint which supplement could be the headache culprit.
MOTHER IN LAWS PENDING ARRIVAL
MIL is arriving tomorrow. I cant tell you guys how stressed out I am, even though I am not sure why I am this stressed out. I have always been closer to my father in law and ever since he passed away my relationship with my MIL has become more and more distant. I think it might be because my father in law always had the last say and he was a wise man so I respected his decisions more. My mother in law and I dont have much in common intellectually. She is into fashion and shopping whereas I prefer going to a bookstore and having discussions about politics and people like Noam Chomsky. Her thinking patterns differ from mine too. I think first and then act, she tends to act first and think later (sometimes, thinking isnt in the process at all!!) Though I respect her as an elder, I dont have respect for her lack of common sense.
When she is here, the pros are that I get company and she helps around the house, unlike some in laws who sit on their lazy asses and expect their daughter in law to slave away.
The cons are that she will try to take over things like making my bedroom and no matter how many times I tell her not to, it just falls on deaf ears. Short of being rude to her, I dont know how else to make her realize that I want to do things my way and in my own sweet time. She thinks that she is merely helping me out because my bed wasnt made and its already afternoon. My contention is that even if it is midnight, its MY responsbility to make the bed.
She gossips about my daily family going ons to her daughters and family members. I never know anything about her daughters children or her daughters relationships with their spouses but every little tiff is made headline news. Every time a kid talks back to me, it is spread around the grapevine.
And then there is the guilt factor. She wants to tag along every single time I leave the house. I do try to take her out as often as I can but I dont want to babysit her. I cant get a break from little bear and now I will have to take her everywhere too. Its not entirely her fault. I feel guilty about leaving her home alone because I know she is housebound and her only way to get out and about is through me. I also realize how crappy it is to be cooped up in the house constantly so I dont want her to be in that situation either.
Sorry guys, just venting and hopefully its just a whole bunch of worrying over nothing.
Hope I get to chat ya'all soon..you betcha (just for you bad andee!!)
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Good observations on the sugar and supplements, and kudos for taking the steps to resolve the things that give you the problems! As for MIL, I don't know what to say. Sounds like It may be a difficult situation. I hope that things work out for the best for you all. Maybe you can get her interested in a community group that involves people her own age. If she's busy with that, she won't be around to hassle you! We'll always be here if you need to vent! Good luck, dear! :)
02 Aug 08 by member: mbhpro
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Good investigative skills to discover so many side effects from eating carbs and from your supplements. Perhaps you could try taking the supplements at different times throughout the day. Say, half in the morning and half at night or whatever is easier for you to remember. I hear you about MIL's. I don't know how long your MIL is staying but I have a few suggestions that might help you maintain your sanity. If she likes to help out, let her. Even if it oversteps the bounds a little. It will make her feel useful AND keep her out of your hair for a few minutes :) Don't let her gossipping tendencies get to you. People who judge others on the basis of gossip aren't worth your concern, so don't worry about what the rest of her family might think. They can accept you as you are or not. No skin off your nose! As for her tagging along when you run errands, maybe ask her if she would like you to drop her off somewhere like the mall (since you say she loves fashion and shopping!) and offer to pick her up when you're done your errands. Then maybe you can meet her for lunch so she can't think you are giving her the total brush-off and you will both have had a little quality "me" time. Best of luck!
02 Aug 08 by member: evelyn64
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Very valid points and very good advice above. Like you said hopefully worry over nothing but, I'm sure it'll get a little sticky sometimes. Just breathe and have patience!
02 Aug 08 by member: kimbulie
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Re: the MIL -- is there some sort of native hand craft you might suggest she'd like to try, since she has some time on her hands WHILE YOU RUN AN ERRAND? When we visit, I LOVE having some peaceful "me" time away from her -- she talks non-stop! Or, can you request her to prepare a special dinner for you -- one that is really time consuming!! Re: the supplements -- always take with food, and they won't have so much chance to upset you. That's assuming you aren't REACTING to something you shouldn't take at all! Love your insights!
03 Aug 08 by member: gramnbear
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You have such good insight on yourself - I envy it. I know you will do fine with your mother in law. How long is she staying? Also, I find its good to tell some "white lies" when you need some time to yourself. Tell her you have a dentist appt. or you are meeting with someone for advice on how to help your child get into a good college, or with a new friend for coffee. And get your escape for a couple hours!!
03 Aug 08 by member: Paige E
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Jeeez friend...I'm stressed FOR YOU! I put myself in your shoes, and find that I'd be suffering from stress-overload just thinking about MIL coming. You're in such a sticky situation. It's too bad you can't set some rules right up front, huh? I like grambears suggestion of getting her a hobby or craft...but that could go both ways! Maybe you could join a gym now and she can watch lil' bear for you while you take a couple of hours for yourself everyday! :)
04 Aug 08 by member: BadAndee
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It was good to hear someone else stress about their mil! Good Luck to you and just be cool like it sounds you are. How are you doing with your daughter? I am still having little spats with mine and she is 20! She is moving away soon and that still doesn't stop us from fussing and fuming to each other and ruining what little time we have together. I guess that is life. All is well. No matter what, we still love each other. I went and visited my other daughter who is 25 and she insisted I eat anything and everything we wanted. Fortunately, I didn't gain somehow. THey only seem to see their point of view. Stand firm about not making your bed! I finally trained my husband to forget his mother's training about always making your bed! Life is too short! Relax and enjoy.
04 Aug 08 by member: drmcdougaller
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Be careful taking amino acids. Some of them in high amounts (separated from food, i.e. extracted) can be neurotoxins. It is probably the amino acids that gave you the headaches. As for the MIL, try to make the best of it. She probably tries to help out because she doesn't want to be a burden. Find a way to talk to her about not gossiping about your family, give her chores to do so she doesn't have to find them. Some places have senior day-camps where they can go and hang out with other retired people during the day. Even if she can do that once a week, it would give you a break. :)
04 Aug 08 by member: sararay
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Why not take MIL out on early morning strenous walks that might leave her less than inclined to be so active! Forewarned is forearmed, try to prepare your own mind for the mental onslaught and remember that it is a temporary thing.. you WILL survive, yo are too wise not to! (my mil is coming to stay next week too)... keep checking in... (btw - I had to pass on aunt bessys yorkshire puddings the other day, do you remember them from your English Sunday dinners... hard to pass them up!)
06 Aug 08 by member: dave22
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