Not entirely sure. I guess it comes down to defining what the new normal looks like. I started at about the same place as you and think alot about what maintenance is going to look like. What I've learned about me is that simple carbs set off a need for more of the same. Also have figured out that maintenance for me might look like a couple of hundred extra calories a day, but that really isn't a whole lot. What I know for certain though is that I never, ever want to go back. If you figure it out, please let me know.
25 Feb 24 by member: Annisworkingonit
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Maybe you are wondering of you can trust yourself?
25 Feb 24 by member: unity1234
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Eat the donut go for a walk? Skip it until u find something healthy?
25 Feb 24 by member: Mistybenner
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I read lots of positives in your post. You now know donut shops don’t have anything you want to consume. So the next time “we” decide to stop on the way for breakfast weigh in your choice to go some place like McDonald’s which has a few better options. Or grab a few things like protein bar, nuts, fruit on the way out the door. Second based on the amount you ate /drank it doesn’t sound like you starved to death and maybe if you know a better meal is just a few hours ahead of you just skip the poor options. You will be okay. It’s a learning experience !
26 Feb 24 by member: honeebuns
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Another thing is if you really, really, really wanted to eat donuts you would have prior to being faced with it as the only option. That’s the most important lesson is that you really have changed your thoughts around food. Keep up the good work !
26 Feb 24 by member: honeebuns
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Sometimes your best choice is no choice. It's ok to be hungry once in a while. Congratulations on the donut enigma.
26 Feb 24 by member: Pegster8
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I have experienced both feelings! It can be so stressful and emotional when you are on a transformation journey. And it always starts in your mind & affects our emotions. And it is totally normal to feel stressed out when you try to make the best choices & realize the menu you are looking at has none. I took a moment to sit down & narrow down on-the-go options that I know I could count on to have healthy options & decided it would super rare if I ever eat at the unhealthy places anymore. I pretend they don’t even exist. As for the poor-man mentality experience both my parent grew up this way & raised us to always by things on sale or second hand. And I also have had years of work to let go of the same mindset & all the emotions attached to buying something that felt more expensive than what I was taught I should spend on it. Phew, it took a few years but I’m much better overall now. Just don’t be too hard on yourself. The good thing is you are so aware of it all & with intention it does all get better :)
26 Feb 24 by member: ioannamoon
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You made a good choice that shows growth...be proud of yourself
26 Feb 24 by member: gloverlatasha001
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You are a rock star and made the right choice in the end. As someone else said, it's ok to be hungry for a few hours - no one is literally starving to death.
26 Feb 24 by member: larilyn
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I understand your money issues through my own experiences. -------- You have lost a nice amount of weight. Keep up the good work. You can do it!
26 Feb 24 by member: sugarplum_
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The struggle is real. Maintenance is easy ..said no one ever!!! It is definitely a balancing act and sometimes it gets the better of us. This happens to me when my husband wants pizza. I finally told him he has to give me a 3-5 day advance notice so I can adjust WOE to include a treat day. You got this and when days like that happen, and they will, just adjust your eating for the rest of day or next day. 🩷
26 Feb 24 by member: Diana 1234
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I get that all the time. For me it takes a lot of control to lose weight. I want to hold on to the control so suddenly doing something that is outside the rules do bother me a lot. I try to be more flexible. But yeah work in progress
26 Feb 24 by member: liv001
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This is a very self-aware post and you should be proud of it. Have you looked into meditation for practicing kindness towards yourself and dealing with negative self-talk.
A great movie that is entertaining and touches on the psychological aspects of negative self-talk it is called Stutz.
It was on Netflix. The movie centers on is Jonah Hill the actor's interviews with his therapist, Phil Stutz.
It is worth everyone's time in my opinion!
26 Feb 24 by member: 22again
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You are right and this is hard. I think there are times I want to hit my head against the wall! I love a coffee from a coffee shop and have ran into this exact situation. I have learned to improvise but one thing for future reference - ask for skim or almond milk and then on the pumps of flavor have them cut it in 1/2 because they put way too much in. I also carry stevia packets in my purse in a Ziplock for these unknown places to help me compensate! Also I keep protein bars in my purse for emergencies so you could of substituted for your donut. You will get the hang of it and I even have a friend who buys the packets of salad dressing to use in a restaurant so that she has what she needs!
26 Feb 24 by member: Redporchlady
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Great advice from other comments. You will eventually figure out what works best for you in those situations. We're all going to have them. Make the best decision you can at the time, eating a smaller portion as you did. Get back on track asap. Don't beat yourself up!
I had to giggle at the FGPTSD mention. Will help keep some of us in check.
You. Got. This.
26 Feb 24 by member: Laurie62707
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I agree with Annisworkingonit that this situation kinda forces one to grapple with the meaning of “normal.” We can’t go back to normal if normal made us fat, as you say. We have to make the new discipline, however we would sometimes wish to be released from it, into the new normal. This donut shop situation shows you you are already there, or at least very much on your way there, so it’s something to celebrate. Another way of looking at this situation is to imagine the exact opposite: if you had a donut or two in the “old normal” autopilot mode, how would that feel afterwards? I would be terrified I’m sliding back. Every day I look for a sign that my new reality of weight loss and control over food is indeed real. This morning my husband made muffins for kids for breakfast. That was not my plan, so I did not have any. It was hard but I resisted mainly to uphold (to myself) the sense of a new normal. Is it sad I can’t have the muffin with kids? Not really: I am happier holding on to the new normal. Also: is it possible to be insufferable to others with one’s infatuation with the new normal? Absolutely🤪
26 Feb 24 by member: Agnes Z
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My trainer said that an unglazed old fashioned donut only has 140c, that’s my go to whenever I’m in a food desert and have limited choices
26 Feb 24 by member: templerestored
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Thank you all for your insight and support! We were traveling and in a time crunch so unfortunately there just weren't good options. I usually pack some things that I can eat just in case, but it was a very quick overnight trip and so I just didn't this time in an effort to simplify what I was bringing. I will not make that mistake again! I felt so silly in the moment but I realize now that the guys working there were young and just not really inclined to help. It caused me to panic and I froze. I will have more confidence next time!
26 Feb 24 by member: MelKaye3
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You must live in the US where it’s close to impossible to eat healthy, especially when dining out. Even frozen seafood has extra chemicals in it, not to mention what is in the food they feed the animals. I get frustrated when I try to buy a beverage and can’t even find a sugar free tea that doesn’t contain artificial sweeteners i
28 Feb 24 by member: TRachael
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For me, no poison donuts that got me obese. It's just a big no. I would fast if there were no options and have a black coffee or add Splenda. For me, a donut is like crack. Always have a plan when forced to eat somewhere not good. You're really not going to starve. You'll figure it out. You're aware.
29 Feb 24 by member: jenjabba
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