Good morning!!
Another weekend flew by!! Wow. I can hardly believe it is Monday. Today I have one home visit ... an hour to arrive there, an hour or so there, an hour to get back to town and that will nearly complete my "normal" job day ... then a few hours working on
Reflective Practice Services.Sharon wonders ... how do we get "unstuck" from the place where it feels like a black cloud is hanging over our heads to a more positive state of mind. Practice. It is not unlike learning to be kind to ourselves. We simply need to practice it. No magic involved, just hard work. If imagining ourselves at our goal weight is too much for our brains to handle start with 5 lbs. Or whatever it is you CAN imagine is possible and go from there. For me I very much can visualize myself at 180 and remember clearly what it felt like, what I looked like, how my clothes fit. I remember being in a hotel, getting ready to go out with my husband ... fixing my hair in the bathroom. I was wearing a green top and my skinny black jeans. I turned around and caught my reflection in the mirror and thought ... I am thin, I look great!!! That is what I think about as I tell myself "I weigh 180 lbs."
Finding "how" to move ourselves to a more positively expectant place is very individual work. I think making a list of 5 to 10 positive affirmations is a good way to start. Get a little notebook and write them down EVERY day. Practice saying them to yourself throughout the day, as you drive, wash the dishes, cooking dinner, exercising, and so forth. Begin to pay attention to when you are thinking negatively about yourself or your situation and simply reframe that thought to something positive or at the very least, neutral!!
I had a great weekend. Bob and I changed a flat tire, got the tire fixed, and played bingo!! Nah, we didn't win a darn cent but we sure had fun. We had a lot of time together and spent a lot of time thinking together, talking, looking at opportunities. It was very good. Whatever "funk" he was in last week has eased away. Perhaps me staying out of it helped!!! Must remember that the next time he finds himself feeling funky.
My positive affirmations/goals ...
I weigh 180 lbs.
I crave healthy foods.
I choose healthy foods when I am hungry.
I take care of myself.
I am kind to myself.
I earn $100,000 a year.
I manage a foundation, Random Acts of Kindness.
I am organized and efficient.
I plan and follow through on my plans.
People pay me for my expertise.
I am an expert in my field.
I write well and people enjoy reading what I write.
I am paid for my writing.
I own a vacation home abroad.
I vacation regularly.
I handle conflict and strong emotions calmly.
I sleep well.
I exercise regularly.
I am strong and tall.
I am long and lean.
I provide workshops and they are always full.
I manage our finances well.
I am financially stable.
Our wood shed is full.
I like myself!
I like my body!!
Today I will do my best to be mindful. I will practice kindness. I will be productive. I will eat well and take care of myself. I will be patient with myself.
I am grateful for a busy but enjoyable weekend.
I am grateful for the rain.
I am grateful for good conversation with my husband.
I am grateful for my hunger.
I am grateful for sleeping all night without waking up!!!
Have a good day my friends.