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I almost ended up back in the mental hospital over this stress with my friend and worrying about my husband having MS. I finally talked things over with another friend who was at the meeting and she was able to help me get a more helpful view of the situation. I am still very hurt and I will not trust my friend who hurt me again but I am going to try to forgive her - for my sanity's sake and for my soul's sake if not for her.
Forgiveness does not mean I have to trust her again. The sermon in church today was on shifting our focus from difficult situations to the solutions or what we want in our lives instead of obsessing over negative thoughts. Definitely on target for me. It helped me to remember that I want to keep my focus on the things I want not on the things that are upsetting. I want friends I can trust. I want to feel safe in my meeting. I want to be able to continue to enjoy my meeting. I want to make new friends so I can develop new friendship skills. I want to think more positive thoughts on a more consistent basis. I want to get my house clean and develop the habit to keep it neat and clean. I want to make friends at church. I want to make forgiveness something I find easy to do.
I have had tons of support from people on this site while I have been dealing with this difficult situation and I want all of you who expressed support to know how very much I appreciate your kindness and love. It helped me get through an enormously difficult week. Thank you so much for taking the time to express support.
I am still hurting but I know now I can through this without the hospital and that I will be a better, stronger person on the other side. I hope everyone has a great day today. Love, Andrea
Diet Calendar Entries for 25 July 2010:
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1555 kcal
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Fat: 130.02g | Prot: 62.29g | Carb: 48.49g.
Breakfast: Splenda, Baking powder, Cinnamon, Egg, Butter, Flax seeds. Lunch: Green papper, Avocado, Cheddar cheese, Lettuce, Tomato. Dinner: mustard, Kraft mayo, eggs. Snacks/Other: Pork rinds, Macadamia nuts. more...
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2332 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Walking (slow) - 2/mph - 45 minutes, Resting - 13 hours and 15 minutes, Sleeping - 10 hours. more...
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I am so sorry for all that you are going thru latley, but from your posts you are a great caring person. I will pray for only the best things for you! I was told that this "life" is all a test and "what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger"! Sending all my prayers and good thoughts your way! Cheer up and have a blessed week! It may be challenging but YOU can overcome anything with determination and GOD on your side!
25 Jul 10 by member: WendyCav
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Andrea, no one is worth your mental health. That is experience talking. Also, it is possible to forgive the worst of betrayals. I was in a position very similar as far as being close to losing my mind and feeling like for the good of myself and everyone around me, that I had to forgive someone that had done the "unforgivavle". I sat under a sermon on a totally diffierent topic but where the scripture screamed at me. It is in 2 Timothy, where Paull says, Remember, the coppersmith and how he betrayed me. Be wary of him. He is in God's hangs." At that moment, I realised that I had forgiven.. I had placed her in God's hands, left it to Him to deal with her. Just as importantly, I realised that it was OK to never trust her again, in fact to be wary of her. What an awakening for me!
25 Jul 10 by member: datadoll
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25 Jul 10 by member: lotus2009
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Sending more {{{hugs}}} your way!
25 Jul 10 by member: kyleVA
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He promises to stay with us - Yea, though I walk THROUGH the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for Thou art with me. And yep, I think the message at church was directed toward you. Funny how God works, huh? :) And Andrea, forgiveness is rarely, if EVER, easy. But yes, it's necessary for our OWN well-being. That's why God wants us to forgive - to make US whole and healthy. Not because the other person "needs" our forgiveness. You are strong. You can get through this. Just another learning experience, another opportunity presented to you. I think it's true, that God only closes a door when He opens another. Stay strong, you have it in you!
25 Jul 10 by member: redwinelover
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Your post was beautiful and strong. The power of positive thinking is amazing. You will make new friends and develop new relationships. People can just sense a person with a positive attitude and will be drawn to you because of it. And when doubts creep in, positive self-talk works. Talk yourself right out of those feelings. You tell yourself you are a strong and positive person, and you will really begin to realize that you actually are!
25 Jul 10 by member: dogwalk
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"Happiness? That's nothing more than a good health and a poor memory." - Albert Schweitzer
25 Jul 10 by member: information
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