Chris1979's Journal, 13 October 2010

I know how you feel about the friend thing - I think thats happened with me and most of my older friends. It does suck, and your right - most of the time all you have to talk about is "remember back in HS...." Nothing new, no more fun times ahead, just what happened in the past. As far as the drinking - I'm going out tomorrow night, and I hope to have fun, but not to much fun... Anyway, try not to be to upset with your friend. You are just on two different paths - neither is more right than the other, your just two different people. Have a good day! 

Oh I know Chris that is so tough when we find we have nothing in common with those that we once thought were so close but people change and move in different directions and the best we can do is try to accept that change and be thankful for the time you had together. It is hard sometimes and can make us feel very alone but we being humans always find a way to move beyond it and come out with more understanding. I hope you feel better today and get back on track. I believe everyone passes through our lives for a reason and then we all grow and mature in different ways. By the way I have seen greek yogurt everywhere....what's the difference? 

Darn Christina!! Change is hard ... I agree. But ... it is just about the only thing predictable in this life ... it comes with regularity!! It isn't unusual to have friends drift in and out of our life. I think deep friendships, enduring friendships are quite rare. I have only one friend who I feel is truly my FRIEND ... though I have many 'friends' who come and go out of my life. My one intimate friend is someone I've known for more than 20 years ... we've been through a lot together, much like in marriage. As for your career crisis ... just keep moving along your path ... where you are is fine for now ... and where you will be in the future will reveal itself in time. Try not to beat yourself up for your weekend indulgences ... it doesn't help you!! What is, is. What was, was. What will be, will be. Take care buddy!!! 

Chris, I completely understand how you feel. In my lifetime I have had people that I thought would be my friend until we died and then something happened and they drifted away. Your paths diverged, but be comforted in knowing God placed them there for a reason and that at one point that person was a big part of your life and what you gained from that friendship will stay with you forever. As for the career, we all go through times where we are not satisfied with our career path, whether it is an ourside the home career or a SAHM career. You'll figure it out! As for your indulgences ove the weekend, well you are mourning the loss of something that was special to you. It would be expected that it would hurt and you would mourn!  

Southpaw ....not everybody 's lives are as they seem maybe your friend is in BIG TIME DEBT! You never know what is showing some people hide it well ,the old saying the grass is not always greener on the other side! ......Unless of course it's CITIZENS BANK BALLPARK IN PHILLY!!! GO PHILS!...... DROP THE giants....... 

I feel you on the friends thing. One of my best best friends has become very aloof in the last couple years. I can't decide if I did something wrong, or if she changed or if she's depressed and feels ashamed because she's not happy. Anyway. It's very upsetting. It's very easy in NYC to get caught up in who has what. So much of the culture is about STUFF. And expensive stuff, it's the epitome of conspicuous consumption. This is why I hardly ever leave Brooklyn. It's bad here, too. But not AS bad as Manhattan. And I hear you on the drinking. Here's to you getting back on track!  

Chris.. I think we all end up having friends like that... And it makes you reexamine the importance of them in your life...I wish you well with that because I know how hard it is!!! And I hope you figure out your career delimmea soon!! No worries about the drinking.. That was days ago!! It's a new day so you got this!!! Oh and I'm loving Rite Aid this week... And next week too!!.. My favorite is not knowing that there is a single check rebate on an item and entering the receipt anyway and finding out that there was one!! That's awesome, right?? And these free items.. Well they cant be beat!!! Especially since it's cold and flu season!!! Oh and meant to ask.. How is your sister in law feeling??  

Chris, you totally sound like where I was only a few weeks ago!! Ever thought of going back to school?? 

At least your friend is still talking to you ... even if she has 'moved up'... I have had a few friends in the past few years, who just dropped me when they 'became important'..... which is really sad....if you can overlook the materialistic part... can you still be friends?.... material possessions are usually a replacement for something else... she may need your friends now more than ever.... just a thought.... as far as the career goes... until you are finished school (you are in school right)... who knows what opportunities will cross your path... enjoy your day...