jaime30024's Journal, 18 March 2019

After the weekend I show a loss and yay, I will take that! It is always good to start Monday off with the scale reflecting a drop in weight. Now to just see what the week holds for me.

I feel like I survived the weekend with DH trying to reduce his carbs. He wasn't as awful to be around, as he was the last time he attempted this, and MAYBE he realizes just how much he has at stake. If he could just realize that his comments of how a tall glass of milk would be good or blah blah is him focusing on his weight. Last night he said that the chips I made were so good that he could have taken the entire container and ate it. Which let me add is exactly what he was about to do. He had some mustard and wanted some chips. I pointed to the container that I had put them all in...a full container. He got it and saw the label I put on it....approximately 35 chips = 6 net carbs. He started to walk off with the entire container. I stopped him and said give me that and I will put some in a bowl. To which he begrudgingly says, "I'll do it". Then he starts putting some int a tiny bowl I gave him. Says, "does that look like 35?" I said, "I suppose so, but I would have counted them out" and he says, "I know YOU would". My response: "but you're the one that will have to answer for it, not me". Because he is!! He is the one that will have to answer for it. Like I said I will help him, but I am not going to monitor him....even though it could be easy. I sent five pre-wrapped bagels to work with him and two containers of chicken salad and a serving of chips. The chicken salad can last one or two days and I will send more chips. I do not mind making him a sandwich wrap to take to work, the night before. Those are the little things. He is the one that has to get his eating under control. So last night he says, I could have ate that entire container those chips were so good. I said, "I know that is why I asked for the container to put some in a bowl. You know our friend that just has gastric by-pass that is the same thing that you have talked about him doing". He said, "but I am not 280#!" I said, "no you aren't; his lack of moderation effects his weight and your lack of moderation is effecting you in a different way". He didn't respond; I know he didn't like it, but hopefully it was food for thought.

As for me I made time for exercise both Saturday and Sunday. I was feeling a little squeezed yesterday. I spent around 4 - 4-1/2 hours meal prepping and then I thought I might not have time to run. We are helping my SIL with a salon she is going to open here in town. I got down and took DH some chips and ham and cheese to the shop and my SIL had arrived. It worked out well because she said, "go on and run honey". That was all I needed. Of course, DH was like "how long will you be??" Got in 2.5 miles in a decent time (for me). Yes, my husband is somewhat co-dependent, but he admits to it.

So time to get back to work. Have to go, directly after work today, to pick up some different contact samples; they one they gave me isn't sitting too well on my eye. Then get back home and try to stop at the gym first. Today is the last day of my month membership (that I won at auction) so I have to make a decision about that, too.

I hope you all have a great week and remember to be kind to yourselves.
208.2 lb Lost so far: 39.8 lb.    Still to go: 19.2 lb.    Diet followed 100%.

Diet Calendar Entry for 18 March 2019:
1168 kcal Fat: 75.68g | Prot: 83.24g | Carb: 39.37g.   Breakfast: Vitacup Vitacup Green Tea matcha moringa. Lunch: Chicken broccoli casserole. Dinner: Onions , Kikkoman Soy Sauce, Orchids Sesame Oil, Trader Joe's Ground Pork 80/20, Cabbage . Snacks/Other: Tea (Brewed), NeoCell Super Collagen, Nature Made Magnesium, Spring Valley D3. more...
losing 3.5 lb a week

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sounds stressful. Hopefully your husband will come around. You two should agree to throw out chips, not buy any milk etc. Yeah I am sure that is hard as well. Good job Jaime. 
18 Mar 19 by member: liv001
Liv, I keep all that stuff in a separate cupboard just so I do not have to look at it. I am hoping that he will make the decision to go in there and start tossing them. Trying to give him a little space, but until then I will keep them all in a separate location so I do not have to look at them.  
18 Mar 19 by member: jaime30024
The 'lead the horse to water' analogy definitely plays in here, doesn't it? Were I in your place I'd teeter in between deep breathing for patience and a little irritation ala 'have you paid attention to the way I eat at ALL for the past X months/years? Have you listened to anything?' but that wouldn't help so I'm proud of you for not pulling a 'me' because it wouldn't help the 'mood' you experienced with him in the past. We're here for you. Vent away. If I don't answer a journal I'd advise PM me but I don't get those on the phone app when I'm away from my laptop all weekend. 
18 Mar 19 by member: FullaBella
Does your husband knows that Low Carb is not the only option for weight loss?  
18 Mar 19 by member: Keilin_4
He is doing it for diabetes not weightloss 
18 Mar 19 by member: liv001
LOL! @Bella it is really kind of trying my patience. Seriously, he sent me a text this morning and asked me how many of the bagels he could eat. I am like one is 459 calories before the cream cheese and 6 net carbs. Why not try eating it and wait 1/2 hour and then see if you are still hungry. Seriously, this man can leave a plateful of food, but 1/2 hour later he is wanting to eat again. So I believe some of it is retraining his brain. I have thought, "in my silent voice" have you not taken notice of what I have been doing and having. Also, I spent four hours prepping in the kitchen for YOU because have you seen me spend four hours in the kitchen since I have been doing this to meal prep? I really do appreciate all the support from you, my friends! Yes, breath and try to remember to take my 'me time'. @Keilin_4 - he doesn't need to lose weight. He is diabetic and after getting a smack in the face (from his Doctor) is trying to follow the Doctor orders and cut out the carbs. :) 
18 Mar 19 by member: jaime30024
It's definitely stressful. NOT the same thing but I remember the doctor advising me on his second angio that Cutty 'really needed to stop smoking' and this young (seemed like she was about 12 years old) nurse advised, "If I were his wife I'd just nag, nag, nag until he quit!' I asked her, "Oh, and how long have you been married?" and she responded, "Oh, I'm not married yet." So I smiled and said, "Look me up about ten years into the marriage and let me know how that nagging method works out for you." I didn't want to spend my days being the 'Mean Mommy' to my husband. I didn't enable him (nor do you) but I knew, as you do, THEY have to make up their mind to do this. Otherwise, whenever he has a set back (as we all do) he'll hold YOU accountable. Stay strong. Hang in there. Much love. 
18 Mar 19 by member: FullaBella
Thank you, Bella, yes that is exactly it!! I will not get sucked into that. He did order a Glucose kit this weekend. The one he has (along with the strips and lancets hasn't been used in forever). Heck the last person that used it was me..hahaha. So at least he is taking responsibility of that, and I am glad. So one step at a time. I do have a feeling he is going to ask the Doctor to give him a month or something to get his shit together. Good thing he is drinking water only and his kidneys have eased up hurting him, so hopefully that will tell him something. I so appreciate you!!!!! 
18 Mar 19 by member: jaime30024

     
 

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