abundantlyshierry's Journal, 19 August 2014

Dont worry about the others, worry about yourself. In making a life style change I have realized the only person that matters is you. Hopefully seeing you do well will make the others want to do better. If I am worrying about others I am not focusing on me and then my eating goes South.  

1 - How do you keep the paranoia out. // You deal that maybe you're not paranoid. Misery loves company, and sometimes on an unconscious level, people around you will pose actions that assures them that you are still one of them. 2 - You don't feel bad. You feel proud and realise that everyone is responsible for themselves. You go for a role of trying to inspire them. So, you spin it as a favor you are doing to all of you. What favor would you be doing them to just be 'one of them' instead of taken a path less traveled by your entourage...(the path of health!) By your pic profile, I can tell you are young. I so much wish I'd done this when I was young! I encourage you to find buddies here and hear their message of encouragement. It keeps you focused and know that you are not alone. Best of Luck.  

I have been an emotional eater for years - replaced any relationship with men with foods! I am a great cook! Just had to spend all my time raising the kids and protecting them from their father...long sad story, lots of time in court over the last 10 years. Now, all I have done is adjust most of my favorite recipes with low fat/low cal options, and PORTION control. (my personal demon...) I'm not hungry, and actually looking forward to getting on the scale at the gym this week. I know I've lost a little because my jeans are looser! I don't exercise much, but am not hungry. I have a stash of healthy go-to snacks to keep me from getting really hungry and then overeating. Its working for me, and it can work for you! Eat well, get your exercise, and do well! Then you can be an encouragement to those miserable doubters around you, and they can feel better as well! But they have to make their own, personal choice (just like you did) to change their lives for the better. And change is hard...and sometimes frightening! Keep a positive outlook, come to us for support and continue to be a healthy LOSER!  

You have to learn that being a little selfish is okay and the only person who will take care of you is you. You can't change others just how you react to them. Stay the course. Do some googling to find ways of how to handle people who may try to deter you (whether they mean to or not).