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25 Points of oreos =/= clean eating.
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I am so sad right now. My life is kind of falling apart.
I ended a 3-year-live-in relationship... because it just didn't feel right to me. Nothing really wrong, but just not right.
And I feel like since I'm the one who is ending this, I don't have the right to feel as sad about it as I do...
Also, I'm doing badly at school and at work.
And I am still living with and sleeping with this guy who I broke up with on Saturday... yeah, I know it's wrong.
I just want my life back. First step: Breathe. After that, I can only come up with this:
1) Tackle all of this paperwork on my desk at work. Looking at it piling up while I serve the web because "my life sucks so bad that I 'deserve' to be unproductive" is just stressing me out.
2) Go to class tonight, take notes, do well.
3) Go home and exercise for an hour. Also, get back to eating right. No more binge-eating. Gaining ANY weight back at this point is not an option, because it will just make me feel worse.
4) Do homework. Study.
5) Get to bed at a decent hour. This means before 11.
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It doesn't really matter who ends it when it comes to serious, long-term, adult relationships. You have every right to be sad. It's heart-breaking. I ended a relationship like that. I still loved him very much but it wasn't "right." Good for you for being strong enough to make that decision! It's one of the hardest things you can ever do but it shows how much you love yourself and are willing to make hard choices for your long-term happiness.
23 Feb 11 by member: beets_yum
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Yea, you have every right to feel sad. You know in your heart it wasn't right. Take care. It will get better.
23 Feb 11 by member: Suzi161
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I understand. I broke up with a bf of 5 years because it wasn't "right". I actually did still love him- in like a caring friend don't want to see you hurt way- and that made it very sad. Actually, I've been the breaker and the breakee and I honestly found the breaker harder because you feel so guilty. It is sad. You are definitely allowed to be sad. Be sad. And get out of that live-in situation as soon as you can, even if it's not ideal. I also did that sticking around after breaking up and it just got uglier and uglier.
23 Feb 11 by member: k8yk
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You have to trust your instincts - if it doesn't feel right, it just isn't. I also have been on both sides, breaker and breakee - and found the former harder, at least initially. I got over it fairly quickly (unlike when I get broken up with) but making the decision, speaking it, living through the unravelling - so awful. I feel for you. But you are doing the right thing.
23 Feb 11 by member: Z'sMama
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I hope you don't mind me commenting but you are being so hard on yourself, give yourself a break, I'm sure that's what you'd say if it were a friend of yours with the same predicament. Don't overload yourself with lists of things to do, because when you don't achieve them all it'll be something else to beat yourself up about. Be kind to yourself, you do deserve it and take each day as it comes rather than thinking what you should be doing next week etc. I hope your situation gets easier soon, take care.
23 Feb 11 by member: M4MMC
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I had no idea you were going through this until tonight. I hope you feel better soon. Please don't kick yourself if you eat some not-as-healthy food for a day or two. You don't have to be perfect, and you are allowed to grieve for a lost relationship. One of the most stressful things in a person's life is loss of another, whether its by death, or some other reason. I had to leave my X husband because our relationship was just not right. It was the hardest thing I have ever done, but I was the one who initiated it. The bright part of it was that my terrible depression that I had felt for years lifted when I left.
Please take care of yourself.
23 Feb 11 by member: Skylark Prather
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I am so sorry to hear that you're having such a rough time. I know how it is to end those types of relationships... You have every right to be upset about it. Ending anything in your life is a big decision, and it's always going to be difficult. The fact that you were strong enough to realize that you weren't happy, AND TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, says something about how strong of a person you really are.
Your plan for getting back on track is perfect. Just stick to it. You'll get yourself out of this right, and just remember, your buddies are always here to help :)
24 Feb 11 by member: lmc5238
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