08 Oct 18 by member: adefwebserver
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08 Oct 18 by member: nikeit
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taking care of yourself is so important and counseling sounds like a good idea ♥️
08 Oct 18 by member: reggionon
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I think counseling right now will help you get focused and give you direction. it helps to have someone that is non judgemental to bounce your feelings and thoughts off of. and I think both of you need private session before you do joint session, though I don't know exactly the situation. maybe you do need joint. but having the freedom to air it all out without restriction is very helpful.
08 Oct 18 by member: baskington
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Boy do I ever relate to that feeling that I am toxic to everyone around me - keeping those feelings at bay by taking care of myself! If Im not happy - no one around me is! Right? I think we are both on the right track! We have to be! Hang in there friend! 🌟🌟🌟
08 Oct 18 by member: kikibee5
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I come back to FS to get away from myself, who when things are going well, starts the self sabotage. UUGH!!! G_ortegam, take care of yourself.
08 Oct 18 by member: chesgreen
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08 Oct 18 by member: g_ortegam
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I’ve come to view myself as toxic 😢. From what hubby says, everyone hates me and feels that they can’t be themselves because I’ll yell at them for destroying the house right after I cleaned it or get upset when they sabotage my diet. On one hand I think I’m being reasonable (I don’t yell until after the third warning) and they should respect my choices and my hard work. But yet I can’t ignore what he’s saying either. My counselor says she wouldn’t call it toxic but rather more irritable and not as compromising when the household disrespects me or my work (stay at home mom who volunteers). She also says that we have to find a new balance and hubby is refusing to give an inch. So I totally get the self doubt stuff too. Ask yourself... is this the best for the boy? If you don’t do this, will he get the help he needs? Honestly just tell the counselor this upfront and after a few appointments she will be able to help you see the truth ;). Good luck and I hope the appointments go well!
08 Oct 18 by member: peeperjj
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So sorry you're going through this. Years ago, counseling was the only place/time I felt normal. Good luck.
08 Oct 18 by member: Becc@
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Therapy can help us see so much - hopeful for y'all
09 Oct 18 by member: From371to184
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Sending good thoughts your way, @G!
09 Oct 18 by member: jengetfit123
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Stop weighing every day. You are looking for something to find self-hate. Twice a week is enough. Also be easy on yourself. I know not drinking as much is hard. One vice at a time! Do few things and do them well.
09 Oct 18 by member: NOLAMOMMY
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