Wow!! That is some story!!! Glad things have turned for the better with your daughter. That’s a tough road, to be sure. What a great mom and overall person you are to take care of your daughter in her time of need, and not scratch your ex-husband and ex-friends eyeballs out!!! Happy new year to you and many well wishes for a healthy 2019.
02 Jan 19 by member: lynnmriley68
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That is some tough stuff, for sure. Hang in there for your daughter. Glad you and ex can put your stuff aside for her sake. But also be kind to yourself and do not feel bad for allowing yourself to feel your feelings. Best wishes.
02 Jan 19 by member: jengetfit123
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That was a tough day! I can only imagine
02 Jan 19 by member: liv001
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Charlee, you’re a better woman than I am. God Bless you and your daughter. Happy New Year and may it be a wonderful one for you; you deserve it! {{{HUGS}}}
02 Jan 19 by member: Em GI
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Whew! I don't know what to say, except vent more if you need to. Forgiveness is wonderful but sometimes more difficult than losing weight. Hope you can let it go forever. Just remember that stress eating doesn't truly help.
02 Jan 19 by member: TomLong
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On the bright side. If you bit your tongue as much as I think you probably would have had to, it(your tongue) was too sore to eat too much later in the evening. You did this awesome thing for your daughter. Good for you. And, good luck moving forward from here...hugs to you and your daughter.
02 Jan 19 by member: To145
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Also, obviously your situation will be unique, but i hope you may be able to find someone to give you some respite from caregiving non-stop. A break might do wonders.
02 Jan 19 by member: jengetfit123
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You are a better woman than me. Good luck in the New Year!
02 Jan 19 by member: Fishingwidow
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wow, you are such a strong person! thank you for sharing. sending hugs your way
02 Jan 19 by member: mnols
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You are a better person than I. 🙏🏻
02 Jan 19 by member: Paula851976
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Stay strong! Your daughter is lucky to have you.
02 Jan 19 by member: andreaalarcon45
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Your story had me taking deep breaths while I read it. So tough in several aspects. I too admire your strength. I’m happy to hear your daughter is improving.
Take care of yourself first ... which is hard to do with children involved ... but just remember you will be so much more help to her the stronger you are.
I am just starting my journey here at FS and I too have difficulty with overeating in the evenings. Maybe we can exchange ideas on how to overcome the problem.
02 Jan 19 by member: TXSherryR
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You are an amazing mother and person.... I admire your strength.... I wish u an amazing new year! This might sound weird but I find brushing my teeth after every meal especially at night helps me with not eating at night... I don't know if it's the minty taste in my mouth tricking my brain to think I just ate sum thin mints lol or the fact that I don't feel like brushing my teeth again so I don't eat... I hope this helps u bc it's helped me tremendously
02 Jan 19 by member: mangokiwy
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I would have pulled her hair out and clawed her eyes out. The audacity!
You are a wonderful mother and humam being.
02 Jan 19 by member: HomeSlice18
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02 Jan 19 by member: Keilin_4
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Sending you the world's biggest hug from afar. It's amazing how those that hurt us seem to forget (block out?) over time what they've done, and try to carry on as if nothing happened. Hopefully at some point she'll acknowledge things and apologize and work the rest of her days to be as good to you as she can! You are such a brave and generous person to handle that situation the way you did - kudos to you. I hope your daughter continues to improve, so that you can move back to taking care of yourself! Blessings!!
02 Jan 19 by member: Allison155
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02 Jan 19 by member: FloridaAngel
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hugs and best thoughts to you and your girl .:)
02 Jan 19 by member: Jessie Quinn
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That was one tough day. I know how hard it is to care for a grown daughter who is breaking down. My daughter came through 4 years of awful complete with two children who needed caring for as well. Today she is making huge strides. The kids are doing well. I know I lived and breathed her pain for the 4 years. I am sure you are doing so as well. Find a place to vent ... here or to a friend. As for your ex-husband and his wife .... hard to be pleasant about that. You are completely within your rights to say that you do not wish to spend time with the wife. Your ex is fine since you have a mutual child to look out for. The ex's wife is another matter altogether. Great that you remained civil in that horrendous situation but you don't have to put up with that again. Instead of waiting for the ex to offer respite, why not ask for it? Give him a specific day and time that you need him to be with your daughter. You may be surprised. He may rise to the occasion.
02 Jan 19 by member: 59Carol
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No need to punish yourself, it is not a substitute for forgiving. Forgiving is not easy, but maybe you can have compassion instead. I know it sounds crazy, maybe even unfair. But to punish yourself by going against your true desires and in turn hurting your own self - that is not fair either.
02 Jan 19 by member: gvillefun
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