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Went down on my reads form 90 to 60. Think I overdid it last week so we will see how I feel tomorrow. Kept my bb rows and bb curls the same at 35. Went up on db rows form 10 to 15’s. May go up to 20’s next week. 17’s would be awesome lol. Went up on the ab buster machine from 50 to 70 then dropped back to 60. Back hurt after the first set. Feels fine now tho. Cable crunches went up from 40 to 60. Couldn’t tell I was doing any good until hubby said ‘try this’. Usually I run for cover when he says something like that ;). Leg raises were body weight still. Thinking ab work will be 60 and move each up at the same time maybe. Legs gotta be around half my weight right? The last set is always hard as my lower back protests. Seems I had knots there during my massage and I think I know why ;).
A friend recently came into some inheritance, moved away and wants me to be her personal assistant long distance. This would involve making calls, setting up appointments, getting medical and financial records, paying last, present and future bills etc. She’s a lovely person but it seems overwhelming. I’d basically be doing everything for her. Hubby takes care of our bills, insurance, finances etc. I feel very under qualified to be a personal assistant after 14 years of being a stay at home mom. Any thoughts? Just thinking about it has he grabbing my anxiety meds lol. But I gotta learn to do these things again because soon enough I won’t be needed nearly as much by the kids. (Youngest is 5, but I volunteer at the school and we have 10 clubs/sports between the three!) Oh, I would also have full access to anything I needed like a prepaid card for her bills, signed checks, private information etc. I’d love to help her as she’s overwhelmed but I’m afraid I’ll end up overwhelmed. First up is making her an appointment to take her vehicle for servicing and issues. I can do that as a friend and see if it’s soenhting that I can easily maybe. Maybe. Probably. Maybe. Hell I don’t know. Someone grab me a beer.
Diet Calendar Entries for 01 August 2019:
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1733 kcal
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Fat: 60.03g | Prot: 114.91g | Carb: 205.50g.
Lunch: Subway 6" Double Turkey Breast, Sun Chips Harvest Cheddar. Dinner: Mission Carb Balance Soft Taco Flour Tortillas, Great Value Taco Seasoning, Ground Beef (95% Lean / 5% Fat, Crumbles, Cooked, Pan-Browned), Great Value Sharp Cheddar Cheese. Snacks/Other: Brach's Large Conversation Hearts, Snickers Snickers Bar (1.86 oz), Chobani Greek Yogurt Peach on The Bottom, Great Value Steak Sauce, Ground Beef (90% Lean / 10% Fat, Patty, Cooked, Pan-Broiled) . more...
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If you can handle helping her out, it seems like a great opportunity for a stay-at-home mom. Hope everything works out for the best for the both of you! :)
01 Aug 19 by member: LZenn
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Sounds like a great opportunity and a chance to earn some bucks at home. You can most of this while the kids are at school. I'd want to see her finances and how she handles money PRIOR to the inheritance. Why is she asking for an assistant? Would you schedule home repairs?
01 Aug 19 by member: Terrapin12
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I agree. I would give it 4 weeks and no hard feelings if you can't handle it. You won't know what you are capable of until you try. :-)
01 Aug 19 by member: jessabridge4444
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Jessa's advice would be mine. I would choose a length of time you can commit to and offer to do the job on a trial basis. Tell her that either of you can terminate on that date if it isn't working for you. Your friend may find that in that length of time she is capable of doing her own organizing and doesn't need the assistance or you could find it isn't meshing with your needs. Gives both of you a graceful way out with no hurt feelings.
01 Aug 19 by member: 59Carol
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I'm confused on how that would work if she moved away. Are you expected to travel to her to deal with her car and things?
01 Aug 19 by member: FullaBella
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You never know what you're capable of until you try it. Jessa has the right idea
01 Aug 19 by member: tatauu22
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Terra she’s asking for help because, in her words, she’s her worst enemy. She has a spending problem. Addicted to shopping I’d say. She already has a trust that gives her a housing budget and an ‘allowance’. I’m to spend the allowance in a reasonable manner through paying bills and making her daily living easy. (By paying everything, making all appointments etc. )
01 Aug 19 by member: peeperjj
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Jess and Carol. That sounds good! I’ll see if that meets with her approval. My issues mainly are I’d be taking over her life and she needs to learn this stuff. It’ll be hard long distance. Plus we both have major chemo brain so it’s hard to think of words and things. We can complete each other’s sentences most times so we can communicate to each other better than most others who haven’t had chemo. My anxiety med is supposed to help with brain fog. It does sometimes lol. Bella hun, IF She and I lived chooser then I’d be taking the car myself. I think that would be easier. She does want me to come out once but I think that has to do with the attorney and finding one plus finding a house. Those are things I firmly believe should be all her. She needs an attorney she likes not one I like. Same with a house. Except she wants a large one for entertaining where as I’d think smaller with just her and a teenager who will graduate in 3 years. 🤷♀️ those are personal decisions.
01 Aug 19 by member: peeperjj
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Tatauu yep. It’s getting started that I have trouble with. Plus timing. I’ll volunteer two mornings a week at the school. We have games 2-3 evenings a week plus saturdays, practices one evening and sundays. Friday is my only full day to myself. I could work for her 3 mornings. She wants 20 hours starting then drop to 10 a week after I set up amazon subscriptions, all her bills (long distance would be hard as it’s a couple states away and I’ve never been there), she even wants me to review products for her that I’ve never seen. She’ll give me the review. It seems easier for her to type it in than type it to me then I retype it. Seems a waste of her funds and I don’t even know for sure what funds she has access to or the salary I’d get. Will try it probably.
01 Aug 19 by member: peeperjj
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My two cents, write up an agreement of expectations between the two of you. Honestly, I'd avoid it because it sounds like a great way to kill a friendship if she already has spending issues. Assuming you want to do it; document, document, document. Did I mention document? You might be better off helping her discover Mint or some other similar spending site and helping her learn how to use it.
01 Aug 19 by member: Katsolo
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Oh. My oldest will have daily practices too. We find out some next week. Basketball we will find out in October. If afternoons then I’ll have to run get her which takes time out. Plus there’s a 2 hour time difference. Thankfully she’s earlier as I’m NOT a morning person lol. She gets up around lunchtime which is my 2pm and the kids get home at 3:30. I’d pick up the oldest kid from 4-5 then to the game or next practice. Would make communication between us a bit hard.
01 Aug 19 by member: peeperjj
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Same thoughts Kat. I had agreed to it when she lived here. But what I’d agreed to was sitting down with her and setting things up so she could manage them on her own. Then little things like running her errands when she’s busy, organize her house etc. Having two states and 14 hours between us is a bit different.
01 Aug 19 by member: peeperjj
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01 Aug 19 by member: Alnona
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Maybe help her set up a spending account in Mint. Link her cards to track spending. My credit union does some of this for free. Set up some automatic payments/transfers and agree to help her with scheduling stuff. Do not get yourself set up as an authorized user, don't take any passwords. Share screens, maybe sit down with her a couple of times. Seems like she could use some general guidance (so could I!) and she trusts you. Thing is to help her learn, but stay at arms length so that you are never a figure of blame if she can't control her impulse spending or becomes subject to the whims of the market.
02 Aug 19 by member: Katsolo
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She refused something like mint. She wants me and only me. Her lawyer agreed it was a good idea and I sounded good for the job. Outvoted lol. I took it on a trial basis with the agreement that if our friendship suffered I’d quit immediately and she has to be able to take very frank advise as I won’t beat around the bush.
02 Aug 19 by member: peeperjj
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She trusts me completely and plans to give me her SS, banking info, medical info etc. said she can’t trust anyone else as we’ve been friends for so long and she has no living family other than a teenage son and step sibs that have already screwed her around. 🤷♀️ gotta help a girl out as long as we stay friends. Nervous AF but I did okay yesterday. Almost 2 hours on the phone and internet. Found her three estimates for her car, set her up with a real estate agent, got her an appointment for a showing, looked up a couple houses she wanted to see and directions and businesses close by that could help her. Not too bad for less than 2 hours! Today I think I’m setting up the car appointment and that’s it. That’ll round out the 2 hours. It’s not easy having GAD. It’s like I think they’ll come out of the phone and yank my head off my shoulders or something. If you’ve never had it, it’s like an actual fear grips me anytime I do something new. Shoulda seen me the first time I went to the gym!! Lol. Good thing I’m not a nervous pee-er. 🤪
02 Aug 19 by member: peeperjj
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LOL I am glad you are giving it a go. You might find out you love it!
02 Aug 19 by member: jessabridge4444
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