Meh, I still beat mine. Maybe get a paintball gun and just start shooting her whenever she opens her mouth. I feel for ya, my preteen has an attitude larger than life... bracing myself for a rough ride.
23 Apr 14 by member: Annabelle3117
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Supersoakers aren't abusive right? I'm just tired of feeling like I'm talking to a wall. Nothing seems to soak in.. maybe a supersoaker would help it soak in.
23 Apr 14 by member: Ms Elizabeth
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Supersoakers are not abuse! I don't have teens yet, but when my son was 2 and throwing a throw yourself kicking screaming tantrum we stuck him in the tub and turned the shower on him. . . he never threw a tantrum again. You probably can't wrestle her in the shower right now, but a supersoaker could help (and I'm going to file that away for when my daughter is a teen! boys don't seem as mouthy)
23 Apr 14 by member: skirch97
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I commend you for taking her iPod away. I was a teacher and saw parents coddle their children to an extreme. I remember hearing about parents who took the door off the room their daughter slept in because she needed to earn privacy, it wasn't a right in her parents' house.
23 Apr 14 by member: Kris AZ
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Supersoaker... love it! Put ice cubes in the water chamber for a 'super' reaction lol. I also love the earning privacy idea. Drfunitely going on my idea list
23 Apr 14 by member: Annabelle3117
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what ever you say you are going to do, do it, and don't go back on it, stay strong on your word, so they know that you mean what you say and do what you say.
23 Apr 14 by member: karenromiaih2002
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Challenge her to a paintball gun duel. If she hits you, she gets one point towards earning back her Ipod (50 points); if you hit her, she must treat you and all adults with respect for 1 day. Should she fail in that one day of respect, you send her to boarding school, voila! Seriously, stick to your guns (not literally); demanding respect and teaching her consequences will keep her from becoming a wild-child (as evidenced by my wild, misspent youth, lol). Hmm, could she be going through early puberty? Good luck.
23 Apr 14 by member: crabby Kat
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Mine is almost 21 and I am counting the days until she turns 25 and becomes a human again. She has been a total little shit since the age of 15 and is more obnoxious than ever. I am told about age 25 they are tolerable again.
23 Apr 14 by member: notjune1
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It took me until 30 to realize how smart my mother was!
23 Apr 14 by member: Kris AZ
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I got some good advice from a Meg Meeker book. I pray for my daughter almost every day and I am sure it helps. Pray also for yourself that you can see the good in her, that has helped me a lot to deal with some of the not-so-good.
23 Apr 14 by member: sjoanis
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Been there, and my daughter still has those moments but she's 12 now and has been easier to deal with than a couple of years ago, just more silly. My hubby told the kids that every day they don't do chores this summer they're doing push-ups and running with him. I have a feeling they'll all be in really good shape! I was a horrible teenager to my parents, so I'm not expecting any different from my daughter. Good luck!!
23 Apr 14 by member: mars2kids
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Unfortunately I am guessing she feels the same way about you. Unable to communicate successfully.
23 Apr 14 by member: jparlett
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I've got four kids ages 11-20 (three daughters). I recently sent two off to college, two more to go:) It's a challenge, no doubt!! What jumps out at me here is the word FOREVER.....maybe because you typed it in all caps:)) Seriously that's an impossible word to enforce. We all say it but we seldom mean it. Consistency and follow through with reasonable punishments when necessary and learn to ignore the small stuff so you don't come across as a nag because then they just tune you out. Oh, my favorite thing to say when I don't like what I heard....."I'm sorry, I didn't hear you. What was that again?".....99 percent of the time they just say, "nothing".
23 Apr 14 by member: Kathy-Revisited
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Good luck to ya is all I can say. I had the sweetest, kindest, most helpful 12 year old girl on the planet back in 1998. I swear one night the pod people came and replaced her in her sleep. If you figure out how to survive this stage and re-establish a healthy relationship please publish a how-to book -- you'll become independently wealthy. I've got a good relationship with her now, but that didn't start up again until she was in her early 20's. Even though we really do have a good relationship now, I find comfort in ( and a little guilt for doing so!) knowing she'll have to deal with a tween of her very own one day.
23 Apr 14 by member: Sciguy77
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You're doing a fine job at parenting. There is NO book that will ever tell you the right way with dealing with it. I am not a parent, but I did raise my nephew for 7 years. And he was a smart mouth. It was to the point he had NOTHING. And yet it didn't seem to ever bother him. I even made him shovel horse poop. Yep, nothing nada didn't care. I agree human race going down the crapper. Because of that I don't know if I ever want kids haha. Good luck to you!
23 Apr 14 by member: riyankee
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Give it time... about ... 10 years... it'll work itself out :-) Sorry - wish I could tell you something else. Teenagers.
23 Apr 14 by member: FullaBella
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My parents did not go to this extreme, but they would have. Stripped my room bare except mattress & linens, and a few outfits (like 3). For every day I was not a tool, I would get something back. Other wise, bare essentials. & if I started acting up again, I would lose stuff I just asked for...My mom played hardball. I was TV obsessed. I started another fire and she took EVERY TV in the house and put it in her trunk and disabled the main TV in the living room. Every day for a month, she annexed all the TV's. It did not stop my fire obsession, but I learned to be more careful with getting caught. LOL As I got older, friends and going out were my weakness. So she allowed free reign with hanging with friends as long as my grades were A's & B's. I get a C, no more after school hangouts, or sleepovers for the rest of the semester. & she stuck too it. Find her weakness & exploit it! :-)
24 Apr 14 by member: jessabridge4444
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I know this is becoming more and more unpopular, but I think that beating a disrespectful child is ok. Obviously to an extend - no need to elaborate further here - but all this thing of parents being judged because they beat their kids when they misbehave really makes me mad.
24 Apr 14 by member: Chickturu
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I am on the other side of this now and feel so sorry for you. My daughter is now 27 and has 4 daughters of her own....I am sitting back and praying she doesn't get back what she gave times 4. Odds are not in her favor. :) Hang in there and stay strong! I love the titles you came up with, maybe you can write the books.
24 Apr 14 by member: Ditty330
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When I was a kid, my mother took EVERY. SINGLE. THING. OUT. OF. MY. BEDROOM except for the bed & I had to earn everything back with good behavior. And if I was really rude or didn't do homework or anything, then the next day, she had my clothes all laid out for me but if I was helpful to my sisters or got a good grade I got to pick out my own clothes. It was both terrible and MEMORABLE.
And to this day, I have no idea where she was storing my stuff.
24 Apr 14 by member: ThatQuietGirl9
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