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Type B personality. Yep, that's me. Most of the time I'm pretty happy about it. I have little stress. Things roll off my back like water off a duck. I can roll with the punches. Whatever other cliche there is out there for being laid back probably fits me. Yes, I do get frustrated and lose my temper from time to time. That's true, but it happens quickly and disappears just as quickly. I find it hard to hold a grudge or stay angry no matter how hard I try. I just can't and believe me I've tried. I am a big fan of Schadenfreude though it makes me feel a tick guilty. I think the only thing that goes against type is that I'm very punctual and usually early and cannot stand lateness in myself or others. It's probably my biggest peeve.
What am I getting at with all this rambling? I do not have any competitiveness. I probably shouldn't say I don't have any, but I don't have much. I do get a little jealous of others who are doing better than me in any facet of life, including weight loss and fitness, but I get over it quickly and become happy for whomever it may be. But the lack of competitiveness isn't doing me any favors. I can't even challenge myself to hitting goals. If I don't hit them, well, eh, no big deal. I think it makes me not want good things for myself.
So, my lovelies, how to I learn to be competitive if my brain is just not wired for it???
Diet Calendar Entries for 25 February 2011:
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1695 kcal
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Fat: 124.20g | Prot: 127.12g | Carb: 7.50g.
Breakfast: butter, coffee, low sodium bacon, eggs. Lunch: iceburg lettuce, pickle spear, swiss cheese, roast beef. Dinner: japanese blend vegetables, parmesan cheese, butter, heavy cream, boneless skinless chicken breast. more...
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2957 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Bicycling (slow) - 11/mph - 2 hours, Resting - 14 hours, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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Competition doesn't work for me either. I like to win if I can but something about all the aggressive striving turns me off and I shut right down. Do not want to play. Will leave the field. Want to go read a book. So the "challenges" feature of this site has never worked for me. Not sure what advice to give - but I find comparing myself only against my own progress seems to help. I read other people's journals but rarely/never look at their diet calendars or weight history. I don't think of it so much as something I am pushing/challenging myself to do as just something I'm doing, a new way of living, doing stuff that makes me feel good inside and out. And I abandoned my initial plan of having target dates for my weight loss - I'll lose it as I lose it, it might take years. I think less about specific goals than about what's happening TODAY. What will I eat, how will I get in some exercise. One day at a time. Anyway, it's all a bit me me me... but at least I don't get discouraged by "losing" or feel like I'm setting myself up for failure somehow.
25 Feb 11 by member: Z'sMama
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Yep, TODAY, is big for me, too. Whatever happened yesterday is over so why worry about it and if you try to make plans for tomorrow or next week or month something is bound to happen to skew those plans so I don't worry too much about that either. I think I have a basic outline for anything is the near future, but I know it's not going to go as planned and goal planning falls into the category of planning for the future. Does that make any sense? Maybe I don't feel like I can fail myself if I don't have a goal or a plan.
25 Feb 11 by member: Cbreeze
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You really gave us a thinking challenge today! ☺ I surely do not know the answer, but I seriously love the approach of Z'sMama! One day at a time...live for today...I bet we'd all stress a lot less about almost everything if we just applied that principle!
Have a fantastic weekend!!!
25 Feb 11 by member: SkeeterJean
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Thanks SkeeterJean-You have a fantastic weekend too, but don't forget to live for today!!!
25 Feb 11 by member: Cbreeze
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I think some of it comes from your own answers about what you truly want out of this... and when you want it by. So you want to lose 40-50 lbs. But you may not care if it takes you two years...as long as you get there. Well, that answer is a whole lot different than if you want to reach that goal by the Fall for some important reason! Or you have health concerns propelling you forwards to get the weight off.... So, I find it helpful to look at myself in the mirror, and ask myself the all important question of the day... What do you want from your day? Is today gonna be an exercise day? Are we maintaining low carb today? Do I have something special planned that I need to look at... ??? In the end, I am pretty good at goal setting, and I favor both long term ones, and very short term ones... If I know today is an Induction 20g day at the start...than I can focus throughout the day on accomplishing that. Tomorrow will come, and the successes add up, but I do much better w/ the short term - in the moment goals. Hope that helps.
25 Feb 11 by member: jsfantome
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I am a type B person, and the only thing that is not type B about me is the competitive and I do enjoy a little schadenfreude myself. I wish I could, tune the competitive side out sometimes because it gets really hard and I get really down on myself, and I often don't even have to compete with anyone else I just compete with myself which gets twice as bad. I know this is hardwired and not learned because my parents are not the type of people to push to win or anything like that, in fact my biological father could really care less and my mom is just a go with the flow kind of person... as long as you try that's all she cares about, so how do you learn to be competitive... I honestly don't know if I could give you some of my competitive juice I totally would!
25 Feb 11 by member: pixidaisy
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JS-Of course it helps. It does put things in perspective for me. When I first started I had a goal date in mind for a short term goal and it didn't happen, but it didn't really bother me. I thought it strange I had that reaction to something that seemed so important when I set that goal. But, eh, oh well. I know that I'm being good to myself by getting a grip on my eating and drinking. I used to drink nearly every night. Usually not to the point of intoxication, but sometimes it was. Now about once a week I'll have a drink or two and then that's it. I don't want anymore. The same goes for food. Once I finished the initial 2 weeks of induction, I didn't need to eat a loaf of French bread or a massive amount of French fries (what is it with the French stuff lol???) So I guess my answer is to just be Mrs Type B personality and go with what works.
25 Feb 11 by member: Cbreeze
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Pix- I'll totally take that competitive juice. Do you think it will get through customs okay? I think it's a good thing when parents care that you've done your best and are proud of you for it. My parents were worn out by the time they got to me, I'm the youngest of 7, and didn't encourage or discourage. I think they were happy as long as I stayed out of trouble. I really didn't have much parental interaction at all. Of course, I knew they loved me and cared about my welfare, but it was kind of an afterthought.
25 Feb 11 by member: Cbreeze
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