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Why
What, and i think i am asking the million dollar question here, what makes a human lose all motivation?
Everyday for four years i struggle with my diet and since two years i also struggle with my exercise. When i say struggle, i mean that there are times when i am super motivated, i can eat practically nothing and have to force myself to eat up to 1300 kcals. I can go to the gym and be actually sad to leave... lets call her person A.
And then it is like i am some other person, i cant get my butt off the couch, unless if i promise myself to get the chocolate, and i dont even care how much calories are in there! I hate my life, my body, i am tired to even get up and cook, and have no motivation whatsoever to pick up a knife to cut the veggies... And if they are on my plate, i have a very hard time chowing them down... Lets call her person B.
So what makes me switch from person A to person B?
What makes me switch from person B to person A is almost the same question.
The sad thing is that person B can undo in one hour, what person A has worked for in 5 days...
Are they purely hormone related? Stress factors? Social pressure? I have made myself a selfhelp-list where i refer to every possible situation, and the things i can do to prevent eating (chowing). But the help list is not sufficient. It can help person A, but it can not prevent the switch into person B. And once i am person B, i stop caring and throw the list out the window.
So what is the deal with that? How can i prevent becoming person B, and how can i switch to person A as soon as possible?
i will hear your input and ponder about this myself...
love maud. (person A atm)
Diet Calendar Entries for 23 March 2015:
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1400 kcal
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Fat: 34.65g | Prot: 71.00g | Carb: 193.75g.
Breakfast: Optimel Karamel Vla, Apples, Tomatoes. Lunch: Perfect Fit Protein, Alpro Soya Soja Yoghurt, Honey, Planters Mixed Nuts. Dinner: AH Champignon Ragout, Instant Witte Rijst, Broccoli, Mixed Vegetables (Solids and Liquids, Canned), Bouillon Vegetable Broth. Snacks/Other: Euro Shopper Chocolate Chip Cookies, Optimel Karamel Vla. more...
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2737 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Sleeping - 8 hours, Resting - 15 hours, Bicycling (moderate) - 13/mph - 1 hour. more...
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Someone else on here calls it the 80/20. The trick is to be person a 80% of the time and then not feel so bad about the 20% you are person b. It will take you a little longer to get to your goals but its more sustainable for some.
For me its all about lack of sleep and hormones. I don't keep certain foods in the house because I just can't be around them( what a single jar of nutella is more than 2 servings? wha?). I try to get outside and get some sun and/or fresh air when my Mrs Hyde comes out.
23 Mar 15 by member: nicholaix
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I apologize if I'm overstepping any boundaries with this question, but is there a possibility that you have depression or bipolar disorder? If it's that much of a swing, I would guess that there is a hormone imbalance in play. But I have been diagnosed with depression, so I might be trigger-happy with that diagnosis lol.
23 Mar 15 by member: Eden6
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Hola Maud,I'm currently person A - as i have my daughters wedding in June and want to fit into some of my clothes again……i agree have Monday to Thursday being A then Friday and Saturday person B. There is nothing better than feeling well and not carrying the extra weight - i just want to bottle that feeling and it might help me on my way! Good luck
23 Mar 15 by member: Casamielle
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I can soooo relate to this! In the past I was either GUNG HO or NO. This time around (and there have been many "rounds") I have been on a much more even keel. I used to set my goals unrealistically high and when I couldn't meet them "perfectly" everything fell apart. I'd miss a day at the gym and wouldn't go back for a week or never, I'd eat something I wasn't "supposed" to and fall apart for the next week or year! For me I have come to realize I am not perfect, I will not be able to be perfect, and keep on keeping on is my motto.
23 Mar 15 by member: Rckc
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Reading your thoughts, so well put, describes just about everyone I know including myself feels. My person A secretly worries about person B showing up all the time. You're not alone.
23 Mar 15 by member: herpinusa
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Even it out and become one.
23 Mar 15 by member: jparlett
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For me, I have to stand up to person B. I think it might be a type of depression issue. I will wake up with no desire to get to the gym or count the calories. Forcing myself out the door to get that activity in, no matter what, is what prevents the switch. The movement and the endorphins, it's a big pick me up. It's easy to break for a couple days and let person B consume you. Person A has to stick to her guns, even when she doesn't want to. Being aware of the situation only makes you stronger in the long run. Good luck maud.
23 Mar 15 by member: Annabelle3117
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"Fake it until you make it." Plan your meals the night before. Follow your plan. Schedule in a walk during lunch. Or schedule gym time like you would an appointment of meeting. You're doing fine. Don't fret.
23 Mar 15 by member: Eden6
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I do the 80% - 20% thinking - maybe it is perfectionism that makes the swing so big. Tell yourself you just have to do YOUR best - whatever that is. We cannot beat ourselves up. I also do not keep the unhealthy foods in my cupboard. I space out my eating so I have something to choose from all day. you are not alone. Take baby steps today - walk, drink water and plan meals ahead of time.
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You have done great in the past. You can succeed! I have been A and B too many times. Got over the all or nothing ideas. I go for replacements for the high calorie foods I really love. I don't buy junk food for my house. I enjoy celebrations with family and eat moderately but I will have that piece of homemade dessert! Notice I said piece which is a normal portion serving! Then, I really cut back the next week. I try to avoid my trigger foods such as commercial pizza. I am not perfect, I can't pretend to be, just do the best I can. I think a lot of people give up when they try to be too perfect. So what if a person binges. Get back on track as soon as possible. Be it the next day, or after a vacation, whatever works. Just know the more you wait the more you will pay the piper! The main objective should be to be healthy, or healthier. We are human, with human ups and downs. Life is to be lived. Food isn't the enemy. Food is for fuel and to enjoy or we wouldn't have taste buds.
23 Mar 15 by member: kattay
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Maud, I believe that the further you get into this journey the more wild those swings are. I have been person B for about a year now after a year of doing so well. I blamed it on all kinds of things...but I know that it was all me being weak. I haven't gotten to the top of the mountain again. When I was there I plateaued and then I stopped. I know I was afraid to exercise as I don't like it. That was the next step for me and I just could not force myself to do it. I feel for you. Those demons are my constant battle. When you figure it out let me know.
23 Mar 15 by member: kmunson
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I used the word "binge" loosely :) If you are going to over eat, at least pick out healthy whole foods, clean foods, not processed until the food turns into poison for your body! In that case, "processed foods" can be the enemy. Chocolate (70% and up) isn't the enemy either unless you add sugar and eat too much!
23 Mar 15 by member: kattay
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For me it is a couple of things, fear being one of them. It is this notion of, "Oh, my gosh, I really can do this! Wait. I can do this? What does that mean? Who am I if I do this?" I struggle with identity and while it's not a conscious thought it's there quietly humming away in the back of my mind. Yeah, I've heard it all, "You're going to be the person who you always have been" Well, gee, I've attempted suicide seven times, sure that's the right idea there? I don't think that indicates a high degree of liking who I am there. Or, "You'll be who you are at that time." Okay, not particularly helpful either. I can figure that out on my own too. I know I'll be whoever I am at that time, but who will that be. Right now, I'm that fat chick or the fat friend. I'm defined by my fat, but I have to let that go, and sometimes realizing I'm letting that go makes me turn into person B, because I get scared of what it will mean. Will I still have friends? What about my family? How will the conversations with my doctors go when they're not ending nearly every visit with, "you know really should try to lose weight, but with your meds you shouldn't expect to lose too much, but you really should try"?
23 Mar 15 by member: maelynpeacock
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I hear you, Maud, and it is a very thin line between A and B. I keep telling myself that I'm worth this. When I don't want to workout and rather eat cake, I have to just ask myself why don't I want to do x or y? Usually, there is a reason that hinges on someone else and has nothing to do with this thing I'm doing for me. Keep on pushing, Maud! You have been a major inspiration to many of us.
24 Mar 15 by member: LuC2
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I ate baby carrots to fill me up and increase my fiber. When I got tired of eating baby carrots, I steamed them to make them less crunchy, and I enjoy eating them again. If you are eating something that is healthy for you (because you think you must eat it) then this will make you unhappy. Choose healthy foods that you like or at least you can tolerate them.
25 Mar 15 by member: Deb_N
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