jaimejay's Journal, 15 September 2019

I always say family is everything... but yea that’s stressful 😊 hang in there friend 😊 I live right behind my mom and dad( stepdad, but he has always been dad🤗🤗) are freaking backyards touch🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️😂😂😂😂 

I’d say it gets excessive the minute it starts affecting your health. I have a close knit family and it’s pretty common for people to just show up and hang out for the evening without notice. When I was younger I lived with my grandma and this was a weekly thing. When I got my own place I tried to put a stop to it but it still happens every now and then. Sometimes I get frustrated, especially when I have class work to do. The difficult part is communicating this to family. You have to put you first because your health is important. Best of luck😊 

"Family is like fish... Starts to stink after three days" I heard that somewhere! Yes, family is so important, but it can be extremely stressful! Hang in there!  

I went for a ride because I couldn't stand being home and blew up when I got back. I cant do it anymore. 3 days or less is exaclty what I said. No longer. I won't sacrifice my health for anyone anymore, except for my son. 

Oh my!! We have family coming to stay with us for 10 days from the UK! I was feeling a little anxious but now I’m feeling worse. Hubby and I work, kids work and go to school and university. Gonna try me. Feeling on edge now! 🥴 

I tend to agree with the three day rule, unless it is grandchildren. The grands are so wonderful that I can put up with the parents. 

That's how I feel too about the kids really. Pain doesn't help the situation at all either. I injured myself again and I picked up something too heavy. Thought I was good and I can not lift anything over 40lbs. Pain is no fun guys It's going to take time for this injury to heal again.  

Absolutely, way overstaying. Family like fish begin to stink after a short time. 

Wifey, I think your situation is different since your company is coming from out of the country. Just take it day by day, try and enjoy the visit since I am assuming you don't see them too often. 

That's very true @Fishingwidow, the situation is different. I'm dealing with family coming every month for 10 days in a row! @Wifey, If I had family just coming from out of the country, a week or so during the holidays that would be great! especially if they came during the holidays. It would make so much sense then! This isn't the case here... lol! Enjoy that visit!  

I agree with you all, but these are not easy person (s). I’ll do my best. Ten days will end.  

One 10-day stretch is one thing, doing it all the time is another thing. I’ve set ground rules: we’ll spend weekends with you and weekday dinners. (Weekdays you’re on your own.) 👩‍👩‍👧‍👦 

Just say NO. Stand in front of the mirror and practice. You don’t have to offer an excuse. Just say it is not convenient. It won’t stop if you don’t say something. Good luck. 

Is this the same company coming each month, Jaimi? You may have to rework the plan. I love having company visit but hubby & I enjoy our lifestyle too much to have that much company.  

Oh SherreyB, I definently reworked the plan. Enough was enough, now I am feeling so much better and relieved that I spoke up for myself. 

Thanks you Kenna Morton and that's exactly what I said. Well, I wash a little rash, but I apologized and made sure it was know. That I was truly sorry about the outbreak. No more extended stays at my home! Lol 

I live 2 miles from Knott’s Berry Farm and 4 miles from Disneyland and freeway close to anyplace or attraction a person might like to see. When a very distant relative suddenly gets a hankering to get reacquainted I assume there is an ulterior motive. I have made a little notebook up that has maps, information and a list of 4 or 5 hotels in varying different price ranges as well as the names and locations of food places, also in varying different price ranges. I include a note saying that I hope they can come to dinner or meet for dinner while they are here. If they out and out ask me up from I just tell them that I have a busy, irregular life and that would probably not work out well for me. They get over it. 

I agree with Kenna, I did not realize this was a regular occurrence. 

How are you doing Jamie? Hanging in there?  

Hey Mellisa, long time no talk. Just getting ready to make my new entry! I having been battling migraines, but, I am getting better and I had another Lowe's interview! I'm making an entry now. Thanks for your concern! 💛💛💛