debrafrederick's Journal, 17 August 2016

I need to vent about my day today, I had issues and a pretty bad panic attack while at work.

I have a nameless customer who is a vet with PTSD, he comes in checks his mail and leaves, he never speaks or even looks at me when he comes in, this has been his MO for the last two years when he comes in. I always greet him when he walks in whether he responds or not. The box belongs to his Dad who comes in once a month to pay his mortgage, Dad can't see, so I fill out his money order and address the envelope for him and he talks to me while I do this for him. I am aware of his son's issues through him because his son never speaks to me. His son was confined to a mental institute several months ago and has been released for about 6 weeks now. Yesterday I was boxing the mail prior to opening when I heard a box being unlocked, then cursing and slamming and stomping. I called out to see if there was something I could help someone with and I got no response. I went into the lobby and saw him walking across the parking lot waving his fists wildly. I thought it odd, but then thought he might be talking on the phone to someone as he usually wears a blue-tooth headset so I went back to boxing mail. Thirty minutes later I opened and waited on a few customers. Then I went back and started putting the sales papers in the boxes...I save them for last. My angry customer came back, opened his box and began cursing again, I walked quickly to the counter and asked if there was something I could do for him. He was leaning over onto my counter and pounding on it with his fists. He demanded to know what I did with the mail for his box, he was waving the sales circular at me. I told him that all first class mail and packages had been delivered and if his box was empty then he had not received any mail today....he pointed at me and said...You need to get on the phone and ask those MF'ers where is my money.... I kept my voice very low and calm and I explained that it was not my place to contact his business associates to ask them for payment, but if he had a tracking number I would be happy to check to see where it was. He threw the sales papers at me and walked out. This was yesterday, while he was pointing and cussing at me I could smell the stench of marijuana and beer on his person...so I figured he was under the influence and left it at that and I completed my day with no further incidents. Today, half hour before I opened and before I had the mail up he was back in there..same routine..box opened, slammed shut, cussing and stomping...exit. I opened and a lady came in to return a package, he came in...saw someone at my counter and cursed loudly and walked back out. The lady was startled and said OH MY, what was that all about? I just shook my head and said I have no idea. Two more people came in and I took care of them then went back to boxing the first class mail. My door opened and closed, then my counter bell began ringing violently like someone was beating it to death, I went around the corner and there he was beating my bell with his fist. He began screaming at me to give him his meds, he said I had his meds and I needed to give them to him right now. I edged towards my phone which was sitting next to my adding machine, he reached for me while calling me a liar, I grabbed for the phone then stepped back out of his reach and dialed 911. He took off out the door and I heard loud voices outside and a loud thump on the outside wall. I told the 911 operator that I had a drugged and crazy person on the premises who might be assaulting a customer in the parking lot and I needed an officer there as fast as possible. She took my name phone number and address and said someone was on the way. This was at 1pm.....The customer who had the misfortune to engage him when he left the lobby came in and said he had shoved him against the wall and threatened to kill him then he ran off, he was on the phone with 911 when he came in....This guy came into the PO 2 more times before the Sheriffs department finally showed up, he would wait until the parking lot was empty and he would come in and start shouting at me...I was scared to death....completely stressed out and having a panic attack by the time assistance arrived. Apparently, armed robbery of a grocery store has priority over a lone postal worker being harassed by a no-visible weapons crazy person even though she is terrified. That was my day....guess what...full moon!

Diet Calendar Entries for 17 August 2016:
397 kcal Fat: 45.14g | Prot: 0.85g | Carb: 0.28g.   Breakfast: Better Body Foods Organic Extra Virgin Coconut Oil, Land O'Lakes Heavy Whipping Cream, Coffee, Kerrygold Unsalted Pure Irish Butter. more...
2559 kcal Activities & Exercise: Resting - 7 hours, Standing - 4 hours, Sleeping - 8 hours, Sitting - 5 hours. more...

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Sounds like you handled that very well. ! & good that you can vent here, much needed. BTW: Did they detain him?  
17 Aug 16 by member: billtech66
Whew! Glad you're ok! 
17 Aug 16 by member: mskestrela
You did so well! I personally feel the biggest problem these days is how the mentally ill have no resources and are labled criminals when they really need help. 
17 Aug 16 by member: EDC1972
Yes, they did detain him and I hope he gets the help he needs, he is obviously off his meds and self medicating. I feel for him, but I am still stressed out and my hands are still shaking, his body language and demeanor triggered a fear response in me from seeing the same aggression and intimidation stances from my abusive first marriage. My fight or flight is still in high gear and I don't know if I will be able to sleep....AND I am wanting a cigarette and a gallon of milk and a pound of cookies none of which I have in the house thank goodness! 
17 Aug 16 by member: debrafrederick
Whew id have called the police as soon as mfrs came out of his mouth.  
17 Aug 16 by member: Mistybenner
Wow. Glad you're okay. So stressful for you!  
17 Aug 16 by member: SjF60
Blessings friend. 
17 Aug 16 by member: HCB
My heart rate is finally slowing and my blood pressure has returned to the normal range....I still feel wired and anxious but I think I will sleep when the time comes, trying to meditate but can't seem to focus or relax....the attempts are what are settling me down, gonna just keep trying 
17 Aug 16 by member: debrafrederick
I was going to remain silent, But wow. Im glad you are ok Deb. That's just crazy. 
17 Aug 16 by member: knuckles the mgtow monk
Thank God you are ok. 
17 Aug 16 by member: tina1098
Talk about having a bad day at the office! Wow, that was downright scary! I do hope you're able to find some peace tonight -- enough that will allow you a good night's sleep, and hopefully one that's nightmare free! 
17 Aug 16 by member: PhotogGal
For some reason he fixated on me as being the cause of all of his woes, LEOs did not make it there till 4 pm due to a rash of armed robberies, so I had this guy popping in and running out for almost 4 hours, he only came in when I was alone so I attempted to keep my customers in the building as long as possible. I could have called hubby to have him come sit with me, but he is super protective and it would have been like throwing gas on a fire. I'm very jumpy and when the fan blows my hair and I see movement out of the corner of my eye it makes me do a head-snap...geeze I hope this passes soon...I feel like I have PTSD now 
17 Aug 16 by member: debrafrederick
How terrifying! So glad you are okay. 
17 Aug 16 by member: VeggieJunkie
Can you contact his father? It sounds like he may need to be hospitalized again until things are under control again.  
17 Aug 16 by member: pandasmom
The world is getting crazier and crazier...thanks for sharing, glad things worked out Debra! Take care and hope your week ahead is peaceful and relaxing!! 
17 Aug 16 by member: Steven Lloyd
I gave the police all of his contact information I had available and as much of his mental background as I knew, they knew him also, this is a county with about 20,000 residents so not only does everyone know everyone, most of them are related in some manner....I'm one of the rare "Outsiders" this is the first time I have ever had any type of negative incident with a customer, granted he was never friendly, but he was never combative or abusive either. I'm glad things were settled with no injuries...other than my feelings and a shaking up of my comfort zone. I guess I got complacent and did not give the issue the consideration it merited on the first day it happened. Things like this escalate to the point where someone is dead or injured due to the inattentiveness of observers. If I had been in a similar situation down in South Florida, 911 would have been called at the first incident and there would not have been a Day 2.  
17 Aug 16 by member: debrafrederick
Thanks Steven, getting ready to lay down and see if I can get these mental gears to shift to neutral and let me sleep! Ya'll have a great night! 
17 Aug 16 by member: debrafrederick
Hope you're able to sleep, Debra. That was a very shocking experience for you and I'm sorry you had to go through it :( 
18 Aug 16 by member: Doobrie
Hope he never comes back.Very scary for you. 
18 Aug 16 by member: UmmBilal
scary time, sounds like you handled it well. have to feel sorry for his dad. well you experienced what they call "going postal" (sic) 
18 Aug 16 by member: kathleenscanlan

     
 

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