kehfeh's Journal, 07 May 2015

Start with small steps. One step at a time. Stop soda pop or stop late night eating or start strength training a bit everyday... and then when you get used to that one thing, add another. Don't be so hard on yourself, we all go through times like this. Remember that you are worth it and the light at the end of the tunnel is well worth it too. We are humans, not robots and when we take a step back, realize it's okay and get back on track.  

You have already taken the first steps--making the decision to take control, coming back here where you have found success before. Really think about what worked for you last time you were able to lose the weight. That is where you need to start. As you put your healthy plan together, you can also consider the long term challenge of hopping off the roller coaster. Welcome back. 

I'm in exactly the same boat, word-for-word. Start small and be consistent, you'll make more progress that way than promising you'll be able to move the world. One quick comment about what you said about how eating makes you happy - I feel exactly the same way. Then I realized that it's what I eat that makes me happy, not how much. The first few bites are always the best. More doesn't taste better. I hope that thought helps! 

Good luck Kelly, you can do it! 

You've already started...you logged in...you know what to do ;) 

Welcome back! 

Everyone is right - you have already started. Don't beat yourself up - the reason there are sites like this is because we are human and we make mistakes. Just get back to doing what worked the first time. Remember to log your food to help you stay on track, and come here for support as often as you need it. 

U DID IT BEFORE AND YOU WILL DO IT AGAIN .. :) welcome and good luck .. you are in the right track  

We have all been there before. I agree all of above; yes you did the first step, yes start slow and replace bad habits slowly and one by one. Well these are all true, but if everyone in the world could have done that, there will be no overweight people in the world, let alone obesity problem. If eating has become an obsession and you are obsessive person (like me), I say try to find another obsession. Some people swear by going to gym and lift weights, some people walk/run, or do both. Just replace eating with something else. I will go further and propose this: when you are hungry, instead of eating something, just drink some water, maybe you are thirsty. Go out for a walk instead of indulging. Buy one of those gadgets (fitbit, jawbone, nike whatever), anything to get you moving, competing with yourself. And sometimes plan to fail. Diet well for a week and have a good portion of cloud 9 food on the 8th day. Good luck 

Welcome back, Kelly! You've been missed! I think what you've been missing is logging into FS for support and to be reminded that you are not on this journey alone. We are all here for you.  

Good to see you back. Time to get back on track. You can do it.  

(I have to get back on track too) my favorite thing is to search for new food/meals to make and experience new tastes and flavors frozen fruit, frozen yogurt should be your go to for bad snacks 

Hang with it! 

welcome back hunny! i can give you my email if you would like so that way we can hold eachother accountable to get on here daily, record our food and exercise!! :)  

A setback is a setup for a comeback... 

One day at a time... just think how good you will feel when you ditch the junk food. It is hard, but you can do it!!! 

One 'foot' in front of the other 

I really think you hit the nail on the head. You have identified the problem of finding happiness when you have sugar. Learning to treat your obsession with sugar or sweets is the real source because we need food to survive. I tried many many times to lose weight and was never successful in the past til last 7 months. I went to the source. I had to find out why I was hungry all the time. I had to find out why I could not eat like normal people ate. The solution was something that in the past... I just did not want to hear or listen too. They told me to stop drinking diet soda, artificial sweeteners, and processes foods. I did not want to hear it or make those changes and guess what... I was never successful at losing weight. But last October my dietician just asked me to cut out the diet soda, splenda, and drink lots of water with eating high fiber foods just for 2 weeks. She said just try it for 2 weeks and see what happens. I lost 15 pounds in those 2 weeks and realized that I had gone to the source of what my problem was. From then on it has been all down hill. I have learned to love drinking lots of water I eat like a normal person now. If you do not go to the source and solve it, then your fighting a losing battle. I mean you can stay away from the sweets and sugar for a while, but they will always be there just waiting for you and the cravings will never go away. Insanity is trying the exact same thing over and over and expecting different results. So try something new this time. 

What really helped me has been to tackle why I am so obsessed with food, and what role food plays in my life. It hit hard one day when I was upset that my friends didn't want to go out for pizza (my favourite) for dinner - I realised how pathetic it was to be hinging so much of my happiness on food! That's the same thing people do with drugs and alcohol! Obviously everyone's problems are different, but if you find food is highly linked to your emotions maybe try doing some reading on emotional eating if you haven't already? It really was an eye opener to me. Now I replace food with being productive and doing things that are good for me in the long run. It's hard, I still get cravings, but each time I resist and find happiness elsewhere it's a step towards being free of addiction and food as an emotional crutch. I still haven't managed to establish a totally healthy diet, and I'm slowly working exercise into my life, but it doesn't feel like such a struggle this time round, because I know why it was hard before and that it doesn't have to be like this. Good luck with your journey and I hope you can find a mindset that works for you and for your long term health! :) 

Welcome back!