Your dedication to your clients is commendable but you have to take care of yourself. I work for many years in a male dominated job where all of the men made more money than me and got promotions and pay increases before me even though they still came to me for advice. Information was withheld from me to try and make me fail. This took a toll on my well being, both physical and mental. Its time to look for another job. And what the hell does the size of your breasts have to do with how you do your job, sound like blatant discrimination.
05 Oct 19 by member: fatoldlady
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That's what I'm feeling. I feel like she and her "followers" are discriminating me on many levels. I was told I was qualified for the position I wanted but it was given to someone less qualified because she felt that I was not "old" enough. I'm 27 with 7 years in the field and 5 years of volunteer experience in the field. I have worked with some of the most intense and abusive clients and even in day training and residential, also private pay. I have the experience and I'm almost 30. I'm not a newbie, you know. I just love these clients so much and I know no one else is going to advocate for them at the level I have because of the conditions I walked in to and the improvements I have made for them.
05 Oct 19 by member: kickingcarbs
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Thank you Keyten! Best advice ever. I find this to be a really hard but neccessary choice. I find happiness in giving them happiness. But I cant keep allowing myself to be abused. I have made so many changes to better myself and to get out of abusive relationships with other people and even myself. I can not allow anyone to take advantage of me any more. It has already hindered my success so much over the years. I wish I could take a handful of them with me. Hell on of them i would even love to be an adult foster care parent for them. I wanted to be his guardian but my boss has already lost my paperwork and told me she would never allow this. It sucks that someone can depict another humans beings happiness based on their own selfish needs by using an employment platform to do so. This is the kind of oppression I got in this field to make sure didnt happen. It pains me to know I have done everything I can to concur that kind of negativity but I feel I have failed these amazing clients if I walk away. But after a year of fighting for them I have made a difference but I think the only way to help them now is to leave this company and report me issues from the outside.
05 Oct 19 by member: kickingcarbs
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Keyten said it well, find yourself a job where you will be appreciated and rewarded for your knowledge, skills and abilities. You spend too much of your life at work to be someplace stressful. Good luck! 💚💜💛
05 Oct 19 by member: shirfleur 1
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Go on Indeed. Don't quit until you have something lined up. This field sucks if you don't work for the right company. Document everything that is happening. Your experience should provide many opportunities. Maybe you can be a PAS agent. Unsure if that's only what they are called in Illinois. If you work at the day program, (can't remember what you said)- maybe you can apply with the company(ies) they are receiving residential services from. It's a shame in a field where so much help is needed and employees are dwindling, that more isn't being done to retain the people who work hard.
05 Oct 19 by member: davidsprincess
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You're a smart girl. I have faith you'll figure it all out.
05 Oct 19 by member: FullaBella
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Keep in mind that compliments and atta boys are a cheap way of placating someone that the powers that be know they are taking advantage of. If you love this job and want to stay, I might suggest that you take the matters into your control and make a comprehensive list of things that are not working well for you or the clients or facilities. If policies and procedures are not in place, are you willing and knowledgeable enough to write them yourself after doing a great deal of research into the legal requirements and restrictions that face your industry. There are obviously state and or federal policies and mandates for your industry. I have started medical departments from scratch, from buying 3 million dollar pieces of equipment to writing all the policies and even writing the credentialing requirements and process for my physicians. Dealing with all the Health and Human Services inspections and interviews. If they do not see that they may be putting not only their facility but your license (?) in jeopardy. Then you can make a well thought out decision as to whether it is time to move on. If they agree to upgrade the conditions, there should be a title and a pay adjustment that goes with that responsibility.
05 Oct 19 by member: Kenna Morton
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Kicking carbs— one more thing. I agree with your boss on the adult foster. You cannot stay in these types of professions and take every stray human home. It is one thing to care for people in a working capacity and another completely to assume full responsibility for. .
05 Oct 19 by member: Kenna Morton
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First and foremost, you must take care of yourself. You're in charge of what you do. I know you will make the choice that is right for you.
05 Oct 19 by member: kclab
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Hun I have seen this play so many times. put your foot down. if you are an asset they will bow to your demands or they are idiots for letting you slip through their fingers. everyone is replaceable. never forget that which sounds horrible but it means that you have the freedom to leave guilt free,🤗 One life. don't waste it on people who pretend to see your worth. head high.
09 Oct 19 by member: SpiderbabyJB
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