kmunson's Journal, 17 October 2013

Could your husband possibly be dealing with a lot of stress? I know from experience that nagging will only make things worse. No one is more aware of what it took to lose the weight than your husband. Cook the right way and have the foods available to him. He must be the one to make the right choices. Have healthy snacks available as well. 

K - that is exactly what happens to me if I eat something off plan. I can 'splurge' for something as innocent as sugar free frozen yogurt and the binge will start. Also, you know eating is in large part emotion and not hunger. He may have something going on emotionaly that you don't realize. My final thought is that somethimes we just say 'to heck with this' I deserve to be NORMAL!! That will also start a binge and I think it is the hardest thing to deal with. We go on these weight loss journeys and have to know that we are not normal. sometimes, that gets to be too much and we throw up our hands and binge. You can only hope he figures it out before he gains all the weight back. THe only think I think you can do is try to make sure he weighs himself at least weekly. (I hope that is the habit that you all have already). I found that after I lost weight, I stopped journalling and stopped weighing. I gained the weight back without really realizing what I had done because the scale was not there to tell me. Good luck to him. You stay strong as I know you will :) 

I don't know for sure why he's doing this, but I can tell you that my husband did the same thing. My husband actually started his weight loss long before I did, going to the gym, eating healthy and dropping pounds like a mad man. It took a while before I jumped on the bandwagon and I never thought I would catch up to his loss. Then over the summer he stopped going to the gym, started drinking beer more often and eating whatever he wanted. I tried to lead by example I suppose. I kept with the gym and the healthy eating, kept junk out of the house and let him wear himself down. He is finally back on the wagon, though he gained back twelve pounds and I hope he has learned his lesson. Maybe you're right, the stress leading up to the doctor visit is gone and he is kind of celebrating his 'win', but all you can do is keep on doing what you're doing and hope he jumps back on sooner rather than later. He can't eat what isn't in the house, be proactive. Men, they never make any sense! 

thanks all...he started going to the grocery store with me. I let him decide what he wants in the house. He and I eat differently. I just never thought he would sit down and eat all that ice cream! It blew me away. I try not to nag...just am concerned. I also caved and got some ice cream myself, heavenly hash...haven't had it in years. I kept to one serving though when I ate mine. Now there are 11 servings left of that. Hope he doesn't like heavenly hash too! Yolanda, he started his journey about 6 months before I did. He wanted to get off the blood pressure medicine he had been put on. That was his kick in the pants. Then on Friday the doctor told him that it was good that he had gone off it. (I didn't know he stopped taking it 2 months ago). Men...what you going to do? They think we are crazy...but right back at you! 

Seeing this change in you husbands eating pattern must be frightening for you. Perhaps he is just pushing the envelope to see how far he can go before the weight starts to pile back on. Do you weigh together? Maybe the challenge of your weekly loss will encourage him to better maintain his loss. Do you both post your weights somewhere so that he can help your weight loss process and allow you to be active in helping him. I am sure that if he saw you eat that much ice cream or that many cookies at one time that he would be concerned for you and I would hope he would fine some way to work through whatever was troubling you. Good luck it is very hard to see someone cause themselves pain, you, loving him so much, want to find a "fix" for his problems. I pray that he once again he begins to maintain his weight. 

He said next he is going to start on my ice cream to keep me from being "fat". He is also on fatsecret under a nickname. He has his profile visible to "buddies only". I can't see his because I have never requested to be his buddy. Some things need to be kept private for some people. I need mine to be public to keep me accountable. 

Toss the ice cream away!! Do not buy any more. Go out for a cone or to 31 Flavors or Culvers, sit down and enjoy the double dip cone, go home and feel good that the freezer is a ice cream free zone. No one will overindulge while sitting at a table in a resturant. Have an ice cream date night!! 

The ice cream is almost gone...my 14 year old was busy today eating it. Not what needed to happen to it either. At least I did not buy the pails of ice cream! They do not realize that they have sunk the ice cream boat yet! I won't buy more because they cannot keep hands off or spread out the enjoyment. Hope they liked it...they won't see it again!