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Spent some time talking w/ my daughter yesterday - about weight issues, scales, way of eating, lifestyle choices... etc. It is so interesting to me how different we perceive ourselves - from what other people see.
She can see that I have gained - but to her it only looks like 'a few pounds'. (ok, she's my daughter...so I know there's a bit of that mixed in.) Then... we each try on the same tight fitting dress and stand in a 3-way mirror together!
I am definitely in need of some re/shaping!!! In the smaller direction :)
We actually were able to laugh - not cry. That's progress, for me anyway!
I told her how I feel about this shift in my thinking - and that I never in a million years wanted to EVER make 'weight' an issue for her... and she assured me I have not (she's 28)... and we both agreed in order to change our XL sausage dresses into L's or M's... we'd have to move on.
I won't fault her if she decides not to. And she won't judge me if I decide a size 14 works for me. (it doesn't but I didn't tell her that.)
If we can encourage each other - great. We will. But life is too short - and not one day of the last YEAR of my Mom's life...did she ever even CARE what she weighed. Not once. Vanity was gone. HEALTH was most important. We talked about this. And we both agreed...she must have been on to something!!! :)
Hope you have a great day! Enjoy your weekend ... and cheers ... to good health!
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Perception; us -v- the world, is so often worlds apart... I sometimes think we shouldn't be so hard on ourselves. Enjoying life is the most important thing :-)
30 Jun 13 by member: Sk1nnyfuture
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It is hard. Because for me to really enjoy myself right now... in the heat of the summer... I have to accept my overweight-ness. I got me here...and I can change it. Just not overnight. And the roll that's noticeable under my blouse...uncomfortable. The thighs chaffing while I walk w/ a skirt on - so as not to have to wear shorts...uncomfortable. Hard to 'enjoy' being overweight. I do enjoy my life...just not being fat. Hence, being here...:)
30 Jun 13 by member: jsfantome
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Sounds like time well spent - It is hard for women to choose health over vanity.
30 Jun 13 by member: BuffyBear
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Good health is truly what its all about -- what a great conversation with your DD! Certainly sounds like you have a great plan for if you focus on good health, the weight will follow. xoxo
30 Jun 13 by member: Ruhu
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Good you had such an honest and happy conversation with your daughter. Even though the subject matter is not great, it is good you were able to laugh at it. We all have come a long way. Amazing isn't it? The big key is asking the question, HOW DO I FEEL? Putting good food in our body is our FUEL. I also can relate to your comments about being overweight in the summer. It is not easy, BUT we are doing the best for ourselves now, so keep it going. Be true to you :-)
30 Jun 13 by member: JMA312
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I have to agree..sure I want to look good in my clothes..but my health was the real reason I wanted to lose..my back doesn't hurt and I don't have to take meds for BP..Glad you and your daughter had a good time together..:O)
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