hollipop's Journal, 25 January 2013

So, today's weigh-in is helping to make my day better. Yesterday didn't go so well. It really annoys me when people come to me and say they want me to help out with a project, then end up doing all of it without me. Why bother asking in the first place?
The same couple of people have done this to me multiple times in the last couple weeks with different parts of one big project. I had finally had enough when they ended up trying to take over the part of the project that was specifically mine. I had decided if they didn't let me make my own decisions, I was just going to get out of it. I mean, why be involved in something where no one listens to you or respects your feelings, right???
I mean, am I overreacting? Would you be offended if someone (particularly a close family member) told you they wanted your help with a project, then a couple days later says that someone else has made all the decisions (and their help wasn't even asked for)?? Then that same person starts making all other kinds of decisions without being asked, even trying to convince other people in the project that the couple of suggestions you offered aren't good enough. My husband is involved in the project too, and even he is listening to this other person's opinions. I just really feel slighted.
Anyway, sorry this ended up being so long, especially if it doesn't make sense. I just needed to unload some thoughts. Maybe my day will be a little better now with all this gone, lol.
Had some snow today and supposed to get more before the day's out. School was cancelled because of the threat of the bad weather, thought that was weird! If there is snow when I get off work, and it's not too cold, might get the little ones out in it for a bit. Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!

Diet Calendar Entry for 25 January 2013:
752 kcal Fat: 34.18g | Prot: 30.50g | Carb: 83.58g.   Breakfast: margarine, fried egg, white bread. Lunch: fresh fruit cup, chicken salad wrap, broccoli cheese soup. more...
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You're not overreacting if you're only journaling about it. Considered talking to these people about it, especially hubby and the other family involved? Somewhat rationally, of course, as much as you can muster. Family tends to take things personally--I have 5 sisters, I KNOW. Also, my sisters and I are a little like that. When mom passed, we invaded Daddy's home to "HELP" him get her things sorted out, and we took over, ended up tossing some of the toiletries that were actually his in the process. You have to, tactfully, approach it as "I appreciate your help, however, this is my project and I would like to have input." Always start with the positive statement. Cushions the "Let me do it myself" statement.  
25 Jan 13 by member: ZippyDani
Oh, good luck and have a GREAT weekend!!! 
25 Jan 13 by member: ZippyDani
I tried talking to Hubby a little last night. He accused me of being jealous and over-sensitive, so I quit talking about it. I tried to explain that involving someone to help you and then leaving them out is (for someone who loves helping others) like giving a kid a present and then telling them they can't play with it. He just didn't get it. Why would he? He is fully involved in the project and having a great time! Oh well. If it doesn't get better soon, (and that one girl doesn't quit butting in where she's not wanted! lol) I may just back out of the project. I have plenty of other things to concentrate on anyway, like my sweet boys and my weightloss! :) 
25 Jan 13 by member: hollipop
Nothing wrong with venting on here about something that disturbs you - within reason. If you get emotionally distraught over something, and you are an emotional eater - as most of us are - well, you can do the math. I was part of a Financial Committee once, where it was our job as a team, to make financial decisions for the entity. However, the decisions were already made in advance, and they just wanted our buy-in. Screw that; I've got better things to do. If there is no benefit to your involvement, find something more gratifying. If you can't tell them to buzz off, then take that as permission for you to buzz off.  
25 Jan 13 by member: DairyKing
DK~ sounds like great advice to me, thanks! 
25 Jan 13 by member: hollipop
He's good, isn't he, Holliy? Gotta love DK. Pragmatic with a wicked sense of humour, What he said! Hope you feel better. 
26 Jan 13 by member: Helewis
Sorry I was gone for a few days. I agree your time could better be spent elsewhere too. Hope everything is working out for you 
27 Jan 13 by member: iamachristianjesusfreak

     
 

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