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Well, the first week of our challenge is almost over! I'm very happy to say that I'm thoroughly kicking my group's butt, too! (they say it's because they're LETTING me win! LOL) Seriously though, I love every one of my buddies on this site! It's just not a normal day unless I begin it with a cup of coffee and all of YOU!
I'm beaming from one side of my mouth to the other, today!
Why? (why not?) this is why:
I gained 4 pounds on my family vacation! We've been back now for 7 days, and this morning when I weighed in, I have found that all 4 of those pounds are gone, plus 1/2 pound on top of that! I'm sure it was almost all water retention from lack of real exercise, and drinking lots of water. I quickly remedied that situation when I found a mountain of back-breaking work waiting for me in the nursery!
Welp! All that is behind me now!
I'm feeling soooo good. It's funny how subtle changes take place within your body when you gain weight. For me, I feel sluggish and bloated and heavy-headed. I have identified those symptoms so many times when the scale goes up, that I don't even have to weigh myself to know I've gained any more!
On the yackity gossip side of the fence; I'm looking forward to this Saturday, when I get to come face to face with my arch enemy yet again! (if you're wondering what I'm talking about, see journal from a few days ago). The funny part to me is the feeling I get once she arrives. Even though I am already expecting the confrontation that I've come to realize will always be there, it still catches me offguard. It still bothers and hurts me! I joke around about how I'm gonna have fun making her jealous and all that, and perversely, I do once the games are underway! But honestly...that kind of negative energy affects my whole aura and inner harmony with a heavy impact once she enters my life again. Every few months when she and I come into contact with each other, I put myself in attack/retreat mode. ATTACK MODE is where I spend part of the evening feeling brave, where I'll either enter/or allow her to enter, the conversation going on. IF she's particularly cat-womanish toward me, I CAN dig down deep for the CAPITAL *B* in me, and get onry (tom boy in me) and start messing with her, by stealing her thunder, steering conversations away from her, or since she's single and flirts alot with the guys, I like to steal the guy's attention from her too! LOL (that part is a blast and definitely NOT HARD TO DO!) It takes a few drinks for me to get that type of bravado and pull off that deed, but talk about hilarious!!!
and then there's the other part of the evening, where I have to step away (retreat) into the cool night air, to gather my strength again! Part of the reason is that I get so angry at how I can let her get to me. It feels like a weakness! It's not like I'm treating her terribly at HER home! THIS IS MY HOME, for heaven's sake! She's quite ruthless, and the audacity...Good grief!
So...I'm gearing up for the "fight" people. I refuse to back down and cower under her piercing, penetrating up-and-down stares! Chin up Bad Andee! We're gonna kick some A$$ in a couple of days! :) (not literally, of course! Just figuratively speaking!)
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There's no need to take the gloves off when you are already the clear victor in this rivalry. You've got the man and the hot bod so there's no need to stoop to her level. Rise above and kill her with kindness, I say. She won't know what hit her!
07 Aug 08 by member: evelyn64
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hmm....I've experienced exactly what you've described with some people from my past (especially those from my home country, India)...they seem to know how to play these games and each time we meet, it's like back to all of that all over again--no matter how much we've personally grown or how much life has changed for each of us...I find myself facing the same conflict: whether to feel that personal victory by sparring with them, or to be the bigger person and look out for our inner peace and harmony and thereby to just avoid confrontation and if possible to avoid that person entirely! Well, my advise would be, that it looks like avoiding confrontation might be impossible since SHE brings up stuff and pushes your buttons, and since she will be in your house (hey! can you kick her out?!! that would solve the problem)...well, barring that, certainly get in that sparring and flirting contest--but keep tabs on yourself to see that it won't stay with you BEFORE or AFTER she leaves..in other words, have fun there trumping her, but not if it's gonna stay with you long after..Otherwise, just avoid her entirely! I'd be curious to hear what others have to say! Goodluck---you're strong--you can take her ! ;)
07 Aug 08 by member: 08willbegreat
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Sounds like you have a good plan of attack! You're in charge. Go get her! Waiting for the report.
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Does your husband know all that goes on between the two of you? I would think if she causes this much turmoil that their friendship would be strained. I understand about in one way wanting to spar and the other not wanting to engage in the pettyness. Is there any way to just ignore her presence entirely...I'm talking not even looking in her direction. That would probably really get her goat.
07 Aug 08 by member: kimbulie
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BTW BA, send that witch my way, I'll tear her ass up! LOL!
07 Aug 08 by member: kimbulie
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You'll be able to handle the "B". No problem....after all you are BADANDEE! Wish I could be a mouse in the corner at your house that night so I could see all the action!! CAN'T WAIT to hear about it1 :) Kudos to you for getting that 4 lbs. off plus another 1/2!! And, yes, the secret is out. 08 and I ARE letting you win. :D
07 Aug 08 by member: mbhpro
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LMAO Kim!! I see you're a firecracker in disguise!!! Yeah!! BTW, yeah, hubby knows we 'dislike' each other, but he's pretty oblivious to all the drama going on behind the scenes, because I want to keep it that way! He and she USED to be good friends, but other than work-related stuff, their friendship dried up. AND it's next to impossible to avoid her at the party considering that she pulls me into the ring constantly! All the while, a devilish smile on her face! auuughhh!! There are all kinds of team competitions and tourneys going on that day, and that's where she loves to show me up! Mostly she does because I suck at horseshoes! I suck at spiking the volleyball, I suck at kareoke. But SHE sucks at the socializing, and making true friends, and creating GENUINE laughter amongst the groups of people, and the list is endless! AND SHE'S LOUD! you know, the type of person that likes to get attention by talking over the top of everyone, and SCREAM laughing!! Yuck!! We each have our own personal strength...I'm just not sure that hers are a valuable commodity! Thanks for all the advice...and it really SUCKS to have to play such a childish game, but like 08 says, no matter how much we grow up, there's always someone willing to take us on a journey into the past! Mary Beth, You need to STOP letting me win! Bring the heat or get out of the kitchen, woman!! LOL
08 Aug 08 by member: BadAndee
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Ahhh...I see your personal turmoil brewing and it's weighing you down in the fact that you are thinking about it too much. Then she wins if you are....YOU WIN, and kick her "ARSS" in personality/charm and overall kindness. When SHE enters YOUR territory SHE'S the underdog. I would walk straight up to the "B" and shake her hand, ask her if she would like a drink and then point her to it...tell her to enjoy herself and walk away showing her how HOT you look. When it comes to playing the actual games it's the people that are having the fun, chattin it up and making fun of themselves that win. YAYA, I know we all like to actually WIN the games (I NEED to win sometimes...well, most of the time..haha)...Remember it's YOUR turf, Honey. Your comfort zone is high at your house and LET HER KNOW IT! Have a blast and I'll be thinkin' of ya cheerin' ya on and I'll help ya bring on the heat if she gets in yo face!! Lemme' at'er!!!
08 Aug 08 by member: Sibby
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I agree with evelyn64. but if that doesn't work, I'll help kimbulie beat her up ;)
09 Aug 08 by member: cindylynnwho
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I think your smokin' hot body is all the amunition you need -- just make sure she sees how lean and mean you are and she will back right down! And tell her to watch out or your gonna have to call in your FS buddies to do the dirty work while you sip your drink!
09 Aug 08 by member: 4thehalibut
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And where is our update missy?
10 Aug 08 by member: kimbulie
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Must have been some party...no update today????...hummm:o)
Hope you had a blast!
10 Aug 08 by member: Sibby
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