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Family + Drama = Understanding My weekend was busy. I helped clean a house on Saturday for my cousin and while I was dirty and tired when I got home, I was happy to help out. On Sunday, my whole day was turned upside down. Needless to say, I was told by another family member that I am too skinny and everyone thinks I am starving myself. I know I have mentioned this in past journals, but I am 5’4” and as of now my weight runs between 160.4 lbs. on a good day to 162 lbs. on a bad day. I am a healthy weight and not skinny. I tried to ignore that comment, but my feelings were hurt. I guess that comes with being human. Losing weight is so hard, but keeping the weight off is the real struggle. The weight loss struggle is not only physical but also emotional. If you exercise everyday (1 hour a day) some people see it as obsessive, if you have a restricted calorie diet (less than 2,000 calories) some people may think you are starving yourself. In the past if I was hurt by a comment someone made about me I would eat the pain away. Now when I am faced with the same situation, I cannot turn to food for understanding, but have to try to understand myself and why I let people’s words hurt me. The one thing I am learning about myself as I am getting older is that I am still that insecure little girl that was picked on for being overweight. Aging does not grant change in our spirit, but gives us an understanding of our flaws and strengths. My flaw is insecurity but my strength is in understanding that I am insecure and learning to develop the strength to handle negativity. ❤
Diet Calendar Entries for 23 March 2015:
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1626 kcal
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Fat: 38.02g | Prot: 66.64g | Carb: 254.00g.
Breakfast: Unsweetened Applesauce Cups, Craisins - Fruit & Nut Trail Mix, Nellie & Joe's Key West Lime Juice, Tap Water, Great Value No Calorie Sweetener (Made with Aspartame), Nature's Own 100% Whole Wheat Thin Sliced Bagels, Butterball Natural Inspirations Turkey Breast - Maple, Laura Lynn Fat Free American Singles, Torani Sugar Free French Vanilla Syrup, Torani Raspberry Syrup, Truvia Sweetener (Packet), Sweet'N Low Zero Calorie Saccharin Sweetener, Sunny South Chocolate Drink, Flavored Coffee (made From Ground). Dinner: Redd's Strawberry Ale, McDonald's McChicken - No Mayo & Lettuce. Snacks/Other: Tap Water, Nellie & Joe's Key West Lime Juice, Truvia Sweetener (Packet), Sweet'N Low Sweet'n Low, Great Value No Calorie Sweetener (Made with Aspartame), Great Value Sea Salt Ice Cream Sandwiches. more...
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2079 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Showering - 4 minutes, Sitting - 7 hours, Walking (slow) - 2/mph - 54 minutes, Resting - 10 hours and 32 minutes, Sleeping - 5 hours and 30 minutes. more...
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You know what Giggin, when I started losing weight I used to get the same comments., Especially from my mother. People would say I looked sick, I was drawn, and on, and on. I used to actually get angry at the comments. I am 5'8" and went down to around 180 lbs. and some people were telling me that. At that weight and height, I was still overweight. Then I started to gain weight and again (especially from my mother) I would hear, Oh, you are really putting on a lot of weight aren't you?
I just wish people would shut up sometimes. I think they put a picture in their mind of what THEY think you should look like and then they expect you to live up to what they want. There comes a time you have to just say the hell with everyone, this is for me!
23 Mar 15 by member: skydiverjim
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23 Mar 15 by member: Cindystinger
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Without realizing it, family & close friends can be in the habit of speaking openly to you about your weight when they wouldn't do that to others. Perhaps it's a leftover from how they expressed concern for you when you were a child. It's especially important for you to remember the comments reflect a dated relationship that will have to be updated now that you are an adult -- especially after you have lost weight and feel good about yourself. Perhaps you could gently tell them that while you know they mean well with their comments, you are enjoying your new weight now and wish they could join you in that.
23 Mar 15 by member: carol in kinderhook
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I get those comments at work all the time. I'm 5'6" and now at 130 which is good for my frame. It's normally from those who do need to lose and have been on one fad diet after another and have had no success. They are also the ones who have asked how I've lost weight and tell me watching portions, eating nothing but non processed healthy foods (occasional treat) and exercise is too hard.
25 Mar 15 by member: wholefoodnut
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Just ignore them and do what you know you need to do. The rewards are great!
25 Mar 15 by member: BuffyBear
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I am also 5'4" - 160 lbs is not too skinny. My goal weight is 140 lbs. If you feel healthy don't worry about everyone else. I find your weight loss inspiring. Keep up the good work. :)
25 Mar 15 by member: bway
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Don't ignore the comment - flat out tell them: Why, thank you for your concern! I am so glad you care enough to worry, but I am doing GREAT and you don't need to worry about me at all!
You have to realize their comments are all about THEM and not about you at all - people are either genuinely concerned about you and need reassurance that you are fine, or they are jealous. I assume the first and express my care about them cuz really that is all people want is attention.
If you are happy and feeling well, good job!
25 Mar 15 by member: abbadabba
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So true, you hit the nail... it's all about them, not you.
25 Mar 15 by member: wholefoodnut
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I say ignore (kindly) everything other people say about your weight. When you're obese, people will say you don't need to lose weight. When you're at your right weight, they will say, "Oh, you can eat this; it won't make you fat" -- when it will! YOU are the only one who has to bear all the consequences of the choices you make, not them. So, we have to learn to be a diplomat but let pretty much all those comments go in one ear and out the other. Even if they are at their right weight themselves (which few Americans are), they don't live in your exact same set of circumstances, and they do not have to deal with your unique set of genes, temptations and inherited tendencies.
25 Mar 15 by member: Felisbirdae
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